Find kinky women in California

Hey! I'm a California girl, natural blonde, and am normal and nice at first glance... but I have had a kinky streak and fantasies for as long as I can remember. I love being submissive. There's something so erotic about yielding myself and giving over control for another's pleasure! I've experienced bondage (including at a club in CA a few times), and hot wax, collar and leash, spanking, and some electro stimulation. Sometimes I've thought about leaving it behind but keep coming back to BDSM like it's oxygen for my soul... Yes, I'm married. No, he doesn't know. He works a ton and is as vanilla as can be when it comes to sex. And I just want more. A lot more. I've done MFM and loved it, and would love to try a group or gangbang someday.
Female (36) Redwood City, California
*I am here to keep track of events and existing friendships.* ** DO NOT ASK ME TO BE YOUR DOM/MISTRESS/GODDESS/ETC. Same goes for addressing me with any of those descriptors. I'm not here for that, and I am so far from interested in people who approach me for a relationship that it's not even funny.*** Let my mail rating serve as an example of how I don't suffer idiots. If you come into my inbox with the intent of getting me to stroke your kink, I will not put up with it. I'm open to people who need more actual info about the community, or looking for resources. I'm basically asexual, so please don't start a convo with what you'd like to do to me. Openers about my appearance will only succeed in getting an eye roll. In real life, I'm a wannabe homesteader, Wastelander, cosplayer, prepper, geek, fail-gardener, and mother. I like the isolation that comes from living off the beaten path, where I can raise a family in peace and back to nature as I grew up. Years ago, I was labeled a pseudo extrovert, and it seems to fit quite well. The docs also slapped me on the spectrum as an aspie, so I've got that going for me! In kink life, I fill the role of Amazon Dom with my kitten. There are many fetishes that I wander through, and I seem to discover something new and fun every other week. However, just because I enjoy a kink with the people I love doesn't mean I will enjoy it with others. The connection that I have with my significant others is unique to me, so outside of a scene, I do not play with strangers. Add me, follow me, or message me - it's all good! Just don't be a dickweed, and I won't eat your face. ❤ **Desires and Fantasies** Someone who can read a profile would be a good start. All of my kink and romantic needs are fulfilled by the wonderful people in my life, so I am NOT looking to add anyone else to my personal dance card at this point. My time management skills are shit, and with the perpetually busy days that come with adulting, I want to dedicate every bit of free time that I have to my existing polycule.
Female (37) Camptonville, California
✨Just a Dom Goddess in a little black dress. ✨I’m not a regular goddess, I’m an expensive one. ✨Only approach (accordingly) if you’re here to serve. ✨I’ll leave you on read, so come correct. ✨To serve go follow me on X (***). ✨Just like my wine, the older the better. ✨Let me put my heels to your neck. ✨Let me sit on your face.
Female (29) San Diego, California
Hi! 🎀IG :gothfairyluvv ⛓️🖤OF: moon-kitten You can call me Moon or Kitten. I love shibari/rope play/kinbaku. I enjoy bdsm. From handcuffs to spanks, floggers, paddles, wax play, edge play, ***. Love exhibitionism. Here to explore the site and get to know like minded people. I will interact with genuinely interested people in casual topics that can lead to an organic conversation. The rest will come later. If you just message me nasty stuff right off the bat with the excuse of being on a fetish/kink site, I will ignore you. Or you can just go to my blue page. You can ask me for my link or go to my IG: @gothfairyluvv . But I will not cyber play here. Just here to learn, connect and see people's artsy pics( some are very cool! Thanks for sharing!!)
Hey everyone ✿, I suck at writing these but I'll try my best. My name is Taylor (or Tay) I'm a USMC veteran and still working in the field. I migrated here from fetlife.com. I've always been into the BDSM lifestyle just never fully as emerged as I wanted to be. Right now I'm in a situation where I can explore, so I'm gonna c: I do know that I enjoy being dominant and in charge, so let's go from there. I'm a bit of a gym rat. Ever since the Corps (OORAH! jk I'm not that motivated, sorry vets 😜) I have maintained my fitness. I'm also a PC gamer, but don't get too excited, I play single player gorl games like Sims. OCCASIONALLY I do play League of Legends and Marvel Rivals. That's it for now I think. I'll post more if I think of anything else..
I’m only looking for single men born between 2000 and May 2005. Not looking for friends here, especially fwb 💀. I have none but definitely not looking for it online. Don’t ask me to message you just because you can’t message me. Just have standards. 😌 Even one real friend hits harder than a whole squad of NPCs. I’m here for the vibes—maybe chaos, maybe romance—but don’t get it twisted. Lie to me and I’ll catch it mid-DM like a glitch in the matrix. My preferences in men's personalities differ from the average person. I notice that many men share similar traits, and these are traits that you, the reader, likely possess. Personally, I find it unappealing for anyone to have, but I digress. Autistic, unshaved, virgin, can’t drive yet, but when I do? Just know I’m racing into my main character era with the love of my life. In cosplay. Maybe we’re Johnny & Lola from Bully (not the toxicity but the aesthetic), or Ethan & Mia from Resident Evil (traumatic but iconic). Either way, we serve. Some nights end with applause… others end with me and him🥵 Don’t show your face? Bye. Say “I’ll show you in dms”? Double bye. Go write vampire poetry in the dark, Dracula. 🧛‍♂️ When I fall, I FALL. Outfits, playlists, delusions, screaming into the pillow level love. Sensitive? Yeah. Stupid? Absolutely not. Oh, and no nudes—I’m not your dropbox. 💅
Female (20) Los Angeles, California
I am a Domme. As a Top I enjoy strict discipline, corporal punishment, sissy play and ***. I am selective as to who I will play with. My Partner and I own a 3000 square foot photo studio in Riverside. We rent space the for photography, videography, podcasts and more. Contact me for more information. Come hang out at an event or free classes. The studio offers free lifestyle educational events. Our classes cover everything from basic 101 classes up.
Female (57) Corona, California
I am an Arabic woman who was born to lead, not follow. My beauty may catch the eye, but it is my strength, confidence, and authority that hold it. I walk into any room knowing exactly who I am and what I want, and I make no apologies for the power I carry. I take control with elegance and precision — never reckless, always intentional. My words are firm, my presence undeniable, and my energy impossible to ignore. I don’t chase approval, I set the standard. I know my worth, and I demand nothing less from the world around me. I am both grace and dominance, allure and authority. To know me is to understand that I am not simply good looking — I am commanding, unshakable, and unforgettable.
Female (22) Atherton, California
I’m Optimistic & Dorky w/ a splash of Sass. Guaranteed to tickle your funny bone or fill you with a mouthful of pleasures and temptation.
Female (33) Cathedral City, California
The queen of dominance, teacher and mentor for slaves, I am the brat of your life, the sould puepose of your existence.
Female (31) Richmond, California
Hello there ~ I'm here for something different from Fetlife. Interested in friends, play partners, and people I can attend munches, classes, and events with. Connections I'm interested in: - Masochists, submissives, bottoms, pets, slaves, or sub-leaning switches for both short term and long term play partner dynamics. - Queer community folks and other femmes! - Other poly/ENM folks for discussing our dating & relationship experiences! For the record, I am ENM and happily married to my submissive partner. - Local community only. - Dungeon, kink event, munch, and class partners/friends. - Nerdy/Artsy/Weird people for platonic friendships and/or play partners! - Rope enthusiasts I can learn from and with. - 🩸/Needle play enthusiasts (I require recent testing prior to play). - Fire play and wax play lovers. - Fantasy, sci-fi, and horror fans (this includes people who love books, D&D, anime, movies, and cons of course). - Interesting people who can teach me new things. Connections I am NOT interested in: - No long distance. No online. No tourists. - No racists, homophobes, sexists, transphobes or any other sort of bigoted asshole. - No conservatives, centrists, or libertarians. - No sissy fetishists. - No illegal/abusive activities. - No hookups for vanilla sex acts. - No swingers/unicorn hunting couples. - No pay-for-play dynamics (respect to those who are into it, but I'm not). - Cishet men. Cis men in general, but especially cishet men. The intersection of privilege at "cis, het, and man" is just fucking awful to be around. - People who currently have a penis. Sorry, but in a reproductive rights crisis and an epidemic of sexual *** committed primarily by those with penises, I'm not taking the risk.
Female (33) San Francisco, California
Im 24 having lots of fun raving, and enjoying my youth! No long distance!!!! Looking for a rave bae, Long term, I miss being in love and loved. Or a long term situationship to go to afters with me, gotta be muscular enough to handle these curves 🤭
exotic, ambitious, confident, and full of charisma. I'm Egyptian, Hispanic, black, and sub Saharan African. I'm a full blown masochist, and I love to get disciplined
Female (19) Sun Valley, California
I'm a woman who's down to earth. I am a loyal person with a good heart who is willing to take risks in life and more when it comes to love. I hope he is old-fashioned, knows how to love old-fashioned, and is a great conversationalist with the desire to learn more. about me, I'm just a person who knows how to take care of and maintain food and physical condition
Female (40) Dodgertown, California
It is not easy to be described to one itself, because you are the reflection of what you cause in other persons, because of it this reflection will explain. I am a calm, hard-working woman, of good feelings. For my voucher mas the being that to have. I surround myself with good persons. I am a comprehensive and intelligent woman to handle difficult situations. I am honest and nice.
Female (51) Dodgertown, California
28, curious, and confident. I love deep conversations, laughter that turns into connection, and exploring what makes people tick. Open-minded, grounded, and drawn to experiences that challenge the ordinary. I value honesty, respect, and chemistry — everything else tends to flow from there.
Female (28) Los Angeles, California
i do camming and content byday i run my own housekeeping businesss and personal services i m allot of fun and im very creative but ialso a mom of 2
Female (38) Lancaster, California
I’m 25, full of energy and optimism, and believe love should be built on trust, respect, and laughter. I enjoy spending time with family and friends, exploring new places, and finding joy in life’s little moments. I’m looking for someone genuine, loyal, and ready to share both everyday adventures and a meaningful future together.
Female (25) San Francisco, California
I’m a composed, confident Mistress who enjoys control delivered with intention, not volume. I prefer slow burn dominance. the kind that gets into your head and makes you want to behave before I even ask. I’m intuitive, steady, and I pay attention to the details people think I won’t notice. I’m looking for subs who value communication, maturity, and the thrill of earning approval through obedience and consistency. If you’re respectful, responsive, and open to honest power exchange, you’ll find me both demanding and rewarding.
Female (35) Los Angeles, California
I'm an easy going person with a big heart and got so much love to give, I'm kind, dominant, truth worthy, hard working, caring, compassion, caring and supportive and I like socializing too, just feel free to text if you interested in me and want to get to know me better, I'm fun to be with and talk to🌹
Female (50) Dodgertown, California
I’m kind hearten enjoy laughter and comedy love helping people hopeless romantic fun loving and caring open minded and great listener enjoys traveling and nature
Female (50) Bell, California
I am just a girl🤭. I like to nerd out about a lot of things like hair, music or food. I will be respectful if you are respectful (unless we have inside jokes).
Female (25) Newbury Park, California
I’m a pansexual I’m looking to try new things. I just wanna explore have some fun. I’m 19. My profile age is wrong by the way I won’t respond to messages with too much aggression im a freshman in college always working ❤️lol

New members in California

Hey! I'm a California girl, natural blonde, and am normal and nice at first glance... but I have had a kinky streak and fantasies for as long as I can remember. I love being submissive. There's something so erotic about yielding myself and giving over control for another's pleasure! I've experienced bondage (including at a club in CA a few times), and hot wax, collar and leash, spanking, and some electro stimulation. Sometimes I've thought about leaving it behind but keep coming back to BDSM like it's oxygen for my soul... Yes, I'm married. No, he doesn't know. He works a ton and is as vanilla as can be when it comes to sex. And I just want more. A lot more. I've done MFM and loved it, and would love to try a group or gangbang someday.
Female (36) Redwood City, California
✨Just a Dom Goddess in a little black dress. ✨I’m not a regular goddess, I’m an expensive one. ✨Only approach (accordingly) if you’re here to serve. ✨I’ll leave you on read, so come correct. ✨To serve go follow me on X (***). ✨Just like my wine, the older the better. ✨Let me put my heels to your neck. ✨Let me sit on your face.
Female (29) San Diego, California
*I am here to keep track of events and existing friendships.* ** DO NOT ASK ME TO BE YOUR DOM/MISTRESS/GODDESS/ETC. Same goes for addressing me with any of those descriptors. I'm not here for that, and I am so far from interested in people who approach me for a relationship that it's not even funny.*** Let my mail rating serve as an example of how I don't suffer idiots. If you come into my inbox with the intent of getting me to stroke your kink, I will not put up with it. I'm open to people who need more actual info about the community, or looking for resources. I'm basically asexual, so please don't start a convo with what you'd like to do to me. Openers about my appearance will only succeed in getting an eye roll. In real life, I'm a wannabe homesteader, Wastelander, cosplayer, prepper, geek, fail-gardener, and mother. I like the isolation that comes from living off the beaten path, where I can raise a family in peace and back to nature as I grew up. Years ago, I was labeled a pseudo extrovert, and it seems to fit quite well. The docs also slapped me on the spectrum as an aspie, so I've got that going for me! In kink life, I fill the role of Amazon Dom with my kitten. There are many fetishes that I wander through, and I seem to discover something new and fun every other week. However, just because I enjoy a kink with the people I love doesn't mean I will enjoy it with others. The connection that I have with my significant others is unique to me, so outside of a scene, I do not play with strangers. Add me, follow me, or message me - it's all good! Just don't be a dickweed, and I won't eat your face. ❤ **Desires and Fantasies** Someone who can read a profile would be a good start. All of my kink and romantic needs are fulfilled by the wonderful people in my life, so I am NOT looking to add anyone else to my personal dance card at this point. My time management skills are shit, and with the perpetually busy days that come with adulting, I want to dedicate every bit of free time that I have to my existing polycule.
Female (37) Camptonville, California
I am a very curious and passionate girl who is looking for some fun and exploration of her new found sexuality. I love taking in *** and I love giving it back at any chance I get, I can be a very fun little puzzle if you know how to put all the pieces together !!
Female (18) Santa Ana, California
I love life, people and ***s. I am open-minded and very kind person. I have many friends and even colleagues at work call me only by my name. I like learning and laughing, I like cooking and feeling myself a real woman with my man: passionate and tender, flirty and supportive. I think we should be a strong team when we face this world and we should be caring lovers in our bedroom. I am always happy but I am here to find someone who will enjoy life with me, who will be devoted to our lifelong relationship.
Female (43) Firestone Park, California
I'm sincere, romantic and kinky woman. I like to explore and trying new things. I like to have fun and very adventurous too.
Female (47) Artesia, California
I am a family-oriented and trustworthy woman who embraces her feminine side with grace. At my core, I lead a simple life and cherish the little things; my greatest desire is to experience the profound connection that comes with mutual love. I truly believe in the magic of love and the warmth it brings to our lives.
Female (55) Oakland, California
I’m 25, full of energy and optimism, and believe love should be built on trust, respect, and laughter. I enjoy spending time with family and friends, exploring new places, and finding joy in life’s little moments. I’m looking for someone genuine, loyal, and ready to share both everyday adventures and a meaningful future together.
Female (25) San Francisco, California
The queen of dominance, teacher and mentor for slaves, I am the brat of your life, the sould puepose of your existence.
Female (31) Richmond, California
I’m a composed, confident Mistress who enjoys control delivered with intention, not volume. I prefer slow burn dominance. the kind that gets into your head and makes you want to behave before I even ask. I’m intuitive, steady, and I pay attention to the details people think I won’t notice. I’m looking for subs who value communication, maturity, and the thrill of earning approval through obedience and consistency. If you’re respectful, responsive, and open to honest power exchange, you’ll find me both demanding and rewarding.
Female (35) Los Angeles, California
I believe in love that feels peaceful, steady and real. I'm here looking for something lasting, meaningful, and built on mutual respect. I value honesty, loyalty and emotional connection above everything else. I'm at a point in my life where I'm ready to build something beautiful with the right person, A partnership that feels like home. I enjoy good conversation, peaceful evenings, and moments that remind us what truly matters. If we share the same vision, I'd love to see where this journey could take us.
Female (46) San Diego, California
I am an honest heart that's looking for a stable relationship.
Female (43) San Bernardino, California
Hey everyone ✿, I suck at writing these but I'll try my best. My name is Taylor (or Tay) I'm a USMC veteran and still working in the field. I migrated here from fetlife.com. I've always been into the BDSM lifestyle just never fully as emerged as I wanted to be. Right now I'm in a situation where I can explore, so I'm gonna c: I do know that I enjoy being dominant and in charge, so let's go from there. I'm a bit of a gym rat. Ever since the Corps (OORAH! jk I'm not that motivated, sorry vets 😜) I have maintained my fitness. I'm also a PC gamer, but don't get too excited, I play single player gorl games like Sims. OCCASIONALLY I do play League of Legends and Marvel Rivals. That's it for now I think. I'll post more if I think of anything else..
If I needed to describe my character in one word, I would say that I am kind. But I can also say about myself that I am caring, honest, ambitious. I love to take care, but I also want to take care of me.
Female (49) San Diego, California
Hi! 🎀IG :gothfairyluvv ⛓️🖤OF: moon-kitten You can call me Moon or Kitten. I love shibari/rope play/kinbaku. I enjoy bdsm. From handcuffs to spanks, floggers, paddles, wax play, edge play, ***. Love exhibitionism. Here to explore the site and get to know like minded people. I will interact with genuinely interested people in casual topics that can lead to an organic conversation. The rest will come later. If you just message me nasty stuff right off the bat with the excuse of being on a fetish/kink site, I will ignore you. Or you can just go to my blue page. You can ask me for my link or go to my IG: @gothfairyluvv . But I will not cyber play here. Just here to learn, connect and see people's artsy pics( some are very cool! Thanks for sharing!!)
“I’m a dominant personality with a controlled, deliberate approach. I value clear communication, mutual trust, and consensual power exchange. My interests lean toward psychological dominance, structured dynamics, ritual, and the interplay between discipline and desire. I’m drawn to partners who appreciate guidance, intensity, and the thrill of surrendering in a safe, respectful environment. I bring confidence, intention, and consistency to every interaction—balancing authority with care.”
Female (34) Santa Clarita, California
Warm hearted confident and beautifully curvy. I enjoy good conversation, little adventures, and the simple comforts of life. Looking for a genuine man who appreciates a real woman with a soft heart and a strong mind
Female (43) La Jolla, California
I'm a woman who's down to earth. I am a loyal person with a good heart who is willing to take risks in life and more when it comes to love. I hope he is old-fashioned, knows how to love old-fashioned, and is a great conversationalist with the desire to learn more. about me, I'm just a person who knows how to take care of and maintain food and physical condition
Female (40) Dodgertown, California
I’m pretty easy going and playful im always looking for fun. I love trying new things and saying yes to new experiences. Let’s enjoy the moment and see where things go type of person. I’m very open minded it’s been a while since the last time I’ve put myself out there so I’m hoping now is the right time we will see I guess lol
Female (37) Pasadena, California
I believe in love that feels peaceful, steady and real. I'm here looking for something lasting, meaningful, and built on mutual respect. I value honesty, loyalty and emotional connection above everything else. I'm at a point in my life where I'm ready to build something beautiful with the right person, A partnership that feels like home. I enjoy good conversation, peaceful evenings, and moments that remind us what truly matters. If we share the same vision, I'd love to see where this journey could take us.
Female (47) San Diego, California
It is not easy to be described to one itself, because you are the reflection of what you cause in other persons, because of it this reflection will explain. I am a calm, hard-working woman, of good feelings. For my voucher mas the being that to have. I surround myself with good persons. I am a comprehensive and intelligent woman to handle difficult situations. I am honest and nice.
Female (51) Dodgertown, California
I’m kind hearten enjoy laughter and comedy love helping people hopeless romantic fun loving and caring open minded and great listener enjoys traveling and nature
Female (50) Bell, California
I love good care and funny conversations until late at night. I want a relationship where everything feels real.
Female (36) Lodi, California

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