You're All Fake!

[ma****]

I joined FET to meet people without the immediate flirting, wanting sexual action and etc. I wanted to meet real, down to earth kinky people that I can relate to and build a friendship with, perhaps letting something blossom from that. But I’m not outright looking for anything sexual and it’s been stated in my bio. I’m new to the community and still learning where I fit it. And anytime I’d join other dating apps I’d immediately get countless DMs from men just looking for a quick fuck. Mostly blank pfp and immediately calling me sexy/hot etc. I only post SFW photos too. it’s gotten to the point where I have countless unopened messages on apps similar to this. And anytime I either ignore these people or respectfully tell them that I will not reply bc I am not interested, I get called names and told I’m fake.💀
I’ve sadly had some encounters like this here already. Thirst trap photos and immediately asking for pics or my snap. All I have visible to the public on here is me in a pup hood, I had to remove photos showing my face because I constantly got people just looking for sex immediately.

To add, I also have gotten to the point where I tell people I’m a lesbian even tho I am bi, aka I’m not into men at all, and they still push. Insane

[Ar****]

1 hour ago, madiigan said:

I joined FET to meet people without the immediate flirting, wanting sexual action and etc. I wanted to meet real, down to earth kinky people that I can relate to and build a friendship with, perhaps letting something blossom from that. But I’m not outright looking for anything sexual and it’s been stated in my bio. I’m new to the community and still learning where I fit it. And anytime I’d join other dating apps I’d immediately get countless DMs from men just looking for a quick fuck. Mostly blank pfp and immediately calling me sexy/hot etc. I only post SFW photos too. it’s gotten to the point where I have countless unopened messages on apps similar to this. And anytime I either ignore these people or respectfully tell them that I will not reply bc I am not interested, I get called names and told I’m fake.💀
I’ve sadly had some encounters like this here already. Thirst trap photos and immediately asking for pics or my snap. All I have visible to the public on here is me in a pup hood, I had to remove photos showing my face because I constantly got people just looking for sex immediately.

To add, I also have gotten to the point where I tell people I’m a lesbian even tho I am bi, aka I’m not into men at all, and they still push. Insane

Fetish used to be so much better for what you describe. The community really would connect, converse, take things slowly, interact, build up... that's been almost completely lost 😔

[Slave4you81]

And he will be the first to call people snowflakes. Nobody owes anyone anything irl or online. I find this site has less fakes than others and it's quite pleasant that it's not just another site advertising only fans models.
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[de****]

I came here to meet people with no expectations. Unfortunately my experience so far feels fake. The ladies who have reached out to me thus far seem very nice when we start chatting but the moment I mention I'm married they drop me like a bad habit. The problem is if they read my profile they would know that. They are reaching out based solely on my profile pic. I can only hope that is not the norm!

[DarkArts1066]

1 hour ago, denver24673 said:

I came here to meet people with no expectations. Unfortunately my experience so far feels fake. The ladies who have reached out to me thus far seem very nice when we start chatting but the moment I mention I'm married they drop me like a bad habit. The problem is if they read my profile they would know that. They are reaching out based solely on my profile pic. I can only hope that is not the norm!

You will unfortunately find that is the case on most platforms these days.


Try putting something to the effect of
“If you message me, please put the word “cucumber” in the subject line, so that I know you have read my profile. If you get more than one person per month adding the word, I would be surprised, sadly.

[de****]

3 minutes ago, DarkArts1066 said:

You will unfortunately find that is the case on most platforms these days.


Try putting something to the effect of
“If you message me, please put the word “cucumber” in the subject line, so that I know you have read my profile. If you get more than one person per month adding the word, I would be surprised, sadly.

Now you mention it I've done that other places. Will def have to go do that. I've found it works well haha

[Deleted Member]

On 2/11/2025 at 12:02 PM, madiigan said:

I joined FET to meet people without the immediate flirting, wanting sexual action and etc. I wanted to meet real, down to earth kinky people that I can relate to and build a friendship with, perhaps letting something blossom from that. But I’m not outright looking for anything sexual and it’s been stated in my bio. I’m new to the community and still learning where I fit it. And anytime I’d join other dating apps I’d immediately get countless DMs from men just looking for a quick fuck. Mostly blank pfp and immediately calling me sexy/hot etc. I only post SFW photos too. it’s gotten to the point where I have countless unopened messages on apps similar to this. And anytime I either ignore these people or respectfully tell them that I will not reply bc I am not interested, I get called names and told I’m fake.💀
I’ve sadly had some encounters like this here already. Thirst trap photos and immediately asking for pics or my snap. All I have visible to the public on here is me in a pup hood, I had to remove photos showing my face because I constantly got people just looking for sex immediately.

To add, I also have gotten to the point where I tell people I’m a lesbian even tho I am bi, aka I’m not into men at all, and they still push. Insane

The best thing about this site is the inbox filters. I used to get swamped with messages from people a few oceans away.

Now they only comment on my pictures because they are mad that they can't message me. Thanks but I don't want anything to do with anyone who disregards my boundaries. Not being able to message me is the same as no thanks, not interested 

[de****]

I changed my home location and edited my profile. In the last 2 days I've had 4 different "women" all supposedly in Pretty Prairie KS message me. The last one was sending incoherent messages then ask to chat somewhere off Fet. When I denied the next thing she asked for was my email. Nope! You're done. Some are subtle and then some are totally obvious. But I absolutely get your point!

[Pe****]

It does take a while to navigate through all the ‘unreals’. I’m still tiptoeing around. I agree though, as alluring as some appear, best to error on caution.

[de****]

59 minutes ago, TheMacabreBrat said:

The best thing about this site is the inbox filters. I used to get swamped with messages from people a few oceans away.

Now they only comment on my pictures because they are mad that they can't message me. Thanks but I don't want anything to do with anyone who disregards my boundaries. Not being able to message me is the same as no thanks, not interested 

I did know that was even an option. Now that I know I will def have figure out how to do that. I did add 2 questions in my description the potential chatters have to answer before I will chat with them now.

[ey****]

1 hour ago, denver24673 said:

I changed my home location and edited my profile. In the last 2 days I've had 4 different "women" all supposedly in Pretty Prairie KS message me. The last one was sending incoherent messages then ask to chat somewhere off Fet. When I denied the next thing she asked for was my email. Nope! You're done. Some are subtle and then some are totally obvious. But I absolutely get your point!

they're not reading your profile because they're scammers

that's why they're trying to take you off site 

[de****]

2 minutes ago, eyemblacksheep said:

they're not reading your profile because they're scammers

that's why they're trying to take you off site 

Exactly why I made changes to my profile and changed settings for inbox. May not weed them all out, but it'll help 

[fu****]

Beautifully written and you got it exactly right! Thank you for the thoughts

[Ba****]

I will never be in a rush to meet especially considering some of the kinks i enjoy. If that makes me fake then so be it but I'm not putting my safety at risk to make some chode feel better.

[Deleted Member]

That's Quite eloquently put.

[fu****]

17 hours ago, BatterBaker71 said:

I will never be in a rush to meet especially considering some of the kinks i enjoy. If that makes me fake then so be it but I'm not putting my safety at risk to make some chode feel better.

I think being cautious ensures different than jerking people around and wasting people's time or leading them to believe that you have the intent on meeting when all you really want is New pictures to jack your dick to.. smh

[Br****]

I find people who say "You're all fake" are just the ones who don't get responses due to not putting any effort into their profile or the community.

[Li****]

Happy to see that I'm real, I'd be miffed if I was a bot! Really well put!

[fu****]

Tuesday at 01:01 AM, BritishExistence said:

I find people who say "You're all fake" are just the ones who don't get responses due to not putting any effort into their profile or the community.

That's BS I gets messages every day now the quality of the person messaging is another story or they decide to be picture-gatherers just collecting pictures with no intent on meeting, or actually try to meet but make tons of excuses. And then if you even get them here theyre pictures are 5- 10 years old, and they definitely don't live up to their profile I not even in the least bit

[Ki****]

Facts

[Br****]

13 hours ago, funSpunBitch81 said:

That's BS I gets messages every day now the quality of the person messaging is another story or they decide to be picture-gatherers just collecting pictures with no intent on meeting, or actually try to meet but make tons of excuses. And then if you even get them here theyre pictures are 5- 10 years old, and they definitely don't live up to their profile I not even in the least bit

Your experience is very different from mine. For that reason, I apologise and will alter it to say "Based on my personal experience,"

[de****]

Wednesday at 10:49 PM, funSpunBitch81 said:

That's BS I gets messages every day now the quality of the person messaging is another story or they decide to be picture-gatherers just collecting pictures with no intent on meeting, or actually try to meet but make tons of excuses. And then if you even get them here theyre pictures are 5- 10 years old, and they definitely don't live up to their profile I not even in the least bit

I totally get what you're seeing just from a different perspective. As a male I generally don't get picture-gatherers. I get 3-4 messages back and forth then they want jump off site to message. When I get that from 4 different people in some backwater town in KS yeah that's sketchy. And most don't even read your profile. I put a couple questions in mine now they have to answer before I will even talk to them. At least get to know me for more than 5 min. And read the damn profile. They're not even into the same kinks so why bother. All you can do is keep yourself safe and ignore the scammers, picture-gatherers and whatever other idiots!!!

[sm****]

I agree with 90% of this...my only exception is that I would like to be perused like an object at the supermarket but that's kind of the point isn't it

[Deleted Member]

I also agree with you.. I have gotten more ladies wanting to talk to me from thousands of miles away. After about 3-4 conversations they want to take it offline. To WhatsApp or some other chat line.
At that point they than start asking for gift cards and gifts. I at that point block them completely.
When you ask to meet at a public watering hole they decline saying they are busy.

[Ka****]

I think fet has sadly become just like any other dating app, with the rise of kink in the media there's a myth that kink means sex on tap. Kink is mutual respect, exploration, vulnerability, communication.

The amount of demands I get for sex is soul destroying, am I really worth nothing more? Note - demands, not even an ask. Then comms the none sexual messaging in which it quickly becomes apparent either communication is lacking or they've literally nothing going on for themselves. Then comes the rare few who get through... they think kink is spanking, choking and roughness. I thought the B would be pretty common here but can I find someone who's into shibari here? Nope. Those that are, its theoretical, they will learn it if it means they get to f*** me. Its so transactional... that's why I opened my profile to women, I'm straight, so ate they. In real life when I explore kink and shibari it's the women who seem actually into the fundamentals of kink, whereas the men just seem to be thinking with the wrong head... even men 40+ conduct themselves like horny, out of control ***agers.

I hope to meet like minded people here, I've been here almost a year... but so far, siiiigh!