Tattoos and piercings are more popular ever - some people even say we have reached ‘peak body modification’. A lot of the time, people get pierced or choose a tattoo design purely for the visual impact or aesthetic appeal. You can have something that commemorates an important time in your life or accentuate a particular part of your body or something that looks cool. Body art is inherently sexy to many of us and there’s a lovely erotica anthology called Inked which is published by SexyLittlePages. It deals with tattoos, sex and kink. But, for subs and doms, it can be more than just decoration.
A website called The Slave Register was set up in 2000 and used a random number generator to issue unique registration numbers in the form of a readable barcode. In 2016 they stopped issuing numbers but if you link up with your FetLife profile you can still get your own number.
Your own number
Those who appreciate this sort of thing often get this special number tattooed onto their slave. While some find this hot or deeply profound, others find it has uncomfortable connotations and this style of play simply isn’t for them. After all, not every submissive likes the word ‘slave’.
However, tattoo designs along the lines of ‘This dick belongs to Mistress’ or ‘Property Of Master’ are also quite popular in Master and slave or D/s relationships. Other tattoo possibilities are those that reference kink more subtly, like the triskelion symbol, or an image of handcuffs.
Piercings have a fairly longstanding association with BDSM, as well – the kink classic The Story Of O features the heroine having her nipples pierced as part of her submission, and there is a scene involving pussy piercing in Pat Califia’s Macho Sluts. A fair few contemporary erotic novels contain references to erotic piercings. Perhaps these unique body piercings denote a commitment more profound than either a wedding ring or a permanent collar.
Different types of piercings can have all sorts of interesting effects on sexual pleasure as the site of the piercing is likely to become more sensitive or, depending on where the piercing is, may stimulate your partner’s body in a different way. Rings or studs make for interesting sensations when a pierced dick penetrates you, for instance. Another example would be a tongue stud delivers different sensations during fellatio or cunnilingus than a non-pierced tongue.
Piercings and tattoos can be beautiful, sexy and significant reminders of your BDSM status and commitment. They are, however, supposed to be permanent so it’s important to be sure that this is what you want to do, and that the relationship is likely to last a while. Also, even if you are a submissive, YOUR BODY BELONGS TO YOU! You don’t have to agree to a tattoo or a piercing if you don’t want to. If your shared desires involve obvious, or humiliating tattooing, it’s probably a better idea to roleplay out the fantasy with the aid of a marker pen, at least the first couple of times.
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