Firstly I cannot vouch for everyone on my friends list, they have been

As a update 2021, I've recently taken up a interest in photography and would love to get into tasteful fetish shoots so if your interested please get in touch.

I will usually be found at Chelmsford Munch and Play or Chelmscolmunch and possibly The Colchester Munch, of course i will attend many others but these would be my place of choice.

I know what I bring to the table but at times I will choose to eat alone rather than compromise and you too should appreciate and use the same standard of measuring.

There are two kinds of **. The sort of that makes you strong, or useless . The sort of that's only suffering. I have no patience for useless things*

I have been in and around the lifestyle for over 25 years and take my role very seriously, I have my own way of doing things and I do not say that is the only way or the right way just what is right for me. Safe Sane and Consensual is a must or as people prefer now RACK


Notes for Potential play partners*

  1. I am a light vaper and if this is an issue to you then you cant compromise and its best you move along

  2. I do not wish to find a doormat, I need you to have opinions that you share with me and if your a wee bit playful and bratty at times I find that side of you amusing, providing the setting is correct.

  3. I have rules and protocols I will expect you to adopt these will be discussed during negotiation

  4. I will always honour and respect your hard limits, soft limits are fluid and will be pushed

  5. Communication is key, you should be articulate and able to communicate well and without ***.



    == Results from bdsmtest.org ==
    100% Owner
    100% Dominant
    100% Degrader
    100% Sadist
    100% Master/Mistress
    100% Daddy/Mommy
    100% Non-monogamist
    99% Voyeur
    98% Exhibitionist
    77% Rigger
    63% Primal (Hunter)
    56% Experimentalist
    46% Ageplayer
    36% Brat tamer
    0% Vanilla
    0% Switch

BDSM Play Partner30 to 55 years ● 25km around UK Braintree

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