Important note: I am not currently looking for/exploring connections. I just don't want to delete my profile yet. I need to take some timeout.
I am also on Fetlife where I have more indepth writings ✍️ My username is Sovareth 😊
I'm relatively new to the lifestyle and still finding my feet, learning more about myself and discovering where I fit. I strongly identify with the submissive/slave side of submission, although I'm still exploring what that means for me, particularly within a genuine D/s relationship. I'm also discovering my masochistic side along the way.
My main interests include impact play, particularly spanking and whipping, as well as bondage and restraint, although there are quite a few others listed in my fetishes.
I'm a single Mum, Christian, tall (5ft 10), a big girl (150kg — although I'm working on changing that) with a love of reading, music and the great outdoors. I value meaningful and intelligent conversations just as much as some lighthearted fun.
I'm a strong and independent woman, although I can be a little quiet to begin with. There are a lot of layers to me, and I don't necessarily show all of them straight away. Getting to know me properly takes time, patience and genuine connection.
Relationship/Dynamic
- I am strictly monogamous.
- I'm looking for my person — a genuine relationship alongside the D/s dynamic.
- I'm looking for a D/s dynamic initially, with the possibility of eventually developing into M/s if that feels right for both of us.
- I want that dynamic to grow from friendship, attraction, trust, emotional intimacy and a deep connection, rather than being rushed
- I am NOT looking for an online relationship.
Submission isn't about weakness for me. It's about being strong enough to consciously choose to surrender something incredibly precious to someone I trust deeply.
I'm looking for a man who is a Dom at his core, rather than someone simply playing a role. Someone naturally confident, protective and decisive, but also emotionally intelligent, self-aware and emotionally available.
Honesty, kindness, integrity, loyalty, respect and accountability matter enormously to me. I want a man whose words and actions match; someone who communicates openly, takes responsibility when he's wrong, treats people with respect and brings the time, energy, consistency and commitment needed to build an actual relationship.
I want a man whose Dominance makes me feel safe enough to surrender, rather than small enough to obey. Someone whose strength is reassuring, whose tenderness makes me feel loved and whose presence makes me feel that I can finally let my guard down.
I'm attracted to that natural, quiet Dominance — the things that don't necessarily need explaining. A look that says “mine”, a firm hand, the way he carries himself, his voice, a hand around my neck as he kisses me. I want to feel his Dominance without him having to perform it. His protection makes me feel safer, not smaller; his possessiveness makes me feel cherished, not controlled.
In my 40 years, not one person has known me in my entirety. I have so many layers. To eventually feel safe enough and secure enough to surrender my mind, body, heart and soul fully would be quite something for me — and quite a responsibility for the man I entrust it to.
I don't expect that trust instantly. I want it earned.
I want someone with the patience, care and endurance to get to know me properly, learn me, understand my boundaries and guide me as I grow into my submission. I want a relationship where the deeper the trust becomes, the deeper the submission can become.
And I want to be that woman for him too. I want to be someone he can trust, rely on and be *** with; someone who makes him feel wanted, respected and appreciated. I want to serve him because I love him, submit because I trust him, and ultimately belong to him because I have chosen him.
Character is far more important to me than physical traits, but I won't pretend I don't have a type. I tend to be particularly submissive to men who happen to be over 6'2", bearded and tattooed. Add a deep voice and a strong build and I'm probably going to struggle to behave. 😉
I respect everyone's choices, but I am not looking for online-only relationships, threesomes, polyamory, hookups, casual play partners (particularly those already in open relationships), or exhibitionists/porn.
I'm also unlikely to continue conversations that are purely sexual in nature. While I understand that compatibility matters from both a D/s and vanilla perspective, I want to get to know the man before I get lost in the Dominant.
Photos/Privacy
I won't be posting identifiable photos of myself on this platform. I do have a private gallery for limited viewing. I definitely will not be posting/sending any explicit photos.
Messages
Please only message if you intend to have a normal conversation