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I know that it’s quite the long shot, but hey, you miss 100% of the shots you never take.

I’m looking for my kinky soulmate. The woman who is my exact kink counterpart; I truly believe that she is out there. I want to find that woman who has me checking my phone every hour with excitement and anticipation to read her reply. The woman who can’t keep her hands off of me or mine off her. Ive been searching for her for years now and I know she’s there. I would prefer that she’s close to my location for convenience sake but am open to online to start!

A little bit about me and my kinky self:
I discovered my first kink when I was a 13 year old boy and saw my first bondage porno. It had aroused me in such powerful ways that I didn’t even understand. From then on I spent my age years researching the lifestyle and community, developing new and different kinks the more knowledgeable I became about the lifestyle and community and all the different assortment of kinks and methods of self sexual exploration.
I’ve been in the community since I was in my first ever BDSM relationship at 19 years old. I had confessed my desires to my girlfriend at the time. At first she was skeptical but after having read the story I wrote about one of my fantasies, her pussy was soaked and she quickly found out that she was born to be a submissive little cumslut who loved following my every demand or instruction to a tee; because she knew what came with that. We spent 4 years together and over the course of that time we experimented with many different D/S role dynamics. We found our two favorite dynamics were DDLG and Master/slave. Unfortunately, we broke up after 4 years together.
We have been broken up for 7 years now and I have been in 3 different BDSM relationships since then. None of them lasted much longer than a year but during the time I spent with them, they went from completely unaware and unknowledgeable of kink & BDSM to fully trained submissives who almost become a different person when they become aroused.

My list of kinks is far too long to list every single one of them but I’ll list some of my main ones.
-Bondage -praise- /degredation-cock worship(obviously receiving)- deepthroating (again-obviously receiving)- orgasm play(control, denial, edging, ***d orgasm/pleasure overload etc.)- rituals(what type varies by submissive archetype) -anal play (both giving and receiving)-training- exhibitionism- squirting-
There are plenty more that I’m sure I’m forgetting, but you kind of get the point.
If we are in a romantic relationship outside of our BDSM relationship then please understand that I will love you and treat you like you are the center of my world, and our BDSM/kink lifestyle can most definitely be separated from our “normal”/conventional romantic relationship if that’s what you would want. I am monogamous, and do not wish to seek out other partners when I am in a committed or romantic relationship. Once exclusivity is declared between us, it will remain that way until we break up and part ways.
I also would like to put out that there that while I heavily lean towards Dom, I do identify as somewhat of a switch as well(in case you are one to occasionally crave the urge to grab me by the groin and tell me what’s going to happen next.)
I love love love writing you dirty stories about the fantasies in my head, and I promise you’ll love reading them. Once you read one, even if it’s just a long, dirty message; you’ll be able to see it so vividly in your head that you’ll actually feel like you’re there; it’ll make you tingle all over and unable to stop thinking about it until you get to experience it for real. I would share a short snippet from one of my many stories in the ad but it’s already super long to begin with so if you want a lick of that dirty smut/erotica material; just send me a message and I’ll send it over to ya😏😘

As far as my non kink parts I am 29 years old, 6 feet tall and 190 lbs. I’m no runway model but I’m decently handsome lol and have a fit, muscular build. I’m not shredded and all veiny or anything but I’m definitely built as I used to be a college athlete and still actively work out and lift weights.
I absolutely love fishing and being outdoors with my two dogs, watching Sunday football while playing football. I coach kids in the sport I played growing up and playing in college- bonus points to anyone who can guess what sport that is- and no, it’s not football.
I game occasionally (ps5) and sometimes go through spurts where I game quite frequently. I love spending time with the ones I love-especially my girlfriend when I have one.
While I am looking for something real and long term that eventually turns to a real life, in person relationship; I am okay with other arrangements such as an online situation, or strictly NSA situations where outside of kink/bdsm, we have no ties or obligation to one another. If I’m missing a situation that you would be interested in pursuing don’t hesitate to message me if you like what you’ve read so far and think we might click; I’m open to consider ALMOST any sort of situation or arrangement.
I am strictly heterosexual, so if you and your hubby want to play, just know I will not have any sort of physical interaction with him(I’d like to avoid couples for the most part pretty much but willing to consider certain arrangements regarding that). ABSOLUTELY NO MEN, nothing against gay people, just not my thing; so don’t ask!
The most recent results from bdsmtest.com is:
== Results from bdsmtest.==
100% Master/Mistress
100% Rigger
100% Degrader
96% Dominant
96% Voyeur
84% Switch
77% Experimentalist
75% Brat tamer
75% Owner
73% Primal (Hunter)
63% Non-monogamist
58% Exhibitionist
43% Sadist
30% Daddy/Mommy
17% Vanilla
6% Ageplayer

I can’t wait to hear from you!

A Submissive and Romantic woman where she is Submissive always wanted to be with a transgender

Partnered but ENM and willing to prove it. She will know but not be involved. Looking to share experiences in BDSM. I'm flexible as to what, exactly, so that would depend on our mutual interests. A mental connection with similar values is important. We will go slowly -- your limits will always be respected. And I would like something regular or semi regular. But if you're just visiting New Orleans, I would be open to a casual scene.

(I am new here, Idk wtf I am doing, please 🐻 with me)
(No Men, honestly not interested) 🥱



Hey! 😀 🏳️‍🌈
Thank you for clicking on my post, please read through the whole thing if you are contacting me... I would really appreciate that Here's a potato for you 🥔

Looking for AFAB, i really have no preference for gender identity and I have nothing against trans folks... I just have weird brain cells that I myself don't understand, it's a weird life. I am sorry if its yucky but I don't know how to explain it. Don't want to hurt anyone's feelings. I am sorry if I am. I have no preference for body size/shape etc. No preference for Masc/Fem Just be a honest person. 🥰

This is for IRL (In Real Life) relationship... If you are in Chicago! Amazing! If you are nearby and willing to meet, amazing! I am not really looking for "online only relationship". 🥰


🍄 # Who the heck is this person? 🍄

So, ummmm... Hi... I am Alex. 32 F.

• Sapiosexual (Brains and Intellectual connection is important to me) 🧠
• Demisexusl (Emotional connection is also extremely important to me, I am extremely empathic) 💙
• Nerdy! I guess that's self explanatory 🤓
• Ambivert? But more of an Introvert. I am shy and quiet untill I get comfortable with you and then you will have to order me to stop talking lol 😆
• I can spend everyday with you if you are one of my friend / loved ones... But strangers / casual friends... Meeting them drains me out and my social battery depletes really quickly. 😭
• Love Computers. Honestly, don't wanna brag but I am kinda good at them and everything computers just come to me easily. 🖥️
• Read a book, have a lazy weekend, spend cozy time, explore the city and earth over parties anyday! (I enjoy spending quality time, making memories, doing meaningful stuff over parties n clubbing... Crowds drain me) 📚

• Extremely brutally honest, honestly can't lie to save my life. 🤔
  
  
  🍄 # Day to day life 🍄
  
  Masc presenting, cis Female (Golden Retriever Masc according to Tiktok lol)

• Have my head in one or another project all the time.
• Programming, Art, Science, Maths 😭, Animation, Development...
• Games, Sports (Wanna join the Boxing club), Music (can't live without it), SPACE, History, Food, Mythology, Chess, Board Games, Books, DIY, Crafts etc.

• Sleeping 😴
  
  
  🍄 # The Kink side of life 🍄
  

• Sub Identifies as Natural Sub, don't do it for the heck of it and kicks or what not. Need BDSM in my life to be content.
• Been into it since I was a *** (stumbled on wrong websites lol) actively practicing it since 2017.
• Into Lifestyle BDSM. It's not a game for me. I love the lifestyle. I take it seriously.
• Masochist.
• I have too many kinks and kinks change as per person... Will not write them here as a shopping list. Can be discussed in private.
• I am willing to try everything once or thrice just to be sure if its for me or not unless it's an absolute hard limit.
• Limits are extremely important to be respected at all times and must not be broken. Unless discussed otherwise.
• Safe words and Aftercare is extremely important to me.

• SSC and everything sane that comes under the umbrella.
  
  
  🍄 # What I am looking for 🍄
  
  A Domme / A Mistress (or whichever salutations you prefer )
  

• Honest ❤️
• Trustworthy ❤️
• Strict ❤️
• Soft ❤️
• Caring ❤️
• Can be a Friend 😄
• Open to Dating ❤️
• An eventual partner ❤️
• Donut Bonus if there's Attraction 🧲
• Basically someone who is also looking to be a friend, domme and be a partner ❤️

• Someone who is NOT an Asshole and resort to ghosting, manipulation, , mind fuck, drama, non-sense dom bullshit etc. (been through that, just leave me alone.) 🤷
  
  I don't want to be a mindless robot sub/slave/pet/toy/girl etc. The one that you come to when you are bored, have nothing better to do and ignore otherwise. I have been with awful doms and dommes, Sadly, I now know exactly what I have to avoid... Even the ones who look like angels are just spineless demons in disguise. I hate that people take so much advantage on name of submission... Honestly, please spare me if you are gonna do that... Target someone else please. 🤷
  
  I am an intellectual I am an empath... When i give myself to someone, I give myself completely... I don't know how to do things the half way... Its all or nothing. I devote so much of myself to my doms that honestly for the right person it can be amazing. Lemme care for you and make your life easier and make you happy Tell you all about space and science and computers and whatever the heck is topic of the day...
  I can make you any art or videos you want My phone is full of memes and thoughtful videos... Let's be friends and explore this life together! ❤️
  
  Be someone who can care for me be my friend but at same time won't hesitate to put me in my place if I am out of line. ❤️
  
  Let's go on dates Lemme cherish you and treat you like royalty You know you deserve it ❤️
  
  Honestly, if we click... It can be amazing ❤️
  
  Let's take this slow and see if we click and if we like the idea of each other... Who knows... Maybe this can be start of something beautiful ❤️
  
  NOT looking for poly. Done with that bullshit. Got only d in that scenario multiple times. 🤷
  
  NOT looking for short term. 🤷
  
  
  🍄 # Read all that? 🍄
  
  Well! We are almost done
  Somethings to keep in mind...
  

• Tired of multiple platforms so, I will ask you to move to Dscrd once I feel comfortable.
• I will ask you to verify by my personal method (after a while)... All sfw. If you are not okay with verifying... Please don't reach out. Idk about you but I don't wanna be catfished. It's good for both of us to get this out of the way.
• I will reply to messages as I see them. I might not be able to reply instantly, please be patient.
• Don't expect me to sub for you in first 11 minutes. Or a week. I am gonna take this slow. If you can't take this slow. Don't bother contacting me.
• I am not a newbie. Just because you ars a dom doesn't mean you are automatically correct. Just makes you an asshole. If you have "I am a dom only I know better" ideology, please with all due respect fck off.
• My bullshit radar is actually pretty good. So, honestly don't bother.

• I was in an awful d/s relationship few months ago... My friends made me realise (after it ended) that it was actually hella bad one... So, I am healing and I might not be at my 100% right now. But I plan to give my all to you as much as I can.
  
  
  🍄 # How to reach out 🍄
  
  Send a chat request with these things included... So that I know you can give me courtesy of at least agreeing to my tiny request of being Dmed in a certain way... Which just adds to the fact that if you can do this I can also take in account that you might also follow my request to respect my limits...
  

• Your favorite planet/celestial body. Why did you choose that planet/celestial body?
• Your Age, Sex, Location.
• Why have you decided to message me?

• A little info about you You just read a whole essay about me, I want to know a bit of you too
  
  🍄🍄
  
  That's all Only looking for IRL, or hybrid... As long as you are willing to meet a lot in real life. A LOT.
  Not just online.
  
  Please be around my age or age can be just a number.
  
  Have an amazing week!
  
  p.s. please only contact me if you are serious. 🍄

Key(m) of this poly couple is looking for a new Sub. Looking for weekly or everyone so often Dom/ Sub sessions. Sub must also be willing to attend swingers club events. Open to all ethnicities and body types. Light bdsm and sexy lingerie!

Must be: submissive; teachable; obedient; willing to be given princess treatment AND used like a slut. 420 friendly. STD free. On birth control.

a bit of a sex and bdsm newbie, very much a masochist, also a bit of a brat. show me a good time?

Ideally close enough to try to play irl

Looking for WOMEN ONLY!!! I’m a bottom and a sub, I want to squirm and leak for you~
No *** and aggressive sadism please 🥰

Looking for a female 18-35 to be a submissive who knows how to submit to a man. If you are fairly new, I will teach you how to submit to your Master. Be a good girl.

I am interested in meeting a dominant man who is patient and willing to help me explore bdsm. I am submissive, love to please in many ways. I don’t want to be ***d or treated like a dirty whore. If you can’t respect limits, do not bother messaging me.

😆

Hi im new to being a sub but i like it so much. i found out that im quite submissve doing the bdsm test. if you wanna use a sub hmu im in for sending photos and doing tasks or anything.

Heyy there I'm an experience bdsm dom master looking for a submissive to train

I'm looking for someone who also is vanilla and willing to learn together or maybe even teach me but I don't know what I'm doing wrong because I guess I don't look good enough or what but I never get no messages so I don't know what I'm doing wrong but if there's anybody either it's interested of talking hooking up NSA LTR BDSM you know let me know hit me up

1. Bdsm isn't inherently sexual.
2. Negotiate aftercare before play begins.
3. Always keep learning.
   3b. Tops & bottoms both need education
4. Don't play with someone if they don't explain the risks.
5. Everyone has limits and it's ok.
6. Everyone is unique, don't expect what will work on one partner will work on another.

Hey there.
I'm Magenta
a 6'2", slender 21yo femboy, and I'm looking for somone who is also into roleplay to help with a particular fantasy ✨️.

Superheroine in peril is basically damsel in distress but with cosplay. As your ultimate damsel: all lithe curves and playful defiance, slipping into a slutty spandex or latex catsuit that hugs every inch like a second skin. (I've already got my glossy black rubber catsuit ready to go, plus ropes for those inescapable binds—saving up for more heroic (or villainous) gear too!) Basically like scenes in classic batman shows where batgirl got tied up by a villain but, you're the villain and I'm the heroine...

Looking for a dominant playmate (gender irrelevant I swing all ways :3) to co-create steamy erotic roleplay and BDSM scenes. You'll be the dastardly villain in your own themed outfit or none, whatever you're comfortable with! And Whatever fuels your evil genius, ambushing, overpowering, defeating this bratty heroine (me).

Looking for scenes of mock-capture and peril, mostly boiling down to play fighting, bondage; struggling and other kinky fun.
We can work in specific kinks too and discuss limits over text.

I've got favorite characters swirling in my head (think fierce femboy versions of classic heroines like a sassy Batgirl (but bunny themed) or cosmic Starfire knockoff), but I'm thrilled to brainstorm yours! Let's make it creative, immersive, and fun! Bonus points if you love taming a cheeky sub who'll squirm and be a bitch just to earn a little comeuppance 😉.

Safe, sane, consensual always—let's chat limits, vibes, and safewords first. DM me if you're a creative dom or switch into This kind of roleplay.

Service area: South Tangerang, Tangerang Regency-Jakarta Region

Send me inquiries to invite me for any activity. I'm always available if i have network data plan
I have no specific gender to meet. I do this professionally, not relationship seeker oriented

Place like hotel, dining or parks ticket must be provided by you

When reaching out to me if you do not include your age with your location city & state in the message it will be ignored.

I am seeking a male sub/switch who is between the ages of 28-60. Absolutely NO EXCEPTIONS to that age range, so don't even ask.

Looking for someone who can fully to commit to a minimum of 2+ sessions per month and medium online interaction between sessions such as kinky calls and messaging.

Where most people are only vetting for similar kinks and STI free, I'm vetting for compatibility, longevity, and overall satisfaction of the dynamic as well. This means I have an extremely thorough vetting process and do not do casual encounters. If you are looking for immediate play or one time interactions do not respond to this posting.

I’m seeking a cisgender male sub/switch between the age of 28-60 located in the Dallas/Fort Worth Texas area or Honolulu, Oahu, Hawaii. I would prefer someone who is into sensual domination, that also likes impact play and anal play. Must be drama and drug free and have a current full 10 test STI panel within 90 days or less. I’m not looking for a one time use sub/switch, but rather someone who is wanting regular sessions at least 2+ times per month or more. Weekly sessions is ideal. I am willing to take on subs/switches new to Femdom, but l have an extensive protocol regarding that type of interaction. I am open to all body types & ethnicities. Tattoos and body modifications are ok, and I like facial hair.

The expectations I have for my subs is pretty simple:

Transparency and honesty
Commitment to our dynamic
Consent
Respect my limits, consent, privacy, and boundaries

About me:

Kink since 2003. BDSM since 2012. Domme leaning switch since 2019. Currently I am engaging in M/s dynamics only as of late 2024.
What I offer my play partner is the opportunity to engage in a safe and consensual dynamic where their needs are met, their limits are respected, and their consent is required. I want to leave my partners better off than the way I found them.

I offer my partners:

Friendship
Emotional Support
Positive Guidance
Healthy Habits & Routines
Physical Intimacy
Safe Kink Exploration
Aftercare
Transparency & Honesty
Respect
Consent
Commitment
Respecting limits, consent, privacy, and boundaries

Looking for mistress to play with me. New to the bdsm lifestyle, and super curious and wanting to explore. I would love to try fisting, pegging speculum stretching Urethral Sounding someone with experience.

Hello BDSM family , I am looking for a slave/ masochist to play with.. around Philly area and can drive .. ping me if you want to be tamed

Looking for people who are new to the lifestyle who are interested in learning more about it and help them explore their kinks and help them find what excites them the most. I’ll always provide a safe environment and respect all limits.

Any possibility welcome ~

Looking for a woman or a couple to experience my BDSM side with. Would love to meet new people and learn more about the lifestyle. Very open to trying new things!

Trying to gain a better understanding of the aspects of BDSM - specifically dom/submissive. What are the proper dynamics? How to keep it from being ? What are common themes or scenarios? Not into , not into ***, simply looking for tips, advice, and a friend to talk with about all of it.

So I had a perfect situation going: she was also married in an ENM relationship. Let’s call her “Jen”. Jen wanted a regular, recurring thing and so did I. She was cute af. Out of respect for her, I won’t go into any details, but we went on a couple of dates and played a couple of times, then I had to end it.

Why?

Jen and I were sexually incompatible: It turns out that through this “girlfriend” experiment, I realized that my own sexual identity is around how hot and erotic my relationship with my own wife is.

However, my beautiful, sweet, owned wife and sub’s actions may have ruined vanilla sex for me - at least in a 1:1 setting. When we play together with others, our dynamic is still active even if it’s invisible…

Back to my mini relationship: she wasn’t into BDSM, but she was a natural Dom. She loved to take control and keep it. The power struggle was sort of fun at first, but then it just became sort of…blah.

Of course, I asked my wife for advice since we’re communicating this whole time anyway, and she at least didn’t call me crazy when I said that I would strongly prefer a slightly kinkier relationship, and that I thought I would start to lead with that approach…

So here I am! Looking for someone that feels easy to hang out with, and can be real, and honest, and your *** true self - the Sub who needs to be praised when she’s a good girl, and gets delicious spankings if she’s being a brat.

In return, you’ll get a kind-hearted friend and Dominant play partner. I won’t be your Dom on principal, but I will act JUST like one - based on your boundaries, needs and desires - once a week or so 😈

Don’t be shy😘