Subs, do you care if you're attracted to your dom?

[Ai****]

The title says it all! How do you weigh attraction, energy, and your willingness to submit?

[Ar****]

Attraction is a must have for me.

[Deleted Member]

Being attracted to my dom is essential but it doesn’t always have to be physical. If my dom and I can bond emotionally and there’s a strong sense of trust then I’d be very willing to submit.

[lo****]

I mean it certainly helps but it mostly just depends how comfortable I feel being myself aka *** otherwise the relationship won't work out.

[Ki****]

If my dom talks to me n doesnt beg for ***

[Deleted Member]

Think you answered your question with your question. Do you care if you are attracted to your sub?

[Ch****]

I think attraction is part of the bare minimum but just because there is attraction doesn't mean I'd submit to them. It takes trust and me feeling safe to be that ***

[Lu****]

I struggle when there's not an attraction because I start questioning my self worth.

[Deleted Member]

Yeah, but attraction is subjective because to me, someone can become more attractive by how good they are at learning my mind.

[vi****]

I don’t need any attraction. As being a submissive is the mental aspect

[Km****]

I married my dom

[La****]

Attraction comes in different forms. If you aren't attracted to your Dom in some way, what in the hell are you doing?

For me, there has to be a basic level of physical attraction. I have certain things that I just can't deal with, but in terms of looks, people can appeal to me in lots of different ways. I don't like extremely pretty, either. My self confidence can't cope 🤣

[Deleted Member]

Im not always physically attracted to someone when I first meet them, but then grow physically attracted as we bond emotionally. So yes, it is important, but I wouldn’t write someone off right away if that physical attraction isn’t there…yet.

This also goes the other way for me. I can be very physically attracted to someone but if they betray my trust, or are not a nice person, that attraction goes away.

[Deleted Member]

Attraction comes in many forms. I have to be (am) attracted mentally and physically. Someone can be very handsome, but doesn't do anything for me mentally... that will not work. If you can't carry an intelligent conversation, that is a no for me. I am lucky! I have a Master who is both handsome and intelligent! He is stimulating my mind AND my body. Often times my body with his mind!!

[ge****]

Absolutely there has to be a level of attraction there - it may not be physical attraction, but there needs to be something by way of connection (which in itself is a form of attraction) - without it not only would I feel like I wasn't being honest with the person concerned, or myself, but it would completely cheapen the experience

[ca****]

Life throws curveballs at you, A small five minute conversation can completely change on how attractive you find someone, Good health practice is a factor as well.

[NotHisPrincess]

Attraction is just about looks for me although that is part of it. I'm drawn to people and their energy.
If I am not attracted to them they will not be the right person for me to spend time with but I can't tell really until meeting.
Remember everyone is attracted to different things out there.

[Sc****]

4 hours ago, theeebestsub said:

Yeah, but attraction is subjective because to me, someone can become more attractive by how good they are at learning my mind.

Yes! Physical attraction is great, but it's the mental connection that comes first for me (obvious sapio here). I've connected with those who I might normally be physically attracted to because there was a great pairing of mental state and kink.

[Stacik2]

For me a dominant person can be either gender although I prefer a male because males seem to be kinkier. I think for me the fact that another person is interested in having fun training me to be a sissy they like it's not looks that make them hott its again the fact that they are wanting/willing to let me be their sissy for all involved.

[be****]

I definitely need attraction - of mind and body otherwise i would never feel an incentive to connect, never mind play or engage in a D/s constellation. i’m sapiosexual so i need more than just body to make me want to engage more

[Tu****]

Personally, I think the energy and personality add to the attractiveness. So even if not the most physically attractive at first, they can be the most attractive person after feeling the chemistry. There are some people where my body just naturally wants to give them what they want. Regardless of what they look like.

There are multiple things that make someone attractive. If we are speaking strictly about looks, those change over time. Someone's mind and soul are more attractive than their looks.

So to answer the question yes I need to be attracted to my Dom. But their energy determines the other 2 for me.

[Deleted Member]

Mental and emotional connection makes one attractive. Without those nothing else matters. Talking about submitting it comes from far deeper place than just “physical” attraction on its own.

[De****]

As a demisexual person, I can say that I’m absolutely attracted to my Dom. However, for me my attraction is based on the connection between us rather than physical looks. I don’t think that most people who enter to a relationship or dynamic without some form of attraction.

[mi****]

Their willingness

[me****]

I don't care if I'm physically attracted to them only mentally . As a Dom , if you are too disrespectful to understand what I will and won't do than you're a sub I don't find attractive sub wise .