Heyo, I'm Chris! I'm new to the community and just starting to dip my toes into being part of it, but I've been wanting to give this stuff a shot for a few years. I'm 24-year-old California guy (Bay Area) with a plethora of odd skills, too many hobbies, a great sense of humor, an absurd range of interests (both kinky and mundane), and really just an all-around alright guy.

I wanna be shown the ropes. Explore things, experiment, have some fun and maybe share a few laughs really just a chance to indulge in the kinkier side of life without getting degraded or beaten into submission. Being the pet of an owner who wants a pet to play with and give them the company they need after a rough day, having a friend who'd tie me to binge watch shows with them, being the plus one of nerdy guy or gal who wants to dress up in cosplay with someone with at the cost of having me crossdress, serving as the sub to a dominant who's just looking for that'd enjoy the simple feeling of being bound and basking in the company of another— it all works! I'm willing to explore it all! We can pursue it as casually or intense as we want. I'm after the connection and fun, not sexual pursuits and chasing after thrills.

If given the chance, you'll have a goofy, sweet sub on your hands who'll try to make your day better however he can, memorize your likes and dislikes, shower you with affection whenever you want or need it, and do his best to make you happy.

Looking for long-term and monogamous. I'd prefer getting to know each other first, preferably as friends or dating instead of get straight into it. Can't host, as I live with my family due to financial issues.

BDSM Play Partner21 to 45 years ● 150km around USA Santa Clara

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