Find kinky women in California

Hey! I'm a California girl, natural blonde, and am normal and nice at first glance... but I have had a kinky streak and fantasies for as long as I can remember. I love being submissive. There's something so erotic about yielding myself and giving over control for another's pleasure! I've experienced bondage (including at a club in CA a few times), and hot wax, collar and leash, spanking, and some electro stimulation. Sometimes I've thought about leaving it behind but keep coming back to BDSM like it's oxygen for my soul... Yes, I'm married. No, he doesn't know. He works a ton and is as vanilla as can be when it comes to sex. And I just want more. A lot more. I've done MFM and loved it, and would love to try a group or gangbang someday.
Female (36) Redwood City, California
✨Just a Dom Goddess in a little black dress. ✨I’m not a regular goddess, I’m an expensive one. ✨Only approach (accordingly) if you’re here to serve. ✨I’ll leave you on read, so come correct. ✨To serve go follow me on X (***). ✨Just like my wine, the older the better. ✨Let me put my heels to your neck. ✨Let me sit on your face.
Female (29) San Diego, California
*I am here to keep track of events and existing friendships.* ** DO NOT ASK ME TO BE YOUR DOM/MISTRESS/GODDESS/ETC. Same goes for addressing me with any of those descriptors. I'm not here for that, and I am so far from interested in people who approach me for a relationship that it's not even funny.*** Let my mail rating serve as an example of how I don't suffer idiots. If you come into my inbox with the intent of getting me to stroke your kink, I will not put up with it. I'm open to people who need more actual info about the community, or looking for resources. I'm basically asexual, so please don't start a convo with what you'd like to do to me. Openers about my appearance will only succeed in getting an eye roll. In real life, I'm a wannabe homesteader, Wastelander, cosplayer, prepper, geek, fail-gardener, and mother. I like the isolation that comes from living off the beaten path, where I can raise a family in peace and back to nature as I grew up. Years ago, I was labeled a pseudo extrovert, and it seems to fit quite well. The docs also slapped me on the spectrum as an aspie, so I've got that going for me! In kink life, I fill the role of Amazon Dom with my kitten. There are many fetishes that I wander through, and I seem to discover something new and fun every other week. However, just because I enjoy a kink with the people I love doesn't mean I will enjoy it with others. The connection that I have with my significant others is unique to me, so outside of a scene, I do not play with strangers. Add me, follow me, or message me - it's all good! Just don't be a dickweed, and I won't eat your face. ❤ **Desires and Fantasies** Someone who can read a profile would be a good start. All of my kink and romantic needs are fulfilled by the wonderful people in my life, so I am NOT looking to add anyone else to my personal dance card at this point. My time management skills are shit, and with the perpetually busy days that come with adulting, I want to dedicate every bit of free time that I have to my existing polycule.
Female (37) Camptonville, California
Hi! 🎀IG :gothfairyluvv ⛓️🖤OF: moon-kitten You can call me Moon or Kitten. I love shibari/rope play/kinbaku. I enjoy bdsm. From handcuffs to spanks, floggers, paddles, wax play, edge play, ***. Love exhibitionism. Here to explore the site and get to know like minded people. I will interact with genuinely interested people in casual topics that can lead to an organic conversation. The rest will come later. If you just message me nasty stuff right off the bat with the excuse of being on a fetish/kink site, I will ignore you. Or you can just go to my blue page. You can ask me for my link or go to my IG: @gothfairyluvv . But I will not cyber play here. Just here to learn, connect and see people's artsy pics( some are very cool! Thanks for sharing!!)
I’m looking for a committed relationship and I love praise, I have a praise kink, I enjoy being a spoiled brat , I love being filled and used like your favorite doll and I love when they’re obsessed with me. if you’re far don’t message me unless you’re gonna do something about it. i want to be my man’s cum dumpster
Female (23) Fontana, California
I am a Domme. As a Top I enjoy strict discipline, corporal punishment, sissy play and ***. I am selective as to who I will play with. My Partner and I own a 3000 square foot photo studio in Riverside. We rent space the for photography, videography, podcasts and more. Contact me for more information. Come hang out at an event or free classes. The studio offers free lifestyle educational events. Our classes cover everything from basic 101 classes up.
Female (57) Corona, California
I’m Optimistic & Dorky w/ a splash of Sass. Guaranteed to tickle your funny bone or fill you with a mouthful of pleasures and temptation.
Female (33) Cathedral City, California
i do camming and content byday i run my own housekeeping businesss and personal services i m allot of fun and im very creative but ialso a mom of 2
Female (38) Palmdale, California
Find someone who shares the same goal with you, who is patient and loving. When dawn comes, we will all return to normal, and all the wildness will be left behind in the night
Female (45) San Francisco, California
I am an Arabic woman who was born to lead, not follow. My beauty may catch the eye, but it is my strength, confidence, and authority that hold it. I walk into any room knowing exactly who I am and what I want, and I make no apologies for the power I carry. I take control with elegance and precision — never reckless, always intentional. My words are firm, my presence undeniable, and my energy impossible to ignore. I don’t chase approval, I set the standard. I know my worth, and I demand nothing less from the world around me. I am both grace and dominance, allure and authority. To know me is to understand that I am not simply good looking — I am commanding, unshakable, and unforgettable.
Female (22) Atherton, California
exotic, ambitious, confident, and full of charisma. I'm Egyptian, Hispanic, black, and sub Saharan African. I'm a full blown masochist, and I love to get disciplined
Female (19) Sun Valley, California
Obedient submissive male should be owned and trained by a perfect Mistress. You would be having an exclusive fun in the BDSM world. Mistress heather loves you.
Female (32) Monrovia, California
Hello there ~ I'm here for something different from Fetlife. Interested in friends, play partners, and people I can attend munches, classes, and events with. Connections I'm interested in: - Masochists, submissives, bottoms, pets, slaves, or sub-leaning switches for both short term and long term play partner dynamics. - Queer community folks and other femmes! - Other poly/ENM folks for discussing our dating & relationship experiences! For the record, I am ENM and happily married to my submissive partner. - Local community only. - Dungeon, kink event, munch, and class partners/friends. - Nerdy/Artsy/Weird people for platonic friendships and/or play partners! - Rope enthusiasts I can learn from and with. - 🩸/Needle play enthusiasts (I require recent testing prior to play). - Fire play and wax play lovers. - Fantasy, sci-fi, and horror fans (this includes people who love books, D&D, anime, movies, and cons of course). - Interesting people who can teach me new things. Connections I am NOT interested in: - No long distance. No online. No tourists. - No racists, homophobes, sexists, transphobes or any other sort of bigoted asshole. - No conservatives, centrists, or libertarians. - No sissy fetishists. - No illegal/abusive activities. - No hookups for vanilla sex acts. - No swingers/unicorn hunting couples. - No pay-for-play dynamics (respect to those who are into it, but I'm not). - Cishet men. Cis men in general, but especially cishet men. The intersection of privilege at "cis, het, and man" is just fucking awful to be around. - People who currently have a penis. Sorry, but in a reproductive rights crisis and an epidemic of sexual *** committed primarily by those with penises, I'm not taking the risk.
Female (34) San Francisco, California
Share who I am..... I don't know the answer to that anymore. I lost her a long time ago, she was carefree and ***less. She was angry, cold, and calculated. Strategic, ruthless, cold, and calm. She was loyal, honest, and dependable. I want to find her again, Im sick of being numb. I want to explore and experience all of the things the old me wanted. To know who I am now. I want to be able to say, out loud, what I want, and then take it. I want freedom, acceptance, peace. To be cherished and valued. To be owned in all the right ways, to be shattered so that I can be put back together as the version of me I was meant to be all along.
Female (39) Vista, California
I’m 25, full of energy and optimism, and believe love should be built on trust, respect, and laughter. I enjoy spending time with family and friends, exploring new places, and finding joy in life’s little moments. I’m looking for someone genuine, loyal, and ready to share both everyday adventures and a meaningful future together.
Female (25) San Francisco, California
I am a very curious and passionate girl who is looking for some fun and exploration of her new found sexuality. I love taking in *** and I love giving it back at any chance I get, I can be a very fun little puzzle if you know how to put all the pieces together !!
Female (18) Santa Ana, California
I’m here just looking to have some fun and for someone to dominate me. I am a bit shy so I need someone who can be sweet but still able to handle my bratty side (;
My needs have been ever-changing, but my constants are: -someone emotionally mature -someone naturally loving and sweet -someone who sees me as his little princess I want to explore sex and kink with a mature, safe, male figure. I want to be spoiled like Daddy's little girl, not with $$$ but with gentility, affection, thinking of you's, and a lot of quality time. I'm the type to want your cologne in a tiny vial that I can spray on a hoodie you gave me when I need comfort. I like a healthy attachment with room to grow as my own person. Other likes: - structure/rules - being dressed up - dates No men with kids, married, or in the middle of a divorce. Must be able to host. Experienced Daddy Dom. Comfortable with me having a caregiver (I'm a Little and I talk to my CG daily but it's a strictly online and SFW relationship and yes he knows I'm looking for a Daddy Dom).
Female (25) San Diego, California
I’m a pansexual I’m looking to try new things. I just wanna explore have some fun. I’m 19. My profile age is wrong by the way I won’t respond to messages with too much aggression im a freshman in college always working ❤️lol
I'm a smart, nature-loving, curvy, nerdy creative educator with a big heart and sharp wit. I’m a versatile goddess who moves seamlessly between dark, commanding energy and warm, intuitive connection. 📖 There’s a lot to get to know about me. I’m pretty open and ***, so I hope you are too. Feel free to ask me anything but don’t be surprised if I make you beg for the answer .. 🐶 Whether you're craving firm domination, soft sensual control, a bratty tease, or a safe space to explore your kinks.. I'm the one you’ve been craving (and ***ing) to meet. Obedient pets, bratty boys, soft subs, soft doms, sissies, and curious explorers are all welcome in my world as long as respect is given and consent is honored. 💝 Bonus points if you believe in spoiling a goddess who's just as good at deep talks as she is at taking control. If you want to get my attention send me a gift to show me. My primary love languages are gifts and quality time. I show love through quality time and words of affirmation & degr*dation 😈
Female (32) San Francisco, California
I’m only looking for single men born between 2000 and May 2005. Not looking for friends here, especially fwb 💀. I have none but definitely not looking for it online. Don’t ask me to message you just because you can’t message me. Just have standards. 😌 Even one real friend hits harder than a whole squad of NPCs. I’m here for the vibes—maybe chaos, maybe romance—but don’t get it twisted. Lie to me and I’ll catch it mid-DM like a glitch in the matrix. My preferences in men's personalities differ from the average person. I notice that many men share similar traits, and these are traits that you, the reader, likely possess. Personally, I find it unappealing for anyone to have, but I digress. Autistic, unshaved, virgin, can’t drive yet, but when I do? Just know I’m racing into my main character era with the love of my life. In cosplay. Maybe we’re Johnny & Lola from Bully (not the toxicity but the aesthetic), or Ethan & Mia from Resident Evil (traumatic but iconic). Either way, we serve. Some nights end with applause… others end with me and him🥵 Don’t show your face? Bye. Say “I’ll show you in dms”? Double bye. Go write vampire poetry in the dark, Dracula. 🧛‍♂️ When I fall, I FALL. Outfits, playlists, delusions, screaming into the pillow level love. Sensitive? Yeah. Stupid? Absolutely not. Oh, and no nudes—I’m not your dropbox. 💅
Female (20) Los Angeles, California
I'm an easy going person with a big heart and got so much love to give, I'm kind, dominant, truth worthy, hard working, caring, compassion, caring and supportive and I like socializing too, just feel free to text if you interested in me and want to get to know me better, I'm fun to be with and talk to🌹
Female (50) Dodgertown, California
I am just a girl🤭. I like to nerd out about a lot of things like hair, music or food. I will be respectful if you are respectful (unless we have inside jokes).
Female (25) Newbury Park, California

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Hey! I'm a California girl, natural blonde, and am normal and nice at first glance... but I have had a kinky streak and fantasies for as long as I can remember. I love being submissive. There's something so erotic about yielding myself and giving over control for another's pleasure! I've experienced bondage (including at a club in CA a few times), and hot wax, collar and leash, spanking, and some electro stimulation. Sometimes I've thought about leaving it behind but keep coming back to BDSM like it's oxygen for my soul... Yes, I'm married. No, he doesn't know. He works a ton and is as vanilla as can be when it comes to sex. And I just want more. A lot more. I've done MFM and loved it, and would love to try a group or gangbang someday.
Female (36) Redwood City, California
✨Just a Dom Goddess in a little black dress. ✨I’m not a regular goddess, I’m an expensive one. ✨Only approach (accordingly) if you’re here to serve. ✨I’ll leave you on read, so come correct. ✨To serve go follow me on X (***). ✨Just like my wine, the older the better. ✨Let me put my heels to your neck. ✨Let me sit on your face.
Female (29) San Diego, California
*I am here to keep track of events and existing friendships.* ** DO NOT ASK ME TO BE YOUR DOM/MISTRESS/GODDESS/ETC. Same goes for addressing me with any of those descriptors. I'm not here for that, and I am so far from interested in people who approach me for a relationship that it's not even funny.*** Let my mail rating serve as an example of how I don't suffer idiots. If you come into my inbox with the intent of getting me to stroke your kink, I will not put up with it. I'm open to people who need more actual info about the community, or looking for resources. I'm basically asexual, so please don't start a convo with what you'd like to do to me. Openers about my appearance will only succeed in getting an eye roll. In real life, I'm a wannabe homesteader, Wastelander, cosplayer, prepper, geek, fail-gardener, and mother. I like the isolation that comes from living off the beaten path, where I can raise a family in peace and back to nature as I grew up. Years ago, I was labeled a pseudo extrovert, and it seems to fit quite well. The docs also slapped me on the spectrum as an aspie, so I've got that going for me! In kink life, I fill the role of Amazon Dom with my kitten. There are many fetishes that I wander through, and I seem to discover something new and fun every other week. However, just because I enjoy a kink with the people I love doesn't mean I will enjoy it with others. The connection that I have with my significant others is unique to me, so outside of a scene, I do not play with strangers. Add me, follow me, or message me - it's all good! Just don't be a dickweed, and I won't eat your face. ❤ **Desires and Fantasies** Someone who can read a profile would be a good start. All of my kink and romantic needs are fulfilled by the wonderful people in my life, so I am NOT looking to add anyone else to my personal dance card at this point. My time management skills are shit, and with the perpetually busy days that come with adulting, I want to dedicate every bit of free time that I have to my existing polycule.
Female (37) Camptonville, California
Obedient submissive male should be owned and trained by a perfect Mistress. You would be having an exclusive fun in the BDSM world. Mistress heather loves you.
Female (32) Monrovia, California
I am a very curious and passionate girl who is looking for some fun and exploration of her new found sexuality. I love taking in *** and I love giving it back at any chance I get, I can be a very fun little puzzle if you know how to put all the pieces together !!
Female (18) Santa Ana, California
I'm sincere, romantic and kinky woman. I like to explore and trying new things. I like to have fun and very adventurous too.
Female (47) Artesia, California
I am a family-oriented and trustworthy woman who embraces her feminine side with grace. At my core, I lead a simple life and cherish the little things; my greatest desire is to experience the profound connection that comes with mutual love. I truly believe in the magic of love and the warmth it brings to our lives.
Female (55) Oakland, California
I’m 25, full of energy and optimism, and believe love should be built on trust, respect, and laughter. I enjoy spending time with family and friends, exploring new places, and finding joy in life’s little moments. I’m looking for someone genuine, loyal, and ready to share both everyday adventures and a meaningful future together.
Female (25) San Francisco, California
If I needed to describe my character in one word, I would say that I am kind. But I can also say about myself that I am caring, honest, ambitious. I love to take care, but I also want to take care of me.
Female (49) San Diego, California
Hi! 🎀IG :gothfairyluvv ⛓️🖤OF: moon-kitten You can call me Moon or Kitten. I love shibari/rope play/kinbaku. I enjoy bdsm. From handcuffs to spanks, floggers, paddles, wax play, edge play, ***. Love exhibitionism. Here to explore the site and get to know like minded people. I will interact with genuinely interested people in casual topics that can lead to an organic conversation. The rest will come later. If you just message me nasty stuff right off the bat with the excuse of being on a fetish/kink site, I will ignore you. Or you can just go to my blue page. You can ask me for my link or go to my IG: @gothfairyluvv . But I will not cyber play here. Just here to learn, connect and see people's artsy pics( some are very cool! Thanks for sharing!!)
“I’m a dominant personality with a controlled, deliberate approach. I value clear communication, mutual trust, and consensual power exchange. My interests lean toward psychological dominance, structured dynamics, ritual, and the interplay between discipline and desire. I’m drawn to partners who appreciate guidance, intensity, and the thrill of surrendering in a safe, respectful environment. I bring confidence, intention, and consistency to every interaction—balancing authority with care.”
Female (34) Santa Clarita, California
I'm a woman who's down to earth. I am a loyal person with a good heart who is willing to take risks in life and more when it comes to love. I hope he is old-fashioned, knows how to love old-fashioned, and is a great conversationalist with the desire to learn more. about me, I'm just a person who knows how to take care of and maintain food and physical condition
Female (40) Dodgertown, California
I’m pretty easy going and playful im always looking for fun. I love trying new things and saying yes to new experiences. Let’s enjoy the moment and see where things go type of person. I’m very open minded it’s been a while since the last time I’ve put myself out there so I’m hoping now is the right time we will see I guess lol
Female (37) Pasadena, California
I’m kind hearten enjoy laughter and comedy love helping people hopeless romantic fun loving and caring open minded and great listener enjoys traveling and nature
Female (50) Bell, California
I love good care and funny conversations until late at night. I want a relationship where everything feels real.
Female (36) Lodi, California
I'm a powerful mistress looking for a serious mature sub.
Female (57) San Diego, California
Not looking for casual hookups. ew. gross. I am seeking intentional dating to find my daddy. I’m just a littler girl who needs her daddy guiding her. I love going on walks, the gym, hiking, the beach, museums, Hearst Castle, watching old movies from the golden age of Hollywood, cuddling, being bathed, having my hair brushed by my daddy, accomplishing a list my daddy has made for me, drawing and ***ting, writing songs and writing books.
Female (34) Glendale, California
I'm an easy going person with a big heart and got so much love to give, I'm kind, dominant, truth worthy, hard working, caring, compassion, caring and supportive and I like socializing too, just feel free to text if you interested in me and want to get to know me better, I'm fun to be with and talk to🌹
Female (50) Dodgertown, California
I’m the kind of person who looks sweet at first glance but gives off a different kind of energy once you get to know me. I like chemistry, tension, and connections that make the room feel just a little warmer. I’m playful, curious, and open-minded, with a soft spot for someone who knows how to read the moment without needing everything spelled out. If you know how to match energy, communicate clearly, and enjoy a little heat beneath the surface, we’ll get along dangerously well.
Female (30) Los Angeles, California
I’m disciplined, down-to-earth, and looking to connect with someone genuine — no games, just good energy and real conversations.Physically, I stay in great shape (A Sergeant in the Military), and I’m the type who believes respect, humor, and good vibes go a long way. Whether it’s grabbing coffee, going for walks, or just hanging out and talking about life — I’m down to build something meaningful
Female (55) Dodgertown, California
I like to lead an active lifestyle, do sports, yoga, stretching and love active recreation on quad bikes. I am always open and honest and I appreciate sincerity in relationships. I love to cook and my specialty is pasta with seafood. My energy and passion for life make every day bright and intense, but deep down I dream of finding someone who will share these moments with me. On this dating site I want to meet a man who knows how to enjoy life and who is not interested in the opinion of other people. Also, who is not afraid of a relationship with a young, energetic and hot woman.
Female (42) Escondido, California
I am calm, feminine, easy-going woman who likes life and lives it passionately. Life is a canvas and we all have ***ts. I used to use bright colors. I enjoy every single moment of this life. I like to open my personality to people I like and to make their life brighter, too. I am like a fairy, who will touch me immediately gets my magic power. I am very positive, I love new experiences and always open to new emotions and knowledges. I like to argue on interesting topics. My heart is open to love. I trust people and try to look at them only good things, so, please, don't break my tender heart. So no lies, no empty promises and illusions, I am here to meet a real man with serious intentions, who wants to plunge into a loving relationship.
Female (35) Lodi, California
I’m someone who loves deeply, stays loyal, and gives my all to the right person. I work hard, I value honesty, and I’m looking for a real connection with someone sincere and mature. I want a relationship built on trust, respect, and passion nothing less. If you’re genuine and ready for something real, I’m all yours.
Female (53) El Cajon, California
I’m looking for a committed relationship and I love praise, I have a praise kink, I enjoy being a spoiled brat , I love being filled and used like your favorite doll and I love when they’re obsessed with me. if you’re far don’t message me unless you’re gonna do something about it. i want to be my man’s cum dumpster
Female (23) Fontana, California

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