Orgasms. Who doesn't want more of them or even have multiple orgasms? Some people with vulvas have no problem coming, but others find it impossible. Victoria Blisse explores the secrets to ultimate self-pleasure, how to have multiple orgasms, squirting, and more...

 

In 2011 a study found that between 5-10% of vulva owners experienced anorgasmia at some point in their lives. Anorgasmia is the medical term for being unable to orgasm, and up to 80% of women or vulva owners cannot achieve orgasm from vaginal penetration alone.
 

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Indeed, orgasms aren't always easy to achieve, but one way to increase your chance of them is to try masturbation and self-pleasure to find out what really gets you off. Once you have conquered this first step you will be on your way to finding out how to have multiple orgasms

 

OK, so what are multiple orgasms? 

Some of us may think multiple orgasms are a myth, but, believe me, they exist! Multiple orgasms are something that people of all genders can enjoy. Usually, having multiple orgasms refers to having more than one orgasm during one sexual sitting. While they can happen in quick succession, one after the other, after the other (if you're particularly lucky!), they can also be spaced out, with the person remaining aroused in between. 

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Blow your mind: tips on how to have multiple orgasms

 

It's thought that those of us vulva owners can actually have up to five or more orgasms in a row. Indeed, most women are thought to have the capacity to have multiple orgasms, but past research suggests that only up to 15% actually do. So, why is that, and what can be done to improve those statistics (and your ability to climax more!)?

 

First off: masturbation must-dos 

Before learning how to have multiple orgasms, we need to understand how to properly practise self-love. Really make time for masturbation and enjoy it thoroughly (rather than a quick flick). You should never feel shame for masturbation – it's an act of self-care. Incorporating mindful masturbation into your self-pleasure routine will help you to understand what turns you on the most and really linger in the experience. 
 

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Perhaps start with a shower or relaxing bath and put on your favorite body lotion or wear lingerie that makes you feel sexy. It's all about finding what works best for you. Try out different female masturbation techniques and positions to find out what really makes you horny.

 

“Before learning how to have multiple orgasms, we need to understand how to practise self-love. Make time for masturbation and enjoy it thoroughly.”

 

Concentrate on your pleasure for now. Don't worry if you don't achieve an orgasm. Just take note of what really turns you on and the bodily sensations. Take your time and don't get upset if you don't come. Stressing over what you need to do to have an orgasm won't help in the hunt for pleasure.


    How to have multiple orgasms: 5 top tips

    There's no one trick or tried and tested way to guarantee multiple orgasms for women. That's because we are all unique, and our lovely vulvas all respond differently to varieties of stimulation. However, this does mean we have lots of fun things to try out in our quest for achieving more climaxes. 
     

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    If you're a clitoral stimulation fan, join the club! Most vulva owners really need that to be able to climax. However, stimulating the clit is not the only way to achieve multiple orgasms. Here are four other ideas:
     

    1. Practise makes perfect

    When you do find out what gets you off, keep practising it. The more you masturbate, the more comfortable you become with your own body and its turn-ons, the more likely you'll be able to achieve multiple orgasms in the future.

     

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    Remember, there are many ways to cum, and you might feel different types of orgasms at other parts of your menstrual cycle, or it might depend on which part of your body is being stimulated. If you have a partner and you enjoy wanking each other, indulging in mutual masturbation may also mean your partner can literally lend a hand (!) in helping you to find out what gets you really turned on and therefore be more likely to achieve multiple orgasms. 

     

    2. G-spot stimulation

    Inside the vagina, along the top around an inch or so, is a little bump that swells with arousal and feels good. This G-spot is actually the other end of the clitoris. It's a beautiful wishbone shape, and some people find that stimulation of this area can result in powerful orgasms.


    Others find it orgasmic but not strongly, yet more people don't respond at all. When it comes to having multiple orgasms, it's definitely worth trying, though, and there are many G-spot stimulator sex toys out there. However, a come hither motion with the fingers can do the trick just as well, too! 

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    G marks the spot: female ejaculation can be achieved

     

    3. Utilize your pelvic floor muscles

    The pelvic floor muscles play a key role in orgasms. If you can contract and release your pelvic floor muscles – so-called Kegel exercises – you may be able to achieve multiple orgasms. But how to contract them? Think about drawing your vaginal opening up your body, towards your belly area.

     

    “Most women are thought to have the capacity to have multiple orgasms, but past research suggests that only up to 15% actually do.”


    Then, during orgasm, squeeze these muscles during each contraction of your orgasm. Some vulva owners find that doing this can prolong the big 'o', or even produce multiple orgasms. 

     

    4. Orgasm denial

    While this tip might seem counterintuitive at first, building towards orgasm and then stopping just before it hits – so-called edging – can make the resulting orgasm super powerful when you finally allow it to come. Edging may also increase your chances of having multiple orgasms. So, while denying yourself an orgasm at first may seem silly, it can actually pay off in dividends and may, in fact, help you to have multiple orgasms. 

       

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      5. Forced orgasms

      The last thing you might want to do is push on after an orgasm, but trying other stimulation and continuing past your own comfort zone may lead to more orgasms than you might typically have; it might even feel like torture! Those of a sadomasochistic bent might enjoy this. 


      What about squirting?

      Although not something every vulva owner can do, squirting is basically female ejaculation. It's often debated what the fluid squirted actually contains, but it's never just pee. In fact, it can be diluted urine or ejaculate from the Skene's gland, or a mixture of both. Here are some tips for vulva-owners on how to squirt:

       

      • Preparation Go to the toilet, so you don't worry about peeing and put something down to keep your bed dry (thick towels, plastic sheets or something from Sheets of San Francisco). Or, perhaps try in the bath, then squirting during orgasm doesn't have to be a worry at all.
         
      • Techniques G-spot stimulation seems to be a key element in squirting. Many sex toys can help you find yours or simply use your fingers. Some people need clitoral stimulation, too, so experiment. 
         
      • Relax The sensation of an ejaculating orgasm building can feel like you need to pee, but push through to the orgasm beyond. 
         

      Can men be multiorgasmic?

      It’s commonly thought that those of us with a penis are unable to have multiple orgasms due to the so-called 'refractory period'. After ejaculation, men's bodies usually experience a period of rest whereby they do not become sexually aroused again. However, some men’s refractory periods are short – only a few minutes! But for others, the recovery time can be much longer. 
       

      The final FET: how to have multiple orgasms 

      Multiple orgasms are not always easy to achieve for women. Indeed, for some of us vulva-owners, learning how to have a multiple orgasm might seem an impossible task when we often fail to even have one! But by following my self-pleasure tips above you should be on the way to learning more about what really makes you cum.
       

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      And if you're somebody that is lucky enough to have multiple orgasms, then please share your tips below on what really does the trick for you! •


      Victoria Blisse was an erotic author and sex-positive Reverend. She helped shape fetish.com and FET from the very beginning and we're eternally grateful for her passion and creativity. Sadly, she passed away in January 2024. We hope that whenever her articles are read, she'll be honored.
       

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      I like holding off for 2 weeks or close to month so that I have a godly load
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      Lo****

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      Its more than 5 in a row. I did 6 in 10mins from manual stimulation. Hitachi wand even more. But make sure u have self discipline thats the reason god gave us this gift because men have no self control.
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      Advice for multi clit Orgasms is a hitachi wand and watch porn for foreplay. Dont remove the wand after u cum and ride it out. It will feel really sensitive/intense.
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      Learned something new, apparently my "refractory period" as a male is broken, lol, I'll ejac at least 3 times before I say one session is over.

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      Voodooqueen

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      The info is okay to begin with.

      But, it is incomplete.

      what I  know from  my personal experience is that females can have 8  different  kind of orgasms, and males 5 different  kinds of orgasms.

       You can find it in Kamasutra, ore taostic  sexbible.

      there  is also a book called "The multi orgastic couple "

       

       

       

       

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      I can't orgasm fromy own manual stimulation. I've become numb to my own touch. If I orgasm to vibrators, I can't orgasm to a penis. Then I have to not have sex for a long period to reset my body's senses. I have noticed I orgasm hard after there is cum in me after 15 min. And I get my cervix rubbed/bumped by a penis. After that I can orgasm multiple times. I get high when there is cum in me. It's them hormones in there.
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      Making a women squirt takes patience extended foreplay ,orgasm denial , plenty of lube,reassurance and open communication with your partner
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      I’ve never squirted, despite every trick in the book. Grrrrr
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      I usually make my dates multiple and squirt!
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      I ware an EDDIE ring that make me stay hard and super sensitive, and I can last a long time without cuming. I wish I could nut more, help?
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      Im one of those who have no g spot sensation but multiple Os is the norm for me and have even squirted, though more rarely, through clitoral stim. Edging helps make them even stronger, and trying not have an O, by that I mean I imagine trying to stop it from happening instead of relaxing into it, which leads to my muscles tensing up down there and I guess is what kegals is and didnt even realize that was what it was when I was doing it, lol. I wonder if that is why some find rape fantasies and cnc so appealing as they usually include forced orgasms with the woman fighting against it and trying not to come in defiance.
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      HOW ?! I have tried most of this and can’t still
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      Keep practicing walking on water I say…😂😂😂
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      Alcohol works too. If I've been drinking I can stay erect and have two or three

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      Copper

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      What about the men who have learned how to do this? 😈😜😈 With a bit of practice and a little technique (mostly controlling your breath), I can confirm that a guy can learn how to have multiple and continuous orgasms!
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      I always thought that multiple orgasms were a myth until I hit my forties !
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      RagDoll69

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      uber helpful. i can squirt and i can have multiples but i am going to take this advice to improve my chances on a day to day basis. 

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