Find kinky women in California

Hey! I'm a California girl, natural blonde, and am normal and nice at first glance... but I have had a kinky streak and fantasies for as long as I can remember. I love being submissive. There's something so erotic about yielding myself and giving over control for another's pleasure! I've experienced bondage (including at a club in CA a few times), and hot wax, collar and leash, spanking, and some electro stimulation. Sometimes I've thought about leaving it behind but keep coming back to BDSM like it's oxygen for my soul... Yes, I'm married. No, he doesn't know. He works a ton and is as vanilla as can be when it comes to sex. And I just want more. A lot more. I've done MFM and loved it, and would love to try a group or gangbang someday.
Female (36) Redwood City, California
*I am here to keep track of events and existing friendships.* ** DO NOT ASK ME TO BE YOUR DOM/MISTRESS/GODDESS/ETC. Same goes for addressing me with any of those descriptors. I'm not here for that, and I am so far from interested in people who approach me for a relationship that it's not even funny.*** Let my mail rating serve as an example of how I don't suffer idiots. If you come into my inbox with the intent of getting me to stroke your kink, I will not put up with it. I'm open to people who need more actual info about the community, or looking for resources. I'm basically asexual, so please don't start a convo with what you'd like to do to me. Openers about my appearance will only succeed in getting an eye roll. In real life, I'm a wannabe homesteader, Wastelander, cosplayer, prepper, geek, fail-gardener, and mother. I like the isolation that comes from living off the beaten path, where I can raise a family in peace and back to nature as I grew up. Years ago, I was labeled a pseudo extrovert, and it seems to fit quite well. The docs also slapped me on the spectrum as an aspie, so I've got that going for me! In kink life, I fill the role of Amazon Dom with my kitten. There are many fetishes that I wander through, and I seem to discover something new and fun every other week. However, just because I enjoy a kink with the people I love doesn't mean I will enjoy it with others. The connection that I have with my significant others is unique to me, so outside of a scene, I do not play with strangers. Add me, follow me, or message me - it's all good! Just don't be a dickweed, and I won't eat your face. ❤ **Desires and Fantasies** Someone who can read a profile would be a good start. All of my kink and romantic needs are fulfilled by the wonderful people in my life, so I am NOT looking to add anyone else to my personal dance card at this point. My time management skills are shit, and with the perpetually busy days that come with adulting, I want to dedicate every bit of free time that I have to my existing polycule.
Female (37) Camptonville, California
I have been alone for a few years and I long to find a sincere man to spend my life with. I am intelligent, considerate, gentle and caring character. I'm considerate and thoughtful with a kind heart. If you get close to me, you will see my smile every day. I do not want play around, I want to settle down as soon as possible. I hope you help me finish my single life.
Female (33) Van Nuys, California
✨Just a Dom Goddess in a little black dress. ✨I’m not a regular goddess, I’m an expensive one. ✨Only approach (accordingly) if you’re here to serve. ✨I’ll leave you on read, so come correct. ✨To serve go follow me on X (***). ✨Just like my wine, the older the better. ✨Let me put my heels to your neck. ✨Let me sit on your face.
Female (29) San Diego, California
Fresh out of a sexless relationship and ready to finally explore what I’ve been craving. I’m curious, playful, and love connecting with people who know what they want. I lean toward being submissive and love the idea of being dominated—whether that’s in conversation, roleplay, or something more physical down the road. I’m open-minded, a little bratty at times, and excited to experiment to see what truly excites me. For me, it’s about chemistry, trust, and having fun while discovering what I like.
Female (26) Apple Valley, California
I am an Arabic woman who was born to lead, not follow. My beauty may catch the eye, but it is my strength, confidence, and authority that hold it. I walk into any room knowing exactly who I am and what I want, and I make no apologies for the power I carry. I take control with elegance and precision — never reckless, always intentional. My words are firm, my presence undeniable, and my energy impossible to ignore. I don’t chase approval, I set the standard. I know my worth, and I demand nothing less from the world around me. I am both grace and dominance, allure and authority. To know me is to understand that I am not simply good looking — I am commanding, unshakable, and unforgettable.
Female (22) San Francisco, California
I’m only looking for single men born between 2000 and May 2005. Not looking for friends here, especially fwb 💀. I have none but definitely not looking for it online. Don’t ask me to message you just because you can’t message me. Just have standards. 😌 Even one real friend hits harder than a whole squad of NPCs. I’m here for the vibes—maybe chaos, maybe romance—but don’t get it twisted. Lie to me and I’ll catch it mid-DM like a glitch in the matrix. My preferences in men's personalities differ from the average person. I notice that many men share similar traits, and these are traits that you, the reader, likely possess. Personally, I find it unappealing for anyone to have, but I digress. Autistic, unshaved, virgin, can’t drive yet, but when I do? Just know I’m racing into my main character era with the love of my life. In cosplay. Maybe we’re Johnny & Lola from Bully (not the toxicity but the aesthetic), or Ethan & Mia from Resident Evil (traumatic but iconic). Either way, we serve. Some nights end with applause… others end with me and him🥵 Don’t show your face? Bye. Say “I’ll show you in dms”? Double bye. Go write vampire poetry in the dark, Dracula. 🧛‍♂️ When I fall, I FALL. Outfits, playlists, delusions, screaming into the pillow level love. Sensitive? Yeah. Stupid? Absolutely not. Oh, and no nudes—I’m not your dropbox. 💅
Female (20) Los Angeles, California
I am a Domme. As a Top I enjoy strict discipline, corporal punishment, sissy play and ***. I am selective as to who I will play with. My Partner and I own a 3000 square foot photo studio in Riverside. We rent space the for photography, videography, podcasts and more. Contact me for more information. Come hang out at an event or free classes. The studio offers free lifestyle educational events. Our classes cover everything from basic 101 classes up.
Female (57) Corona, California
I'm 5.7 ft, 166cm tall. I exercise three time in a week to keep me healthy. I am a cheerful and optimistic person, I always can find something positive in any situations. I try to understand and respect other people needs and wishes and I am ready for compromises if it is possible, of course.
Female (55) San Diego, California
I am just a girl🤭. I like to nerd out about a lot of things like hair, music or food. I will be respectful if you are respectful (unless we have inside jokes).
Female (25) Newbury Park, California
I’m kind hearten enjoy laughter and comedy love helping people hopeless romantic fun loving and caring open minded and great listener enjoys traveling and nature
Female (50) Bell, California
I am searching for a man who will fill my heart, my bed, my daily life. I am looking for a man whom I can trust as well as myself ... Call or txt 864-814-7245
Female (40) San Bernardino, California
I'm a woman who's down to earth. I am a loyal person with a good heart who is willing to take risks in life and more when it comes to love. I hope he is old-fashioned, knows how to love old-fashioned, and is a great conversationalist with the desire to learn more. about me, I'm just a person who knows how to take care of and maintain food and physical condition
Female (40) Dodgertown, California
Find someone who shares the same goal with you, who is patient and loving. When dawn comes, we will all return to normal, and all the wildness will be left behind in the night
Female (45) San Francisco, California
I’m the kind of person who looks sweet at first glance but gives off a different kind of energy once you get to know me. I like chemistry, tension, and connections that make the room feel just a little warmer. I’m playful, curious, and open-minded, with a soft spot for someone who knows how to read the moment without needing everything spelled out. If you know how to match energy, communicate clearly, and enjoy a little heat beneath the surface, we’ll get along dangerously well.
Female (30) Los Angeles, California
I’m an independent thinker, realist when it comes to the world. I actually require wit, humor and intelligence to form a good relationship with people, and that is one of the things I am trying to find while searching for a special friend. I can be open to variations in the relationship, but lying is not one of them. I actually have good intentions to find a long-term, compatible friend and I don't lead people on, I'm transparent to a fault.
Female (37) Oakland, California
I am a tomboy on the streets and a femme submissive in the sheets 😉 I am doing a remodel to flip a house right now, so I spend a lot of time in Carhartts keeping my guns swole, lol. I was raised by two Moms, one Mom was a jet and helo mechanic for 22 years in the Navy. I started changing the oil in the family cars when I was 9. If you aren't comfortable with a punk rock girl artist who keeps her head shaved as tight and clean as her pussy, don't knock on my door. I expect to be escorted about proudly. I am a cultured and educated anarchist. I choose this gender bending because I love it. I am not anyone's back up fuck. I am first fiddle, full stop, at least when we are on a playdate. I am handy AF, and I love showing my friends and lovers my affection through acts of service and DIY repairs 😁 Whose house needs a fresh coat of ***t? I can be topped by almost anyone I find attractive, but... I am a demisexual who loves to do it the way He wants it to be done. If He expects the real thing, HE HAS TO BE WORTHY of my submission. I love words of affirmation that I am doing it right, and if I get it wrong, I will bend over backward and forward to make it right again. Once He has my loyalty, my filial piety is unshakable. So, I choose my Dom carefully. I am looking for fun play and/or true friendship right now, but I am open to a soul mate. I enjoy women, too. Very much. Anyway, that's me in a nutshell 😆 Oh yeah, and I am a wig officionado, I love wigs! I often show up to dates and events in various costumes and hair. It is my favorite absurd pastime, and I like to delight my playmates with novelty and variety (I have heard it is the spice of life).
Female (49) Soulsbyville, California
tease and denial is my art. I edge you until your begs turn to sobs, then ruin you just to hear you thank me. latex squeaks against your trembling skin as I bind, spank, and mark you mine. Safe, sane, consensual, yet mercilessly filthy. Kneel and feel your pulse surrender before I even touch you.
Female (29) Dodgertown, California
I’m really interested in Fetish, but I also enjoy meeting new people and sharing experiences. I hope to connect with like-minded people to chat, exchange ideas, and occasionally explore some activities. Safety, respect, and communication are what I value most. If you’re also looking for casual conversation or a slow, exploratory approach, I’d be happy to get to know you
Female (40) San Francisco, California
shy, timid, quiet at times but very outgoing once I get to know you
Female (28) Pomona, California
I'm an irresistible blend of allure, sweetness, and commanding dominance. I desire a lasting D/s bond with my devoted slut, where obedience, lust, and trust intertwine. My touch can soothe or ***, my words can melt or command, and every act of service feeds my desire. I crave control in and out of the bedroom, your body, mind, and pleasure are mine to shape. With me, you’ll be owned, used, and adored, surrendering fully to my power for years to come.
Female (45) San Diego, California
i do camming and content byday i run my own housekeeping businesss and personal services i m allot of fun and im very creative but ialso a mom of 2
Female (38) Lancaster, California
Share who I am..... I don't know the answer to that anymore. I lost her a long time ago, she was carefree and ***less. She was angry, cold, and calculated. Strategic, ruthless, cold, and calm. She was loyal, honest, and dependable. I want to find her again, Im sick of being numb. I want to explore and experience all of the things the old me wanted. To know who I am now. I want to be able to say, out loud, what I want, and then take it. I want freedom, acceptance, peace. To be cherished and valued. To be owned in all the right ways, to be shattered so that I can be put back together as the version of me I was meant to be all along.
Female (39) Vista, California
It is not easy to be described to one itself, because you are the reflection of what you cause in other persons, because of it this reflection will explain. I am a calm, hard-working woman, of good feelings. For my voucher mas the being that to have. I surround myself with good persons. I am a comprehensive and intelligent woman to handle difficult situations. I am honest and nice.
Female (51) Dodgertown, California

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I have been alone for a few years and I long to find a sincere man to spend my life with. I am intelligent, considerate, gentle and caring character. I'm considerate and thoughtful with a kind heart. If you get close to me, you will see my smile every day. I do not want play around, I want to settle down as soon as possible. I hope you help me finish my single life.
Female (33) Van Nuys, California
Hey! I'm a California girl, natural blonde, and am normal and nice at first glance... but I have had a kinky streak and fantasies for as long as I can remember. I love being submissive. There's something so erotic about yielding myself and giving over control for another's pleasure! I've experienced bondage (including at a club in CA a few times), and hot wax, collar and leash, spanking, and some electro stimulation. Sometimes I've thought about leaving it behind but keep coming back to BDSM like it's oxygen for my soul... Yes, I'm married. No, he doesn't know. He works a ton and is as vanilla as can be when it comes to sex. And I just want more. A lot more. I've done MFM and loved it, and would love to try a group or gangbang someday.
Female (36) Redwood City, California
✨Just a Dom Goddess in a little black dress. ✨I’m not a regular goddess, I’m an expensive one. ✨Only approach (accordingly) if you’re here to serve. ✨I’ll leave you on read, so come correct. ✨To serve go follow me on X (***). ✨Just like my wine, the older the better. ✨Let me put my heels to your neck. ✨Let me sit on your face.
Female (29) San Diego, California
*I am here to keep track of events and existing friendships.* ** DO NOT ASK ME TO BE YOUR DOM/MISTRESS/GODDESS/ETC. Same goes for addressing me with any of those descriptors. I'm not here for that, and I am so far from interested in people who approach me for a relationship that it's not even funny.*** Let my mail rating serve as an example of how I don't suffer idiots. If you come into my inbox with the intent of getting me to stroke your kink, I will not put up with it. I'm open to people who need more actual info about the community, or looking for resources. I'm basically asexual, so please don't start a convo with what you'd like to do to me. Openers about my appearance will only succeed in getting an eye roll. In real life, I'm a wannabe homesteader, Wastelander, cosplayer, prepper, geek, fail-gardener, and mother. I like the isolation that comes from living off the beaten path, where I can raise a family in peace and back to nature as I grew up. Years ago, I was labeled a pseudo extrovert, and it seems to fit quite well. The docs also slapped me on the spectrum as an aspie, so I've got that going for me! In kink life, I fill the role of Amazon Dom with my kitten. There are many fetishes that I wander through, and I seem to discover something new and fun every other week. However, just because I enjoy a kink with the people I love doesn't mean I will enjoy it with others. The connection that I have with my significant others is unique to me, so outside of a scene, I do not play with strangers. Add me, follow me, or message me - it's all good! Just don't be a dickweed, and I won't eat your face. ❤ **Desires and Fantasies** Someone who can read a profile would be a good start. All of my kink and romantic needs are fulfilled by the wonderful people in my life, so I am NOT looking to add anyone else to my personal dance card at this point. My time management skills are shit, and with the perpetually busy days that come with adulting, I want to dedicate every bit of free time that I have to my existing polycule.
Female (37) Camptonville, California
I dream of meeting a man who is strong, kind and protective; someone who can make me feel safe, loved, and cherished.
Female (39) Antioch, California
Warm hearted confident and beautifully curvy. I enjoy good conversation, little adventures, and the simple comforts of life. Looking for a genuine man who appreciates a real woman with a soft heart and a strong mind
Female (43) La Jolla, California
I am a composed, confident, and commanding woman who knows exactly what I want and how I expect to be approached. I’m direct, disciplined, and selective. I don’t entertain chaos, disrespect, or immaturity. I value obedience, clarity, consistency, and genuine connection built on trust and mutual understanding. If you want my attention, come with manners, honesty, and a willingness to listen. I’m not here for games or guessing; I appreciate people who know their place, know their limits, and know how to communicate them. My presence is calm but firm, sensual but controlled. I lead with intention, and I expect the same level of seriousness in return.
Female (42) Los Angeles, California
By day, I'm a fashion consultant, helping people find the right clothes to express themselves. But in life, I believe the most powerful connections don't always need words at all. I'm warm, affectionate, and full of life. I don't do drama, mind games, or endless texting with no real connection. I want a man for life, someone who's kind in spirit, and who sees a woman as his partner, not just a pretty accessory. I have this small habit when I'm deep in thought, I play with the ends of my hair, twirling it between my fingers without even realizing it. It's a little quirk that people find endearing. Oh, and when I laugh, I'm told it's the kind of laugh that's contagious, the kind that fills up a room. I'm a night owl, but when I wake up early, I love the quiet of the morning, that peaceful moment before the world starts buzzing. That's when I feel truly at peace, and I can't help but smile, knowing I've got a new day ahead. What do I bring to a relationship? A home that f! eels like a haven, deep conversations over late-night tea, a partner who will always support, inspire, and stand by your side. I care, and I know how to make a man feel like a king when he treats me like his queen. If you're the kind of man who values passion, loyalty, and a little adventure, then we might just have something worth exploring. So, tell me do you believe in fate, or should I message you first?
Female (42) Merced, California
I'm a woman who's down to earth. I am a loyal person with a good heart who is willing to take risks in life and more when it comes to love. I hope he is old-fashioned, knows how to love old-fashioned, and is a great conversationalist with the desire to learn more. about me, I'm just a person who knows how to take care of and maintain food and physical condition
Female (40) Dodgertown, California
I want to meet someone special, someone I can explore more about BDSM with, and someone I can have a good conversation with. I don't mind LTR relationships; I want to meet people with whom I can have long-term, stable relationships.
Female (36) Los Angeles, California
I am searching for a man who will fill my heart, my bed, my daily life. I am looking for a man whom I can trust as well as myself ... Call or txt 864-814-7245
Female (40) San Bernardino, California
I’m pretty easy going and playful im always looking for fun. I love trying new things and saying yes to new experiences. Let’s enjoy the moment and see where things go type of person. I’m very open minded it’s been a while since the last time I’ve put myself out there so I’m hoping now is the right time we will see I guess lol
Female (37) Pasadena, California
I believe in love that feels peaceful, steady and real. I'm here looking for something lasting, meaningful, and built on mutual respect. I value honesty, loyalty and emotional connection above everything else. I'm at a point in my life where I'm ready to build something beautiful with the right person, A partnership that feels like home. I enjoy good conversation, peaceful evenings, and moments that remind us what truly matters. If we share the same vision, I'd love to see where this journey could take us.
Female (47) San Diego, California
It is not easy to be described to one itself, because you are the reflection of what you cause in other persons, because of it this reflection will explain. I am a calm, hard-working woman, of good feelings. For my voucher mas the being that to have. I surround myself with good persons. I am a comprehensive and intelligent woman to handle difficult situations. I am honest and nice.
Female (51) Dodgertown, California
I’m kind hearten enjoy laughter and comedy love helping people hopeless romantic fun loving and caring open minded and great listener enjoys traveling and nature
Female (50) Bell, California
I love good care and funny conversations until late at night. I want a relationship where everything feels real.
Female (36) Lodi, California
I'm looking for a submissive sissy slave who is into BDSM and stuff and willing to explore his or her lime:its and desire of being degraded, used and manipulated. I have been into BDSM since long time and had developed a vivid imagination and now I like to try my imagination on someone willing. I’m understanding, open-minded, caring and honest person but don't make a gental image from that. When it comes to dominating I'm merciless. However I know the difference : add to your CV between hurt and harm. Anyother then this I like to listen to you, to your thoughts, desires, fantasy, ***, feelings and how was your day. You can3 say you will be getting a Dominvant Goddess( at times I know to be sub too into pampering ) My Greatest kink’s are nipple play, tits, rules, daily task, degrading, bad names, etc limit less I don't do piercing, *** stuff I love my sub to be of age 53 to 84 If you're interested then message me and we can talk about each yes other before jumping into this plus we can talk about privacy and security too
Female (35) Los Angeles, California
I’m very interested in exploring kinks that dive into psychological and emotional depth. I hope to find a long-term, trustworthy sub or domme to build a deep connection and mutual trust. I enjoy slowly exploring boundaries and savoring the communication and growth along the way. If you also value safety, respect, and genuine interaction, we might be a great match.
Female (38) San Diego, California
I’m curious about new and different kinks. I enjoy trying and exploring activities that get your heart racing and bring excitement, but only if it’s safe and comfortable for both sides. I’m looking for a partner who’s willing to try new things and challenge themselves, so we can discover new aspects of ourselves together in the world of Fetish.
Female (40) Los Angeles, California
tease and denial is my art. I edge you until your begs turn to sobs, then ruin you just to hear you thank me. latex squeaks against your trembling skin as I bind, spank, and mark you mine. Safe, sane, consensual, yet mercilessly filthy. Kneel and feel your pulse surrender before I even touch you.
Female (29) Dodgertown, California
I’m a woman who grew up learning how to handle life on my own. I started working young and that shaped who I am today. I’m disciplined, independent, and never afraid of putting in real effort. I take pride in building the life I want with my own hands. I also don’t have patience for chaos, excuses, or people who expect more than they give. In my daily life I’m warm and social. I love good food, wine, and long conversations, and I enjoy hosting friends at my place. But in kink dynamics, I am naturally dominant. I’m calm, controlled, and decisive. I don’t need to raise my voice. I prefer someone who listens, someone curious and self-aware, someone who enjoys structure, tease, and power exchange instead of pretending they do. If you’re looking for a shallow fantasy, I’m not the person for you. If you want someone who leads with intention and expects honesty, respect, and desire in return, then you can come talk to me.
Female (40) Sacramento, California
I’m really interested in Fetish, but I also enjoy meeting new people and sharing experiences. I hope to connect with like-minded people to chat, exchange ideas, and occasionally explore some activities. Safety, respect, and communication are what I value most. If you’re also looking for casual conversation or a slow, exploratory approach, I’d be happy to get to know you
Female (40) San Francisco, California
I like to always face life with a smile, despite the hard and difficult moments, every day we have the opportunity to write another chapter of our life and I decide to live it to the fullest without *** of what might happen. They say that he who does not risk does not win and I would like to live that experience of winning, perhaps everything that awaits us out there is better than we think.
Female (39) Fiddletown, California
If you want to talk to me beyond this profile, remember this: One heart, seven smiles, seven dreams, five hopes, two warm hugs, four quiet nights, four sweet moments, eight deep breaths, zero doubts, eight soft kisses, and six reasons to call. Put those numbers together… and that’s where I’ll be
Female (40) Brentwood, California

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