Would women pay for sex/oral

[Am****]

Ok I’m sorry I see your point sorry I do have lots to learn and just in a frustrated mood with females as I find it so hard to find a match here. I get if I was more open and understanding I would have a better chance here

[Clarakink]

1 minute ago, Aman94 said:

Ok I’m sorry I see your point sorry I do have lots to learn and just in a frustrated mood with females as I find it so hard to find a match here. I get if I was more open and understanding I would have a better chance here

That's a good place to start from.

[Clarakink]

That's a good place to start from.

Just reflect on your own actions and that might help.

I have to do that. We all do. We are not all knowing or perfect.

But we can learn.

Good luck.

[do****]

You ladies are better men than me 🤷🏾‍♂️ I do not have the energy anymore. Too many FET-MOD warnings. I must be on my best behavior 🤣😂

[do****]

7 minutes ago, Aman94 said:

Ok I’m sorry I see your point sorry I do have lots to learn and just in a frustrated mood with females as I find it so hard to find a match here. I get if I was more open and understanding I would have a better chance here

That's some real man shit right there. Respect

[do****]

5 minutes ago, Clarakink said:

That's a good place to start from.

Just reflect on your own actions and that might help.

I have to do that. We all do. We are not all knowing or perfect.

But we can learn.

Good luck.

Self reflection is the best reflection. The more you know you, the more you can do 🤷🏾‍♂️

[Fr****]

8 minutes ago, Aman94 said:

Ok I’m sorry I see your point sorry I do have lots to learn and just in a frustrated mood with females as I find it so hard to find a match here. I get if I was more open and understanding I would have a better chance here

Believe me, i get that it can be both hard and frustrating, but i promise you that letting that frustration shine through only makes things immeasurably worse.
Take a deep breath, remember that every single person is an individual and that there's no such thing as "women" as a blanket label.
Every single person you meet deserves to be dealt with as unique individuals and should never be made to carry the baggage of previous experiences.

I get that it's hard.
But it's the only way it works

[Fr****]

And hey. I figured out how to quote :)

[Deleted Member]

On 5/31/2023 at 8:07 PM, Clarakink said:

You >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>> [ Removed by FETMOD ]

I would gladly give just oral to women without expecting anything in return 

[d3****]

It’s called male submission and no you most likely will not get paid

[ey****]

8 hours ago, Aman94 said:

Ok I’m sorry in my comments were sort of rude but I think what I said has some truth to it. Why would any woman pay for oral if they didn’t have to? I think that a total valid point and if woman don’t like it sorry. I want not trying to be sexiest at all.

I think (and I say this as a man commenting - ha) this is one of the things alluded to about the amount of men commenting on this post.

That a lot of men project, or make assumptions - without having valid experience.

there is someone's story which fascinated me a while ago - it was basically a lady who was meeting up with relative strangers for, in her case, foot worship.  Partially a little bit was that she empathised with the frustrations some men had in finding someone for "just" play - and on another hand she really enjoyed having her feet worshipped.   So, she'd talk to guys and meet up with a view that they would come, indulge in the mutual enjoyment of the foot worship, then leave.

For every one guy who respected that, there were three who did not.   Who would think because it meant something to them, that it did to her.  That they would push for more. That in some cases wouldn't leave after done - and not necessarily in an openly threatening way but persistent ("we can grab a coffee, go out for lunch, whatever") which isn't always as nice as it might seem - it's still pushing on what was previously agreed boundaries.

In her case - it got to a point where she just had to stop.  Because the majority of men who think they can work with a casual arrangement, can't.   So in her case - actually - if she had have paid someone, she could have what she wanted on her terms.

There's another lady I remember when I first joined fetlife who really wanted to try sploshing - and - of course, she got absolutely bucket loads of offers - desperate horny men who would get to indulge their fetish and with someone who wanted to try and hadn't done it before.   But there wasn't anything convinced her about any of them - and with a possibility that she was being treat as a novelty and/or these guys might have wanted something she otherwise couldn't provide - she ended up sacking everyone off and paying a guy to do it with her.

Cos, paying someone was a better option than settling for someone that it wouldn't work with.  

There's countless other examples.

Of course as I say, it's a common male fantasy to be able to get paid for sex, or a specific sex act they enjoy, when the reality is that as a career option there's a lot more work than that.

[De****]

9 hours ago, Clarakink said:

Thank you Duchess, we have a duty to maintain our kink lifestyle, nurture the naive and ignorant (we have all been there) turf out the wanna be idiots and show the red card to those who do not hold true to the values that are just basic and non negotiable.

I was very controlled. I could have unleashed hell, but there is no learning to be gained from that.
Fingers crossed on this one that it has been a moment of enlightenment. Xx

Thank you for this, I get the impression it's some people's purpose on here to 'unleash hell' on strangers and as you say, there's no learning to be had from that, or intelligent discourse for that matter

[De****]

12 hours ago, CopperKnob said:

I love how, a question aimed at women, about women, is being answered by men 🙄

I agree, it's a shame more women don't answer questions like this

[ey****]

1 hour ago, eoinexploring said:

I agree, it's a shame more women don't answer questions like this

let's be honest though.  If a woman came on and said that she did, or would, then her inbox will be filled with guys offering to save her *** by doing it for free.  such is often the toxic nature of things like this. 

[ka****]

Yes there would be a market, so if a girl/lady doesn’t want to “raise her numbers” or “body count” however … I’m not sure about payment. The only way to know if by trying it out ! … be safe 😉

[Ch****]

On 5/31/2023 at 8:07 PM, Clarakink said:

You >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>> [ Removed by FETMOD ]

Can I ask why a sexual preference is considered misogynistic?

Maybe all this is cnc

He was a bit raw in the way of letting it know, but he just expressed his preference.

I think the the other way around nobody would consider it misandric..

[Je****]

15 hours ago, Aman94 said:

Lucky woman and hell no they wouldn’t. Why pay for it when you could get it from any single guy if they will let the man fuck them. I don’t give her oral if I’m not getting my dick in her.

Had  to read this 3 times as I thought it was a joke. 

You are very selfish and quite frankly scary. This mindset would be me off men entirely. Thank god you don't speak for the masses. Just gross.

[Je****]

15 hours ago, FreudianSlip76 said:

I was not aware that my gender invalidated my lived experience

The forums are for everyone. Don't feel that you cannot answer a question aimed at a gender in which you don't identify. Anyone who has issue, that's their problem. You comment as and where you want. I am sure OP would like to maybe hear from fellow guys who have maybe had or been interested in this service or idea. 

[Je****]

13 hours ago, Aman94 said:

Ok I’m sorry in my comments were sort of rude but I think what I said has some truth to it. Why would any woman pay for oral if they didn’t have to? I think that a total valid point and if woman don’t like it sorry. I want not trying to be sexiest at all.

Because some women like the taboo of paying for sex/ual favours off a guy. The discretion and excitement of it. Not just men pay for prostitutes, whores (my fave word) or escorts. Women can get fulfilment from paying for sex just as much as men. 

Why would men pay a woman for sex when there's a perfectly fine single grandma, or gay / curious man living next door who would suck their dick?? 

 

[Je****]

My own response to the topic, would I pay for oral, no. Not at this stage in life anyway. My partner is the best I have ever had where oral comes in, and for me, it's my favourite thing. I love tongues (big oral fixation) and if I were to pay, I think I'd be embarrassed paying for oral, because it would get me off in less than a minute hahaha. 

But, that being said, I have considered Sex Work myself and I think as part of that, I'd welcome a guy or girl to go down on me. Being an escort or sex worker I find exciting but I do not have the confidence (in body and mind) to go through with it. But if I ever did pay, I'd need to select the guy who would be "servicing" me, as I cannot get off regardless unless I find them visually attractive to me. Complicated me but oh well haha. Never say never. 

[Je****]

16 minutes ago, Charlie218 said:

Can I ask why a sexual preference is considered misogynistic?

Maybe all this is cnc

He was a bit raw in the way of letting it know, but he just expressed his preference.

I think the the other way around nobody would consider it misandric..

He said he wouldn't lick a woman unless he gets his dick wet basically. That's not preference, it reads as a selfish entitlement, and it is screaming, if a woman won't be used for sex then fuck that. That's how I have read it anyway.

[Ch****]

32 minutes ago, Finally_Jen said:

He said he wouldn't lick a woman unless he gets his dick wet basically. That's not preference, it reads as a selfish entitlement, and it is screaming, if a woman won't be used for sex then fuck that. That's how I have read it anyway.

Well if this would be consensual, no one would be using no one.

This is not specified in the post..
I don’t see it as selfish, he likes to get his dick “wet”, nobody is ***d to accept this condition..

If a woman would say “ I just take his dick if he licks my pussy” or “ if he doesn’t fuck me I won’t suck his dick” would this considered misandric?

[Je****]

53 minutes ago, Charlie218 said:

Well if this would be consensual, no one would be using no one.

This is not specified in the post..
I don’t see it as selfish, he likes to get his dick “wet”, nobody is ***d to accept this condition..

If a woman would say “ I just take his dick if he licks my pussy” or “ if he doesn’t fuck me I won’t suck his dick” would this considered misandric?

I'd say the exact same thing if a woman said it about a man. I do not agree it's a nice thing to say, AT all.

[QXX666]

21 hours ago, sadhornybassist said:

I've often wondered about becoming a male prostitute (let's face it, which straight male hasn't considered this) but whilst also satisfying my kinks (I don't know if you could call it that but I absolutely cannot get enough of giving a girl oral sex)

Would there be a market per se for specifically guys giving oral sex to women?

Best way to find out is to do it. I am not sure how long you would be doing it thought as it’s a tedious tongue twisting exercise if you do it few hours a day and everyday…. Also medically could be heavy on your mouth health… women are protected by a condom but men 🤷‍♂️

[Je****]

1 minute ago, QXX666 said:

Best way to find out is to do it. I am not sure how long you would be doing it thought as it’s a tedious tongue twisting exercise if you do it few hours a day and everyday…. Also medically could be heavy on your mouth health… women are protected by a condom but men 🤷‍♂️

Dental Dam............