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I am a Mistress, Domme, Demoness and sometimes Mommy. **Approach with respect. Subs: Ask to speak to me and wait until I decide. Spare me your copy+paste introductions. My time and attention are precious, do not waste it.** I’m not looking for a fuck buddy, I’m looking for someone to break. Subs, slaves, simps, trans, girls/women get priority, men are a dime a dozen. I read every single DM but that’s the only shot you get. Don’t blow it. Reading comprehension, respect and humor are the easiest ways to keep my attention. Don’t be stupid. To those interested in subservience, I tolerate no tepidity for devotion and no casual familiarity with my divinity. Never forget that my attention and grace is a gift and my wrath is a promise. You’re welcome for giving you this much insight so far, come earn the rest. I'll say it again, Approach with respect or... well...
Female (38) Bassett, California
✨Just a Dom Goddess in a little black dress. ✨I’m not a regular goddess, I’m an expensive one. ✨Only approach (accordingly) if you’re here to serve. ✨I’ll leave you on read, so come correct. ✨To serve go follow me on X (twitter). ✨Just like my wine, the older the better. ✨Let me put my heels to your neck. ✨Let me sit on your face.
Female (30) Ventura, California
I’m a confident Mistress who believes that true dominance is built on trust, communication, respect, and connection. I enjoy taking the lead, but I also believe a strong dynamic should be mutually fulfilling and grounded in clear boundaries and enthusiastic consent. I’m not looking for endless online conversations or something purely transactional. I’m interested in meeting someone genuine and seeing whether we have the chemistry to build a meaningful, long-term connection. I prefer getting to know one person at a time and allowing trust to develop naturally. Outside the dynamic, I’m warm, affectionate, playful, and sensual. I enjoy good conversation, laughter, and the quieter moments just as much as stepping confidently into my Mistress side.
I'm a portrait artist and starting to tattoo. I'm a BBW, and I love to laugh. I do draw live models sometimes, so maybe in the future, I might draw you. I'm a married woman. However, under the current situation, there are times of separation between him and I, which during that time we agreed to let me go out with women or men. However, I will always respond to women. My spare time is limited, so if you are a flake, please don't waste it. FYI: If you're a guy that's writing, no disrespect, but I have a soft spot for nerds and Asians.
Looking for an ongoing play partner mostly, open to other situations if it works out that way. I'm brat into a ray of things and love to explore new things. Really interested in finding a primal pleasure dom to play with.
Female (35) San Mateo, California
I'm looking for love and fun. For love, I'm looking for a man who wants to grow with me in all aspects of life, whether it's kindness, a better personality, finances, and other things that have a positive impact on the longevity of the relationship, because I don't want what happened to me with my ex husband to happen again
Female (37) San Francisco, California
I’m a brat. I’m NOT HOOKING UP OR SEXTING. Trust is a big thing for me, and it takes a bit for me to trust someone. If I don’t trust you, I’m not fucking with you. I’m stubborn and will talk back. I don’t care if I hurt your feelings if you’re being disrespectful. Being submissive doesn’t give you permission to be a dick to me. It’s been a bit since I’ve been on here. I don’t have a lot of experience here but I do in giving attitude. 🤷‍♀️ P.S. If you wanna see how I look, it’s on my private gallery
Female (25) La Mesa, California
I'm a bit of a switch but lean more towards sub. it just depends on my mood ngl. I enjoy caring for a soft sub but enjoy the dominance in the bedroom. looking for that soft sub/ golden retriever energy but who can switch up and Dom me up when I'm being a brat. (I want to know who I'm talking to, send me a clear picture of your face, or else I'll probably ignore you)
Female (32) Brentwood, California
Hi. I’ve returned to the scene looking to reconnect with the community. Quiet, thoughtful and not an attention seeker. I’d love to make friends and share pics and chat. I am not interested in meeting anyone in person at this time. Recently I’ve enjoyed posting pics which rotate on and off my page. I like tattoos, cheeky humor and talking with and supporting fellow kinky people. If you’re looking for immediate gratification via meet ups or sexting, I’m not your girl. I recognize that’s not everyone’s cup of tea, and that’s okay. If you wanna make a friend in here, feel free to message me.
Female (43) Sacramento, California
I am a strict, experienced, seductive, and unapologetically demanding Mistress. I thrive on real power exchange: total obedience, consistent tribute, daily structure, tasks, punishments, and rewards. I control your habits, wallet, pleasure, and mindset. I do not do casual chat, endless flirting without commitment, or free emotional labor. Sessions are earned through action and consistency.
Female (44) Fresno, California
I am feminine, affectionate, loyal, empathetic, intelligent, sophisticated, smart, inquisitive, friendly, sociable, good-mannered and tactful. I am a great life lover. I enjoy being a Lady, taking care of myself, my body and my mind. I have a great taste and sense of humor. I am neat and caring. I am a good listener, I get along well with people and I know how to negotiate, to give peace and to love. To my mind in relationship it's important have a desire to understand your partner, to listen to each other and take this into account, I love to travel and ready for happiness
Female (56) Los Angeles, California
Looking for single men born between 2003 and May 2005. No friends or fwb shit 💀. Only if you're worthy of my time, which I can tell quickly. Please do not ask me to message you if you can’t message me. I don’t like blue eyes demons 😂. I want to clarify that I have no interest in finding a guy nearby or in the US; I'm not gonna explain. Would love an accent🤭. It's not a fetish; I'm not turned on by it I just would love it. Idk how to explain it. A specific accent, not just any 🤭. Setting high standards. 😌 Even one true friend is better than a whole group of NPCs. I’m here for the vibes, maybe some chaos (don’t get too crazy tho), maybe romance, but don’t be fooled. All shades of color, just no one with blue eyes. I would prefer brown eyes tho. It's a bit sad, but I think only about 10% of guys have the personality and traits I’m after. Where are the guys with neck-length hair and a shag? screw the fade or Edgar-looking ahh haircuts or whatever is the most popular hairstyle for men. I am looking for a partner who genuinely loves me rather than being obsessed. I appreciate someone who focuses their attention on other trusted individuals and me, ensuring mutual respect and understanding. The way he engages with others must differ from how he interacts with me. I also believe in giving him my attention in a unique way, including towards my trusted friends. Autistic, unshaved, virgin, can’t drive yet. I think people assume im mean, but I'm only unapproachable because im always in survival mode. Don’t show your face? Bye. Say “I’ll show you in dms”? Double bye. Sensitive? correct. Stupid? not quite. no nudes—I’m not your dropbox. 💅
Female (21) Los Angeles, California
"Thanks for being up front! I think my profile/last message might have given the wrong impression—I'm actually looking for a serious relationship as well. If you're still open to it, I'd love to get that drink and see if we connect."
Female (48) Santa Clara, California
also on fetlife, same name. may post some nsfw stuff there since i can't here. if you know me irl, don't be weird please🙏. in real life people probably know me as the reserved nerdy girl who sits in the front row and gets straight a's. in reality i'm also the depraved horny girl who reads fucked up erotica with her hand down her pants until 3 am in the morning. it turns me on when people think i'm cute and sexy. hearing that one look at my body turns a guy rock hard and makes his mind think unspeakable things makes me unbelievably horny. periodically posting pics for that cheap validations 😅. dm's are open, and horny messages welcome. i'm much more interested in talking about sex, kink, and psychology than i am in sexting. in general, i dont have much experience with sexting so if you send me a 2 page monologue about what you want to do with me, i'm going to read it, get a tiny spike of seratonin, and then not know how to reply. i have 0 intention of meeting anyone in person on here, please keep that in mind.
Female (20) San Francisco, California
just a sub in the south bay locals only prefers tattoos and a lot of body hair bwc only looking for LTR with a dom with a bwc who dominates in and out the bedroom. someone who can design a set schedule for me and hold me accountable. i love movies, art and music movie buff! tell me your faves!
Female (31) Lawndale, California
I am a very sincere and honest person, caring, kind, social, smart, intelligent, passionate, friendly. and romantic. I can be different. I know how to treat you and I can make you happy if you decide to be with me. My parents taught me a few things; not to go for looks because it can be deceiving. Not to go for *** because even wealth fades away. Go for someone who makes you smile, because only a smile makes a dark day seem bright.
Female (47) Los Angeles, California
Hello I’m an honest and good Christian who loves being surrounded by family, friends and holidays. I’m ready for a serious relationship and I really look forward to starting that with the right person
Female (48) Los Angeles, California
A man that will want to give me his milk of love regularly and that will want me to drink it, be washed in it and to enjoy the sweet smell of my juices mixed with yours.
Female (36) Fortuna, California
Natural redhead with a loud passion for music, a neurospicy mind, and a habit of singing along to everything. I’m a hypersexual submissive who thrives on the tease—testing boundaries is just my way of having fun, and I’m always curious to see where the line is. Hard Rule: Strict separation between my vanilla life and my kinky side.
Female (42) Rancho Cordova, California
I am a woman who follows her man. I have my own ambitions, but the support and opinion of my man is important to me. I love to travel and try something new in life. I don't like restrictions and I'm not afraid to take risks. I write erotic novels. I love the theme of love and eroticism. it inspires me. I love to develop in my field. I go in for sports several times a week and I really like to take care of my body. My appearance and health should be perfect for me and for my man.
Female (49) Santa Clara, California
I'm here to chat and date and find other people that are interested in petplay. I dislike *** or aggressive play. Consent is important as well for me. I'm very playful, happy, and a bit cheesy. A romantic at heart but very bad at sexy talk. I'm still learning about the lifestyle and am oay with trying everything once as long as it is safe to do. I also hope to progress and find someone who can balance a kinky lifestyle with a vanilla lifestyle. I am looking for more of a relationship based kinky partner. I'm not into one nighters or anything similar to that. **Desires and Fantasies** I'm a puppygirl. I enjoy the play and being collard. This should be fun for both of us =)
Female (39) Spring Valley, California
I am A LESBIAN I DO NOT LIKE MEN DONT TRY PLEASE FUCK I HATE MEN SO MUCH JESUS CHRIST I love weird shit. im IN A POLY RELATIONSHIP. looking for feeder :p ONCE AGAIN: I AM A LESBIAN.... MEN DO NOT HMU. im so serious
Female (24) Anaheim, California
• hyperfeminine pillow princess lesbian • femme4butch • 4'11 but i'm never without heels! princess best describes my d/s role; im a demanding, high maintenance little girl. i love to be pampered and spoiled, punished when I've stepped out of line.
Female (23) San Jose, California
I'm open minded, curious, and value honesty above all else. I enjoy meaningful conversations, a good sense of humor, and building genuine connections with people who know what they want. I'm interested in BDSM as a lifestyle built on trust, communication, mutual respect, and consent. I've experienced Daddy Dom dynamics before, and while ownership dynamics are something I haven't explored yet, they're something I'd consider with the right person and the right connection.
Female (55) Fresno, California

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I am a Mistress, Domme, Demoness and sometimes Mommy. **Approach with respect. Subs: Ask to speak to me and wait until I decide. Spare me your copy+paste introductions. My time and attention are precious, do not waste it.** I’m not looking for a fuck buddy, I’m looking for someone to break. Subs, slaves, simps, trans, girls/women get priority, men are a dime a dozen. I read every single DM but that’s the only shot you get. Don’t blow it. Reading comprehension, respect and humor are the easiest ways to keep my attention. Don’t be stupid. To those interested in subservience, I tolerate no tepidity for devotion and no casual familiarity with my divinity. Never forget that my attention and grace is a gift and my wrath is a promise. You’re welcome for giving you this much insight so far, come earn the rest. I'll say it again, Approach with respect or... well...
Female (38) Bassett, California
✨Just a Dom Goddess in a little black dress. ✨I’m not a regular goddess, I’m an expensive one. ✨Only approach (accordingly) if you’re here to serve. ✨I’ll leave you on read, so come correct. ✨To serve go follow me on X (twitter). ✨Just like my wine, the older the better. ✨Let me put my heels to your neck. ✨Let me sit on your face.
Female (30) Ventura, California
I’m pregnant small Latina who loves to get her brains fucked i heard some of you have a fetish for girls like me.
Female (26) San Diego, California
I am an open-minded, cheerful, and positive woman who enjoys an active and harmonious lifestyle. I believe that life is beautiful in every moment, and I always try to notice the little things that bring happiness and inspiration. Yoga and stretching help me stay balanced, energetic, and in a good mood. I value honesty, trust, mutual understanding, and strong family bonds. I am easygoing, joyful, and optimistic. I appreciate meaningful relationships, sincere emotions, and people who know how to enjoy life with an open heart.
Female (40) Fresno, California
You've always wondered what it would be like to have a naturally dominant woman take control of you in the bedroom, haven't you? A dominant woman to show you your place: beneath her. You've dreamed of being used as my personal toy, catering to my every whim. Bringing me pleasure. I'm Mistress Blunt. Featured in Psychology Today, Hustler, Vice, Glamour, and beyond, with fif***-plus years training in the old-guard traditions of D/s and leather, practiced with a scholar's precision and a sadist's instinct. I'm an internationally sought-after, award-winning professional dominatrix and lifestyle femdom I'm known for my holistic approach to BDSM, my razor-sharp intellect, a photographer's eye for fetish, and the unparalleled levels of devotion I command from my inner circle of submissives. Intuitive by nature, I read desires, particularly the hidden ones you guard most closely, planting seeds that unfurl into devastating beauty. While I adore leather, boots, whips, high-protocol training, tease and denial, orgasm control, heavy objectification, Mommy play, and feet (mine), my primary interest is in the realm of the psychological. I think of your desires as data for me to wield like a weapon to facilitate your submission. Every session with me is co-created art: the lighting, the scent of my leather, the cadence of my voice, curated for immersion. When the door clicks shut, you cross into my realm, bound by my rules, forever marked.
Female (29) San Francisco, California
I’m a confident Mistress who believes that true dominance is built on trust, communication, respect, and connection. I enjoy taking the lead, but I also believe a strong dynamic should be mutually fulfilling and grounded in clear boundaries and enthusiastic consent. I’m not looking for endless online conversations or something purely transactional. I’m interested in meeting someone genuine and seeing whether we have the chemistry to build a meaningful, long-term connection. I prefer getting to know one person at a time and allowing trust to develop naturally. Outside the dynamic, I’m warm, affectionate, playful, and sensual. I enjoy good conversation, laughter, and the quieter moments just as much as stepping confidently into my Mistress side.
I’m a confident, open-minded woman who believes attraction is about more than just looks—it’s about chemistry, trust, communication, and the freedom to explore what genuinely excites both people. I’m drawn to someone who is confident but respectful, playful but emotionally mature, and comfortable talking openly about desires and boundaries. I enjoy a little mystery, flirtation, anticipation, and discovering the chemistry that develops when two people feel completely comfortable with each other. I’m not here to rush into anything. I prefer to take my time, get to know someone, build trust, and let the connection naturally become more exciting. If you’re respectful, honest, adventurous, and know how to treat a woman well, we might have plenty to discover together. Let’s start with a conversation and see where the chemistry takes us. 😉
Female (37) San Jose, California
I'm looking for love and fun. For love, I'm looking for a man who wants to grow with me in all aspects of life, whether it's kindness, a better personality, finances, and other things that have a positive impact on the longevity of the relationship, because I don't want what happened to me with my ex husband to happen again
Female (37) San Francisco, California
I'm single woman never been married and i don't have kids. I'm honest, kind, loving, caring, sexy looking, humble, loyal and very good when it comes to love making.
Female (35) Wilmington, California
For me, attraction is built in conversation, observation, and the subtle moments where intention outweighs impulse. I appreciate people who think critically, communicate honestly, and understand that anticipation is often more compelling than immediacy. I'm less interested in labels than in presence. Less impressed by declarations than by consistency. A worthwhile dynamic should sharpen both people, challenge assumptions, and leave each interaction more memorable than the last. If you know the difference between attention and intention, we'll probably have something to discuss.
Female (37) Los Angeles, California
I am feminine, affectionate, loyal, empathetic, intelligent, sophisticated, smart, inquisitive, friendly, sociable, good-mannered and tactful. I am a great life lover. I enjoy being a Lady, taking care of myself, my body and my mind. I have a great taste and sense of humor. I am neat and caring. I am a good listener, I get along well with people and I know how to negotiate, to give peace and to love. To my mind in relationship it's important have a desire to understand your partner, to listen to each other and take this into account, I love to travel and ready for happiness
Female (56) Los Angeles, California
I'm a woman who lives with an open heart and a clear mind. I try to find positivity in every situation, and I don't let small things bring me down. I value honesty, kindness, and depth in people. I am warm, feminine, emotionally intelligent, and always sincere. I believe in real connection, in being present, and in sharing life with someone who sees beauty in both silence and conversation. I have dreams, passions, and goals and I believe in living life with meaning, love, and energy.
Female (36) Paramount, California
I’m a romantic at heart, and I’m really looking for something genuine and meaningful. I’m hardworking and caring, and I enjoy making a home feel warm and comfortable. I love cooking, trying different recipes, and sharing a good meal with someone special. Honestly, it’s the simple things I enjoy most; good conversation, laughing together, and just having someone to share life with.
Female (36) Calabasas, California
A refined D/s dynamic should feel deliberate. Trust is cultivated, boundaries are respected, and submission is something consciously offered—not something assumed. I enjoy exploring the psychology beneath desire: what motivates you, what challenges you, and what becomes possible when control is placed in capable hands. If you’re seeking instant access or superficial theatrics, we’re unlikely to interest one another. If you appreciate discretion, intellectual chemistry, discipline, and a Dominant who values substance as much as authority, introduce yourself properly.
Female (36) San Francisco, California
I’m a warm, positive, and adventurous person who enjoys meaningful conversations and genuine connections. I love traveling, yoga, ***ting, RV camping, staying active, and exploring new places. I appreciate honesty, kindness, good humor, and people who are curious about the world. I’m always open to new experiences and getting to know interesting people from different backgrounds.
I am a very sincere and honest person, caring, kind, social, smart, intelligent, passionate, friendly. and romantic. I can be different. I know how to treat you and I can make you happy if you decide to be with me. My parents taught me a few things; not to go for looks because it can be deceiving. Not to go for *** because even wealth fades away. Go for someone who makes you smile, because only a smile makes a dark day seem bright.
Female (47) Los Angeles, California
A man that will want to give me his milk of love regularly and that will want me to drink it, be washed in it and to enjoy the sweet smell of my juices mixed with yours.
Female (36) Fortuna, California
i am 42 years old woman. i am single and looking for a sub/dom relationship. i am 5feet 9inches tall. i live alone and i can accommodate the right submissive man.
Female (42) Los Angeles, California
Looking for grown men who are comfortable in their sexuality. Men who dont mind women giving it to them and taking control. A man who doesnt mind submitting to a Goddess who will take control in the best way. Satisfaction in your favorite way. Respectful and mature, ready to explore an experience you need.
Female (31) Dodgertown, California
I’m actually new to this and I’m hoping to find someone matured, honest, loving, sincere and quite older who will love me as much as I’ll also love him and also explore all kinky side of sex. I can be your Cowgirl…🤭
Female (44) Santa Clara, California
Looking for something serious , but not into a rush , id love to take everything slow , We could begin with a friendship ... i love new members on here .. This my first time
Female (45) Sacramento, California
I would like to find a kind and faithful man, I'm one man woman and I would like to be the woman number one in his life! I want to be happy and certainly, I want to make my man happy too, it's the most important thing for me.
Female (45) Rocklin, California
I am ready to open my heart again. I'm looking for an honest, sincere man who values kindness and companionship. Someone who enjoys quiet conversations over tea, sharing laughs, and building a gentle, trusting relationship. If you are looking for a genuine romantic man
Female (39) San Diego, California
I am a single woman looking for the right man to spend the rest of my life with I don’t care about age cause to me it just a number what matter most is love
Female (32) Fremont, California

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