(I am new here, Idk wtf I am doing, please 🐻 with me)
(No Men, honestly not interested) 🥱



Hey! 😀 🏳️‍🌈
Thank you for clicking on my post, please read through the whole thing if you are contacting me... I would really appreciate that :) Here's a potato for you 🥔

Looking for AFAB, i really have no preference for gender identity and I have nothing against trans folks... I just have weird brain cells that I myself don't understand, it's a weird life. I am sorry if its yucky but I don't know how to explain it. Don't want to hurt anyone's feelings. I am sorry if I am. I have no preference for body size/shape etc. No preference for Masc/Fem :) Just be a honest person. 🥰

This is for IRL (In Real Life) relationship... If you are in Chicago! Amazing! If you are nearby and willing to meet, amazing! I am not really looking for "online only relationship". 🥰


🍄 # Who the heck is this person? 🍄

So, ummmm... Hi... I am Alex. 32 F.

  • Sapiosexual (Brains and Intellectual connection is important to me) 🧠
  • Demisexusl (Emotional connection is also extremely important to me, I am extremely empathic) 💙
  • Nerdy! I guess that's self explanatory :) 🤓
  • Ambivert? But more of an Introvert. I am shy and quiet untill I get comfortable with you and then you will have to order me to stop talking lol 😆
  • I can spend everyday with you if you are one of my friend / loved ones... But strangers / casual friends... Meeting them drains me out and my social battery depletes really quickly. 😭
  • Love Computers. Honestly, don't wanna brag but I am kinda good at them and everything computers just come to me easily. 🖥️
  • Read a book, have a lazy weekend, spend cozy time, explore the city and earth over parties anyday! (I enjoy spending quality time, making memories, doing meaningful stuff over parties n clubbing... Crowds drain me) 📚
  • Extremely brutally honest, honestly can't lie to save my life. 🤔


    🍄 # Day to day life 🍄

    Masc presenting, cis Female :) (Golden Retriever Masc according to Tiktok lol)

  • Have my head in one or another project all the time.
  • Programming, Art, Science, Maths 😭, Animation, Development...
  • Games, Sports (Wanna join the Boxing club), Music (can't live without it), SPACE, History, Food, Mythology, Chess, Board Games, Books, DIY, Crafts etc.
  • Sleeping 😴


    🍄 # The Kink side of life 🍄

  • Sub :) Identifies as Natural Sub, don't do it for the heck of it and kicks or what not. Need BDSM in my life to be content.
  • Been into it since I was a *** (stumbled on wrong websites lol) actively practicing it since 2017.
  • Into Lifestyle BDSM. It's not a game for me. I love the lifestyle. I take it seriously.
  • Masochist.
  • I have too many kinks and kinks change as per person... Will not write them here as a shopping list. Can be discussed in private.
  • I am willing to try everything once or thrice just to be sure if its for me or not unless it's an absolute hard limit.
  • Limits are extremely important to be respected at all times and must not be broken. Unless discussed otherwise.
  • Safe words and Aftercare is extremely important to me.
  • SSC and everything sane that comes under the umbrella.


    🍄 # What I am looking for :) 🍄

    A Domme / A Mistress (or whichever salutations you prefer :))

  • Honest ❤️
  • Trustworthy ❤️
  • Strict ❤️
  • Soft ❤️
  • Caring ❤️
  • Can be a Friend 😄
  • Open to Dating ❤️
  • An eventual partner ❤️
  • Donut Bonus if there's Attraction 🧲
  • Basically someone who is also looking to be a friend, domme and be a partner ❤️
  • Someone who is NOT an Asshole and resort to ghosting, manipulation, , mind fuck, drama, non-sense dom bullshit etc. (been through that, just leave me alone.) 🤷

    I don't want to be a mindless robot sub/slave/pet/toy/girl etc. The one that you come to when you are bored, have nothing better to do and ignore otherwise. I have been with awful doms and dommes, Sadly, I now know exactly what I have to avoid... Even the ones who look like angels are just spineless demons in disguise. I hate that people take so much advantage on name of submission... Honestly, please spare me if you are gonna do that... Target someone else please. 🤷

    I am an intellectual :) I am an empath... When i give myself to someone, I give myself completely... I don't know how to do things the half way... Its all or nothing. I devote so much of myself to my doms that honestly for the right person it can be amazing. Lemme care for you and make your life easier and make you happy :) Tell you all about space and science and computers and whatever the heck is topic of the day...
    I can make you any art or videos you want :) My phone is full of memes and thoughtful videos... Let's be friends and explore this life together! ❤️

    Be someone who can care for me be my friend but at same time won't hesitate to put me in my place if I am out of line. ❤️

    Let's go on dates :) Lemme cherish you and treat you like royalty :) You know you deserve it ❤️

    Honestly, if we click... It can be amazing ❤️

    Let's take this slow and see if we click and if we like the idea of each other... Who knows... Maybe this can be start of something beautiful ❤️

    NOT looking for poly. Done with that bullshit. Got only
    d in that scenario multiple times. 🤷

    NOT looking for short term. 🤷


    🍄 # Read all that? 🍄

    Well! We are almost done :)
    Somethings to keep in mind...

  • Tired of multiple platforms so, I will ask you to move to Dscrd once I feel comfortable.
  • I will ask you to verify by my personal method (after a while)... All sfw. If you are not okay with verifying... Please don't reach out. Idk about you but I don't wanna be catfished. It's good for both of us to get this out of the way.
  • I will reply to messages as I see them. I might not be able to reply instantly, please be patient.
  • Don't expect me to sub for you in first 11 minutes. Or a week. I am gonna take this slow. If you can't take this slow. Don't bother contacting me.
  • I am not a newbie. Just because you ars a dom doesn't mean you are automatically correct. Just makes you an asshole. If you have "I am a dom only I know better" ideology, please with all due respect fck off.
  • My bullshit radar is actually pretty good. So, honestly don't bother.
  • I was in an awful d/s relationship few months ago... My friends made me realise (after it ended) that it was actually hella bad one... So, I am healing and I might not be at my 100% right now. But I plan to give my all to you as much as I can.


    🍄 # How to reach out :)🍄

    Send a chat request with these things included... So that I know you can give me courtesy of at least agreeing to my tiny request of being Dmed in a certain way... Which just adds to the fact that if you can do this I can also take in account that you might also follow my request to respect my limits...

  • Your favorite planet/celestial body. Why did you choose that planet/celestial body?
  • Your Age, Sex, Location.
  • Why have you decided to message me?
  • A little info about you :) You just read a whole essay about me, I want to know a bit of you too :)

    🍄🍄

    That's all :) Only looking for IRL, or hybrid... As long as you are willing to meet a lot in real life. A LOT.
    Not just online.

    Please be around my age or age can be just a number.

    Have an amazing week!

    p.s. please only contact me if you are serious. 🍄

Kinky Date18 to 80 years ● 500km around USA Chicago

I am a confident, experienced Domme who thrives on control, structure, and intensity. Power exchange for me is not a game—it’s an art, a connection built on trust, devotion, and discipline. I command respect, and I give clarity, direction, and care in return.

I am seeking a genuine submissive—someone who finds fulfillment in surrender, obedience, and devotion. Loyalty is non‑negotiable; if you are not ready to give yourself fully, do not waste my time. What I offer in return is a clear structure, my guidance, and the stability of a relationship where roles are truly respected.
What I Value in a Submissive

Complete honesty and loyalty

Willingness to learn, grow, and accept discipline

Politeness, attentiveness, and eagerness to serve

Emotional openness and the ability to build lasting trust

About You

You crave structure and feel centered when boundaries and rules guide you. You understand that service is an honor, not a burden. Whether through obedience, personal tasks, discipline, or deeper forms of surrender, your pleasure comes from pleasing me.
What I Offer

A strict but caring hand to guide and mold you

Genuine power exchange rooted in trust, not games

A mix of discipline, training, and rewards for earned devotion

Space for emotional, mental, and physical growth under my direction

If you are truly ready to surrender, step forward with respect and authenticity. In return, you’ll discover the satisfaction of serving a strong, commanding woman who knows exactly what she wants.

Pro-Dom/me Session33 to 75 years ● 150km around USA Nashville

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