So I had a perfect situation going: she was also married in an ENM relationship. Let’s call her “Jen”. Jen wanted a regular, recurring thing and so did I. She was cute af. Out of respect for her, I won’t go into any details, but we went on a couple of dates and played a couple of times, then I had to end it.

Why?

Jen and I were sexually incompatible: It turns out that through this “girlfriend” experiment, I realized that my own sexual identity is around how hot and erotic my relationship with my own wife is.

However, my beautiful, sweet, owned wife and sub’s actions may have ruined vanilla sex for me - at least in a 1:1 setting. When we play together with others, our dynamic is still active even if it’s invisible…

Back to my mini relationship: she wasn’t into BDSM, but she was a natural Dom. She loved to take control and keep it. The power struggle was sort of fun at first, but then it just became sort of…blah.

Of course, I asked my wife for advice since we’re communicating this whole time anyway, and she at least didn’t call me crazy when I said that I would strongly prefer a slightly kinkier relationship, and that I thought I would start to lead with that approach…

So here I am! Looking for someone that feels easy to hang out with, and can be real, and honest, and your *** true self - the Sub who needs to be praised when she’s a good girl, and gets delicious spankings if she’s being a brat.

In return, you’ll get a kind-hearted friend and Dominant play partner. I won’t be your Dom on principal, but I will act JUST like one - based on your boundaries, needs and desires - once a week or so 😈

Don’t be shy😘

NSA25 to 50 years ● 95km around USA Argyle

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