Deleted Member Posted February 12, 2023 Posted February 12, 2023 Mine just has switch and DD at the bottom of it with a black heart
ar**** Posted February 12, 2023 Posted February 12, 2023 Well at the end of the day it all depends on what you want to accomplish with your statement. If you don't mention kinks openly, there will always be people who think you're allergic to vanilla flavor foods, or that you like to play Dungeon Defenders on the Nintendo Switch. 😂
Lu**** Posted February 12, 2023 Author Posted February 12, 2023 53 minutes ago, HeavyMetalChris said: Mine just has switch and DD at the bottom of it with a black heart I thought about the Hearts emojis but I don't think many people would know what the different colour represents
ar**** Posted February 12, 2023 Posted February 12, 2023 4 minutes ago, LunaMaeve said: I thought about the Hearts emojis but I don't think many people would know what the different colour represents Haha, that's me! I googled it, and neither Wikihow nor Cosmopolitan's definition matches: "Most often used ironically, the black heart is a symbol of deep, embarrassing, romantic love." 😜
Deleted Member Posted February 12, 2023 Posted February 12, 2023 7 minutes ago, LunaMaeve said: I thought about the Hearts emojis but I don't think many people would know what the different colour represents Thing is though you're not looking for the vanilla people on there ( I assume) do anyone who actually is kinky should already understand what they mean
ar**** Posted February 12, 2023 Posted February 12, 2023 If you're not looking for vanilla people on there, then you may want to use actual wording that vanilla people can understand. Your words will then act as a gatekeeping filter.
Lu**** Posted February 12, 2023 Author Posted February 12, 2023 I'm definitely not looking for vanilla people, they have to be at least alittle bit kinky or open minded
Lu**** Posted February 12, 2023 Author Posted February 12, 2023 1 hour ago, arnhem961 said: Haha, that's me! I googled it, and neither Wikihow nor Cosmopolitan's definition matches: "Most often used ironically, the black heart is a symbol of deep, embarrassing, romantic love." 😜 I Googled it too and the answers have been inconsistent, will be sticking to words
ar**** Posted February 12, 2023 Posted February 12, 2023 I've seen some people on okc explicitly stating something like "Only contact me if you are familiar with D/sub or DD/LG. I don't answer to vanilla. "
da**** Posted February 13, 2023 Posted February 13, 2023 I’m on vanilla dating sites and I’ll use phrases that someone in the lifestyle will cue in on 1. Bonus points if you know what RACK stands for 2. Believe the man should lead the relationship 3. Vanilla belongs in the kitchen It’s like any other “requirement “ for compatibility. You just have to look and chat
Ru**** Posted February 23, 2023 Posted February 23, 2023 Have you heard of the BDSM triskelion/emblem?
Deleted Member Posted February 23, 2023 Posted February 23, 2023 1 hour ago, RubMM96 said: Have you heard of the BDSM triskelion/emblem? Please share
ey**** Posted February 24, 2023 Posted February 24, 2023 6 hours ago, PillowPrincess1 said: Please share if you google triskelion you'll get a lot of variations of the design
Ru**** Posted February 24, 2023 Posted February 24, 2023 8 hours ago, PillowPrincess1 said: Please share https://www.dreamstime.com/illustration/bdsm-triskelion.html https://fetjeweller.com/pages/about-the-bdsm-triskelion
Lu**** Posted February 24, 2023 Author Posted February 24, 2023 15 hours ago, RubMM96 said: Have you heard of the BDSM triskelion/emblem? No but will look into now
UK**** Posted February 24, 2023 Posted February 24, 2023 On 2/11/2023 at 12:23 AM, LunaMaeve said: I've decided to try a vanilla dating app. Can I ask why? What is it that kinky dating sites are missing?
ar**** Posted February 24, 2023 Posted February 24, 2023 9 minutes ago, UK_Knight said: Can I ask why? What is it that kinky dating sites are missing? I'd guess exposure. Most people should have heard about Tinder, Grindr, OkCupid, Bumble, Badoo and the likes. To me, Fet is quite a niche.
sm**** Posted February 24, 2023 Posted February 24, 2023 Iv'e used a few vanilla dating apps, and you will find quite a few subtle hints in them if your really looking and reading and not just going off a profile picture. There are more using nilla apps than people realise. If your not afraid you can add a few subtle hints in your own profile description. But like here, patience is a virtue.
BruiseWayne Posted February 24, 2023 Posted February 24, 2023 IMHO I don't think you really need to be beating around the bush these days. Just be open and direct. If you just like the idea of being a bit subtle and a lil more low key/wanna be clever then sure, go that route, I just don't really think it's necessary.
Lu**** Posted February 24, 2023 Author Posted February 24, 2023 3 hours ago, UK_Knight said: Can I ask why? What is it that kinky dating sites are missing? For a couple of reasons I decided to join one... 1)bigger pool of potential people. 2)apart from FET and FL (which isn't specifically for dating) I don't know any other kinky sites/apps 3)I'm still very new in my kink exploration, I consider myself as vanilla with kink vs kink with vanilla.
UK**** Posted February 24, 2023 Posted February 24, 2023 Bigger pool but when you subset with an overlay of kink as a requirement is it now bigger or more sh*t to filter out? I'm not knocking the approach, I just know from my own 'needle in a haystack' past, that I would much rather know the kink is there and find the other parts of a relationship that matter too, than start finding someone who so matches other parts but is missing the most vital (for me) part. I have been there and still have (the very old t-shirt)
Lu**** Posted February 24, 2023 Author Posted February 24, 2023 I'm treating it like a controlled science e experiment
Deleted Member Posted February 26, 2023 Posted February 26, 2023 I've had a profile on a well known dating site for years (on and off) I don't mention any kinks on there because I have face photos there (and a public facing job) surprisingly I've still managed to stumble upon several kinky folk or maybe they tripped over my profile and just took a chance? Still not found the 'right one' yet...
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