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Gender Woman
Age 48
Status Not single
Height 162cm
Body shape Plus-size
Eye colour Brown
Hair length Long
Ethnicity Caucasian white
Origin UK
Pubic Hair Shaved
Body hair None
Zodiac sign Virgo
Smoker
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WARNING: Any individuals or institutions using this site or any of its associated sites do NOT have my permission to use any of my profile or pictures in any form both current or future. If you have or do, it will be considered a serious violation of my privacy and will be subject to legal ramifications.

A while back, Fet.com threw a Dark Horse my way! His messages were ladened with humour, so funny that I was struggling to see what lay beneath but curiosity got the better of me.
A nervous coffee together on a cold bench. So much laughter & talking that hours flew by & even then, talk of play was nervously approached so I was still unaware of what lay beneath this jovial beauty.
OH MY WORD….what lay beneath was the darkest of Dark Horses! Someone who not only allowed me to be my wild self with no judgement but someone who made me want to allow them to take care of my aftercare! Someone who proved that there was someone who could Dominate on my level.
Our beautiful journey has continued since. He is not only my Dom but also my life partner, my soul mate, the missing piece of me & my best friend & I ask that you be respectful of that.

I am a very witty (hilarious & sarcastic), honest (blunt), quirky (weird), strong minded, strong willed & well behaved experienced submissive.
After being a Domme since my teenage years, then leaving that behind to retrain as a sub when I was 40, I know my role very clearly.
I’m may be a big girl (size 20) but I’m also very comfortable in my own skin. I will always class my sub-self as ‘in training’ as there is always something new to learn or experience.

Looking to chat to, learn & share information with experienced Dom/mes, subs (& Wolves in grandmas clothing) within & outside the BDSM world.
I’ve made some amazing friendships & strong connections on here & that’s what’s important to me. I’m happy to continue making friendships & connections as I skip quirkily along this yellow-twisted-sadistic-brick-road.
I am Not looking for any other partners, anything ‘on the side’, any other Dom’s or friendships that suggest ‘let see where this goes’.

I’m a huge believer in ‘if you see something beautiful, say so’ so if I like your pics or comment on them please take it as a compliment, not as a come-on.

I am a BDSM owned sub, I am not here to fill your 5minute sexual whims or self kinks so if the art of your conversation only extends as far as ‘Can I see your tits’, ‘what filth are you into’ & ‘I want to fill you face with my cock’ or stimulating introductions such as ‘hi’, ‘hey’ etc please don’t bother. I will speak to you with respect & manners but also expect the same in return so if your conversation does not start with a polite ‘hello etc’ & jumps straight into some kind of kink led sentence, please don’t expect a reply.
Also I like to know who I’m talking to so a profile with a face photo on is preferable.

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BigPolly
icon-wio BigPolly wrote something in the forum
  • 27.01.2024 11:53:56
  • Female (48)
  • Solihull
  • Not single
Daddy vs dom?

Totally this!! Like you I also went through an (informal) apprenticeship within the club scene.
As much as kink is thrilling and free-ing, to perform any BDSM in a safe way requires practice and knowledge. It requires, agreements, negotiations and/or contracts.
It can include acts that can be Read more… damaging or dangerous if not performed correctly or both/all parties aren’t involved in covering all knowledgable bases available to them.
Even something as simple as using a paddle or cane, needs to be used correctly and not just wavered around.
The internet is great for wide knowledge but you also need to study further afield yourself.
Those suggesting the many variations of what a Daddy or a Dom is, what do your contracts or negotiations state, what are your ground rules and limits to separate you from Masters etc? Because without knowledge and rules, those lines become blurred and as lovely as it is to fit a role around who you are and your personal preferences, without some kind of solid knowledgable or experienced ground rules you leave yourself open to abuse, bullying or something more serious if something goes wrong.

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BigPolly
icon-wio BigPolly wrote something in the forum
  • 20.01.2024 7:44:11
  • Female (48)
  • Solihull
  • Not single
Daddy vs dom?

Personally I feel this whole thread had shown how the internet has caused a ‘Chinese whisper’ effect to the BDSM scene.
Being in clubs years ago, the roles were defined, there was no ‘well I think this & I think that’. The respectful lines between roles were clear.
The beauty of the internet is Read more… this has now allowed people to be who they want and be more open, even stepping over several roles to combine them.
The downside of this is roles are now blurred, it’s a case of ‘I think this…’. The freedom to be yourself is there but learning is now harder in my opinion.
Porn is unfortunately a role leader rather than experiencing anything in reality and because of this people are bouncing around with all sorts of ideas. The thrill of BDSM without the sex is no longer there and like you when I was a Domme in a club I never touched anyone sexually.
We have the freedom to be ourselves which is lovely but strict knowledge is now so far from what it was, it is simply opinion based which is quite scary. The amount of variations on this thread of what a Daddy or a Master is verging on dangerous in my opinion.

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BigPolly
icon-wio BigPolly wrote something in the forum
  • 19.01.2024 20:41:07
  • Female (48)
  • Solihull
  • Not single
Deep dive into the psyche

BDSM allows us to explore ‘control’.
Whatever role we play we are always in control of allowing what happens to us either by setting limits or removing limits. This allows us to visit taboo situations and at what level.
For some of us this is a straightforward lifestyle and it’s who we are, for Read more… others it’s simply intriguing, for others it allows them to revisit places they didn’t want to be in but this time with that element of control.
So is it healing? Only you can decide that but if you are in total control of your play & your scenes then you are going to get out of it exactly what you desire but in order to have complete control you need clarity of mind beforehand.

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BigPolly
icon-wio BigPolly wrote something in the forum
  • 19.01.2024 20:27:24
  • Female (48)
  • Solihull
  • Not single
Daddy vs dom?

? Wow all of this is so way off. I’m not sure where you’ve got your information from but everything about this is just tosh
SM isn’t necessarily sexual and it’s certainly not heavily apparent in the bedroom
SM can be a lifestyle hence why a Master may have a slave. This lifestyle isn’t necessarily Read more… based around sex it can simply be based around the thrill of the lifestyle.
Being called a Master is nothing to do with SandM it depicts the level of power & commitment that that lifestyle holds.
daddies aren’t necessarily in a DDlg or Dom/sub relationship, there are numerous power relationships which hold this title. Suggesting someone might like to be called Daddy to have his ego stroked is a tad insulting.
Being in a partnership where someone is playing the ‘Daddy’ role again isn’t necessarily about sex.
Not all BDSM play is sexual

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BigPolly
icon-wio BigPolly wrote something in the forum
  • 27.12.2023 8:09:27
  • Female (48)
  • Solihull
  • Not single
Looking for advice

It’s not necessarily about ‘going wrong’ it’s simply about discovering and learning. You’re here and that’s a great starting point. Staying on the site, reading the forums and the magazine articles will help. Understanding that you will never stop evolving and learning on this journey so don’t try Read more… and take everything in straight away. The more you learn the more your confidence will grow. Be patient and trust your instincts as there are many scammers waiting to take advantage. Things go wrong and we all make mistakes or mess up from time to time but don’t let those times put you off. Learn from real people and not porn as that will give you a false illusion 😊

LikeKinksterDan, Shilo66, LARopeTop · Jump to discussion
BigPolly
icon-wio BigPolly wrote something in the forum
  • 16.12.2023 10:24:39
  • Female (48)
  • Solihull
  • Not single
How to deal with fear once you've had a bad experience

As far as BDSM is concerned don’t play until you feel comfortable in someone’s presence, emerge yourself in clubs & munches where you don’t have to take part, stop focusing on what you think you need to achieve.
All of this is about fun experiences. Things go wrong for all of us but stop Read more… focusing on the end result. That fear will always be there regardless but overtime some will turn in to an apprehensive thrill.
Limits are there to be installed & removed when necessary so use them and take everything very slowly and gently at YOUR pace, never be bullied into doing or performing in a way that is outside your comfort zone until you’re ready.

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BigPolly
icon-wio BigPolly found their first icon!
  • 08.12.2023 11:55:26
  • Female (48)
  • Solihull
  • Not single
BigPolly
icon-wio BigPolly has bought a Premium-membership!
  • 30.10.2023 15:54:20
  • Female (48)
  • Solihull
  • Not single
BigPolly
icon-wio BigPolly wrote something in the forum
  • 14.10.2023 7:59:03
  • Female (48)
  • Solihull
  • Not single
Newbie to group

Despite it being a relationship, you need to work on what you want and your own boundaries and limits first, once those ideas are in place this will allow you to play with a better mindset.
If you’d rather forgive than punish, then there is nothing wrong with that but you both have to discuss and Read more… decide what outcomes will be.
There is also nothing wrong with scenes not going to plan or changing things at last minute but being constantly ‘unsure’ will just cause you unnecessary stress or frustration.

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BigPolly
icon-wio BigPolly found their first icon!
  • 07.10.2023 12:56:30
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BigPolly
icon-wio BigPolly created a topic in Leather, Latex & Other Fetish Clothing
Thank you Fetish.com and Libidex
I want to put out a huge ‘Thank you’ to Fetish.com!
Before the app was launched, the community on here was smaller and so the competition prizes were much different. One competition saw me winning a £300 voucher to spend at Libidex.
I was bigger then and was conscious about wearing anything rubber Read more…so the voucher sat in my inboxed unused.
4 years on the incredible Libidex agreed honoured my voucher so, not only have we ended up with some amazing rubber bedding, I am now also the proud owner of a stunning, custom made rubber dress made to my exact colour and my exact size!
I can’t thank Fetish.com enough and I can’t begin to tell you how amazing the products from Libidex are!
I would definitely recommend 😊
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ChromeStarz
ChromeStarz Libidex gets all the credit for the amazing catsuit wanderingstarz is wearing (the hood is latexnemesis, and of equal quality)...Libidex gets a big thumbs up from us! Libidex gets all the credit for the amazing catsuit wanderingstarz is wearing (the hood is latexnemesis, and of equal quality)...Libidex gets a big thumbs up from us!
Like · 04.12.2023 21:45:08
Kinkycountryboy A big thumbs up for Libidex from me too. I have an all in one suit from them with a shoulder zip so it is a bit of a begger to get on. But it stands up to the trials of getting it on brilliantly.
And as for this site, I am new on here today so can't really comment too much except that people seem way friendlier than on some fetish platforms. A big thumbs up for Libidex from me too. I have an all in one suit from them with a shoulder zip so it is a bit of a begger to get on. But it stands up to the trials of getting it on brilliantly.
And as for this site, I am new on here today so can't really comment too much except that people seem way friendlier than on some fetish platforms.
LikeBigPolly 29.11.2023 21:45:28
Ajsdiscreet
Ajsdiscreet I love this site more then the others 😍 I love this site more then the others 😍
LikeBigPolly · 29.09.2023 15:46:55
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BigPolly
icon-wio BigPolly picked up the birthday gift
  • 13.09.2023 10:45:34
  • Female (48)
  • Solihull
  • Not single
BigPolly
icon-wio BigPolly wrote something in the forum
  • 10.09.2023 8:33:27
  • Female (48)
  • Solihull
  • Not single
BDSM & Autism: A PSA

Much of the BDSM community (in the uk) are ND, we’re not in the minority as the freedom, sensory seeking aspect & also for some, naivety allows us all to be ourselves (ND & NT). We are also all accepted for our oddities outside of kinks as most things are accepted in our community.
We are Read more… not new to this community & personally I don’t see myself as anyone different on here, I’m just as amazing 😊

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BigPolly
icon-wio BigPolly wrote something in the forum
  • 12.08.2023 18:49:32
  • Female (48)
  • Solihull
  • Not single
BDSM Population & Popularity

Everything has a Start, A Middle and An End. I do feel this site will eventually burn itself out but we are still in ‘the middle’ and had it not been for ‘the start’ we wouldn’t have all got to know eachother 😊
Are we a clique? Possibly but we’re also a group of several hundred who just got to know Read more… eachother on here & followed the same rules & got the opportunity to class eachother as a community. And honestly, I truly believe we had the best of the site before it went nuts. I used to be on here everyday at the start but I just drop in and out now. I still love parts of it like the forum (& this post), I still pick up knowledge from it, I’m still picking up friends from it & I met my partner on here. I guess we just have to filter through a lot more crap now to get to the good stuff & the likes of you & I won’t stop giving our opinion thankfully 😊

BigPolly
icon-wio BigPolly wrote something in the forum
  • 12.08.2023 8:17:24
  • Female (48)
  • Solihull
  • Not single
BDSM Population & Popularity

I also don’t think this site has helped. Again at the beginning it had a community style feel with strict guidelines on pics. Now every other pic being posted is of someone’s d**k! To me, whopping your knob out for the world to see isn’t respectful, it doesn’t adhere to what we are as a community. Read more… It just sells the site as being trash and just a general ‘free for all’ (in my opinion). It’s not kinky or sexy to look down the news feed & see everyone’s todger, it’s not teaching the younger community about rules & respect…. Quite the opposite.
The ‘don’t DM me d**k pics’ thread comes up all the time yet the site allows them there for all to see?!
Same with the video feature, it’s just a general wank bank.
wow this post has really set me off on one 😂

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