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Gender Man
Age 38
Status Not single
Height 50cm
Hair length
Zodiac sign Leo
Smoker
Tattoos
Piercings

About me

Interested in:

I’m looking for:

  • LTR (relationship)

Description

On Fet - Koby

Limits

SD/SB relationships
Ageplay/ Regression/ Littles
Training/Moulding
Punishments
Newbs (with no insight or research)
Rampant Tories
Sandals and Socks combo
Death ( reciprocal)
Liz Truss supporters

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Koby
icon-wio Koby is in a relationship
  • 18.02.2023 0:43:30
  • Male (38)
  • Broxbourne
  • Not single
Koby
icon-wio Koby wrote something in the forum
  • 31.10.2022 7:16:36
  • Male (38)
  • Broxbourne
  • Not single
I need advice..I'm new

My apologies in advance, but play is all fun and games till someone gets hurts.
The goal of S&M or any type of play is fun. I get it...a little bit of fear is exciting and gets the juice flowing.
But if you are in the Dominant/Top position you have to understand the difference between Read more… someone's genuine fear and someone needing abit of mental stimulation.
As others will have said, sit down and chat. Secondly, take things slowly. In my opinion, you may have trust within your everyday relationship. You need to build trust in the kinky part of your relationship - this is separate.
Lastly, with S&M, for me is about the slow buildup. With choking, I would always start with the hands as you have more control.
It's very important that you have your safety strategies in place for when verbal communication is not available.

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Koby
icon-wio Koby wrote something in the forum
  • 31.10.2022 6:58:12
  • Male (38)
  • Broxbourne
  • Not single
Assertive does not equate to being rude

I think there is clear difference between rudeness via assertiveness and just being assertiveness.
Foisting your Dominance (via being assertive) on someone is rude, this is more to do with the ego and the belief your title gives you the freedom to treat all subs as your subordinate.

Koby
icon-wio Koby has updated the limits
  • 16.10.2022 22:47:33
  • Male (38)
  • Broxbourne
  • Not single
SD/SB relationships
Ageplay/ Regression/ Littles
Training/Moulding
Punishments
Newbs (with no insight or research)
Rampant Tories
Sandals and Socks combo
Death ( reciprocal)
Liz Truss supporters
Koby
icon-wio Koby wrote something in the forum
  • 15.10.2022 23:14:30
  • Male (38)
  • Broxbourne
  • Not single
Another gendered kick in the teeth Question.....

What makes a women a women? Typically, it is boiled down to genitalia. For me, that's too simplistic - there are many many layers to us.

Koby
icon-wio Koby posted a status update
  • 03.10.2022 23:46:29
  • Male (38)
  • Broxbourne
  • Not single
I rather die an outcast than live life as a sheep
Koby
icon-wio Koby wrote something in the forum
  • 03.10.2022 1:07:35
  • Male (38)
  • Broxbourne
  • Not single
Dissapointed

The perils of modern dating.....

Koby
icon-wio Koby wrote something in the forum
  • 02.10.2022 0:06:08
  • Male (38)
  • Broxbourne
  • Not single
Empowering a Dom

I think the foundations of a relationship can always be elevated - it does require us to tale a leap of faith and be more open/vulnerable. For me, this has been a watershed moment in previous relationships. I would also say.......provide your Dom a judgement free platform to express themselves

Koby
icon-wio Koby wrote something in the forum
  • 01.10.2022 23:55:50
  • Male (38)
  • Broxbourne
  • Not single
Rules

I think it shows you are invested in the relationship and you have undertaken some sort of reflection in terms what of your needs are.
I also think it's a great test for the Dom both immediately and in the long-term. As a Dom, are you willing to accept a sub who has an idea of who they are and Read more… what they need? As a Dom are you able to adhere to the rules set by your Sub?

Koby
icon-wio Koby posted a status update
  • 01.10.2022 23:45:05
  • Male (38)
  • Broxbourne
  • Not single
I want a sub that thinks outwardly - what are the needs of others? What impact can I make in someone's life? what can I do to enhance someone's life? what can I offer besides my body? what does thinking out of the box look like for a sub?
Koby
icon-wio Koby posted a status update
  • 01.10.2022 23:21:45
  • Male (38)
  • Broxbourne
  • Not single
I don't care about your level of experience, I don't care about the kinks you partake in, I don't care if you are really really submissive, I want to know more about your Humanity !!
Koby
icon-wio Koby wrote something in the forum
  • 01.10.2022 18:03:26
  • Male (38)
  • Broxbourne
  • Not single
Communication is Key - what does that even mean?

Communication is key, but Communication can be challenging and there are very factors that impede our ability to communicate.
I remember prior to breaking up with one of my exes. I tried to express my emotions towards them, in addition to expressing my concerns about the relationship.
Every single Read more… time I tried, I was shut down. It reached the point where I had to end our relationship in the worst possible way....by text message!!

Koby
icon-wio Koby wrote something in the forum
  • 30.09.2022 2:12:51
  • Male (38)
  • Broxbourne
  • Not single
Conversational Consent

Context is key.
Depends on the conversation. What was asked. Why it was asked. In addition, the interpretation of the response given.

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Koby
icon-wio Koby wrote something in the forum
  • 24.09.2022 18:55:48
  • Male (38)
  • Broxbourne
  • Not single
Things poser "Doms" have put me thru

Not to push my own thought process...
Three things are important for me in terms of D/s relationships 1) Intentions 2) Motivations 3) Actions. They need to correlate to have a positive relationship. They also help you to see the individual beneath the "kinkster"
What makes BDSM so difficult is the Read more… fact it is hard to distill the qualities of a potential partner

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Koby
icon-wio Koby wrote something in the forum
  • 24.09.2022 17:18:21
  • Male (38)
  • Broxbourne
  • Not single
Newbie FemDom

Positively, You already have the basics/foundations. I say before talking to each other.... research and see what resonates with you. Dominance can mean different things to different people. In order to shed your anxieties.. you need to see where you fit in and how. Once you have undertaken your Read more… research, you then want to compare notes and find harmony with your husband.

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