Earning her submission

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2 hours ago, FireStar48 said:

A True Dom knows that there is a bond that is created between him and his sub. A sub is bonded to her Dom when she feels safe, protected, respected and heard. Her full submission is easily given when she is relaxed and comfortable. Her duty is to serve her Dom with respect, openness and willingness to provide him pleasure, excitement, fulfillment and submission at their agreed upon comfort levels. There should always be open discussion and dialogue prior to play sessions.

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2 hours ago, flamtam said:

To me when a woman does this it implies she has a deeper rooted issue from a past I was not a part of and have no intention of fixing. The problem is not mine and I am not here to fix her.

A truly submissive and interested woman will not have these safeguarded measures in the way, she's just about it. Her submission is in how she lives not just for the right man. There's rules for men she doesn't like and the men she likes she breaks those same rules for. Learning which side you are on is crucial.

Earned submission doesn't exist as earned domination doesn't exist. It just exists without permission.

Jesus Christ what world do gimps like you hatch from

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55 minutes ago, ThePleasureDom70 said:

What about all the fake Doms. Who expect the woman before even meeting to send pics engages in dirty phone sex and all sorts. These Fake Doms think Submissive woman are easy lays, Wrong. Bad mistake! They forget. WHOEVER gives can take away, the Submissive gives her body willingly to her chosen Dom she can also take it away and theres nothing he can do about it. So I ask Who is really in control ???

Very well spoken.

[py****]

You clearly need a dictionary and a map, because you’re clueless about spelling and very lost.

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49 minutes ago, Alvingal said:

Not sure if it would be worth your time to be honest

Probably not, but I wanted to see whether there would be a double-down, and the additional bonus of outing his views 

[Te****]

I already commented, but wanted to add that maybe he is looking for cnc?
Even then, it requires a significant amount of trust in the partner.
Trust that is EARNED.
We need to know they have our well-being in mind and that they won't actually hurt us.
PS- im not a fan of cnc, don't need my inbox blowing up.

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5 hours ago, knottyspanks said:

A lot of fake everything.. fake subs.. fake brats .. a lot of women who think being a b*tch is acceptable to someone they first meet cause they say “I’m just a brat” lmfao 🤣.. this lifestyle ain’t what it used to be for sure

You sound like one of those manosphere incels. "Women are allowed to make their own choices 😭"

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59 minutes ago, GalaxyBrat said:

Without the subs trust you as a Dom have nothing point blank. I think you are confusing kink and actually bdsm submissive/Dom relationship. A sub will not just trust you especially when you have scenes in mind. Yes soft and hard limits give you an idea of what you can expect BUT you need that subs trust and you won't get it by one glance, by barking orders expecting them to be blindly followed nor by not actually communication. You are a dangerous Dom and one that won't have a sub for more than an hour if that. And once again if that is what you want you need to look at kink rather then BDSM and an actual submissive/dominate relationship.

He's not a dom. He's just looking for someone to ***.

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2 hours ago, TeapotandD1990 said:

I think what the female actually wants is just the feeling of being wanted and feeling pretty. It's not submission she wants she wants to be used nice and nasty and be bossed and told what to do. To be bombarded with you're attention.

Nope.

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3 hours ago, flamtam said:

To me when a woman does this it implies she has a deeper rooted issue from a past I was not a part of and have no intention of fixing. The problem is not mine and I am not here to fix her.

A truly submissive and interested woman will not have these safeguarded measures in the way, she's just about it. Her submission is in how she lives not just for the right man. There's rules for men she doesn't like and the men she likes she breaks those same rules for. Learning which side you are on is crucial.

Earned submission doesn't exist as earned domination doesn't exist. It just exists without permission.

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20 minutes ago, TeasingAvalon said:

I already commented, but wanted to add that maybe he is looking for cnc?
Even then, it requires a significant amount of trust in the partner.
Trust that is EARNED.
We need to know they have our well-being in mind and that they won't actually hurt us.
PS- im not a fan of cnc, don't need my inbox blowing up.

I was going to say CNC takes even more trust than a regular scene. No dynamic is a safe dynamic when it involves *** but CNC is dangerous even with a small amount of trust.

[ce****]

Submitting is the ultimate version of trusting. Both are connected deeply. Trust comes with communication and understanding each other. Trust is the foundation.

[kn****]

You should really try to keep your negative thoughts off posts.. imagine joining a community and then talking negative about the members ? You definitely don’t belong in the site.. you don’t even have pics without filters.. it’s almost as if I nerve.. and exposed someone who believes she’s a brat when she’s actually not s brat.. she’s just rude and condescending to members of a community in which she desperate wants to belong

[Mi****]

Either you are dom or sub. Those are both personality traits. However, unless you have no real since of self and safety, you dont just jump into a submissive roll with just anyone. Thats what conversations and guidelines are for. If you dont trust your partner explicitly to take care of you through the entire experience, then you can not truly give over control of your body and surroundings. This is normal. Anyone that assumes that just because one person classifies as a sub and you classify as a Dom means that they will automatically give over control is not a dom but a narcissist. Some of the strongest women I know in public are the most submissive in private, but only with a trusted partner in place. Not to mention that in a true dom/sub relationship, the sub has all the power. They can end any interaction with one word, and if you dont understand that then you need to do more research on the community in general.

[Am****]

You're young, in time you'll learn that it's more fruitful to go beyond the dom role and into a Masters seat.

[Da****]

I don't think the conversation around her submitting should come up if she's not already thinking she might be willing. while it is absolutely reasonable that the Dom must have the trust and respect of the sub before proceeding to any scene/play, it seems rather manipulative for it to be put in that way to the dom.

basically, I would assume that sub would be popping from the bottom ad infinitum.

$0.02

[Gu****]

Lol talk about a red flag. Absolutely not.
Dom sub dynamics are intimate and require a lot of communication safety and trust.
Expecting someone to just submit to you for submissions sake is dangerous and not a perspective of any dom I would ever engage in or ever stay silent about someone engaging in

[Sy****]

"Earning" submission is bacicly earning their trust. "Bow down to her wants"? U realize than unless it's a TPE both subs and doms preferences matter and should be met?

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5 hours ago, FtM_ShyPup said:

Submission requires trust because you need to feel safe to submit too many "doms" want power but no responsibility. I use to just submit but I was almost killed by a fake dom who didn't have any experience and tried to strangle me with his full forearm.

So now submission is earned for my own safety I've had too many fake doms put my health and safety at risk.

I’m sorry you experienced this!

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6 hours ago, lilkitten34 said:

Personally this is red flag behavior. You are not ok to go around telling people this. And it’s dangerous. Submitting to someone takes trust and sometimes even putting my LIFE in someone else’s hands. That absolutely IS EARNED. Trust is earned. Just because I’m submissive doesn’t mean I “just bow down to anyone”. That’s a great way to get myself hurt and to put myself in a very traumatic situation. Don’t put other women in that same scenario because you and them are both inexperienced and can’t crack a book or do some real research on what being a Dom means. I like to say being dominant and being A DOM are not the some. For one. One is a noun and one is a an adjective. The adjective is required for the noun. It the adjective does not MAKE YOU the noun. Being dominant does not make you a Dom. knowing how to treat a sub is what makes you a Dom

I completely agree with you! I have seen this so often. People who think being dominant makes them a Dom. ABSOLUTELY NOT. I had one claim he wanted to spoil me and be a soft Dom and then he turned out to not be a Dom of any sort. Just an angry man who was taking it out on women.

[Sh****]

Bro, you're confusing being an ***r with being a Dominant. Subs are still humans with free will, the point of the Dom is crafting the space that makes them want to submit because they enjoy being in the space you've created. Not from *** or obligation, that's ***.

Your opinion is what happens when your only engagement with BDSM is porn. It's completely detached from reality and just a creepy power fantasy.

[Bl****]

No, I haven’t heard of those… But I have heard a fake Dom’s just demanding that we trust, and submit, to them without building a relationship. 🤷🏼‍♀️

[Te****]

I'm proud to see so many of you coming together to drag this individual to the dumpster.

What saddens me is the number of likes on this post, showing how many agree with OP.

Get your block lists going, fellow subs!

[Sc****]

I respect your opinion but i think theres a level of trust needed to be earned. Not jump through hoops but trust. At the end of the day in the dynamic, the sub is trusting to give you power over them. And when you’re talking brats, it ain’t supposed to be easy. It’s part of the fun of reeling them back in.

[km****]

Omg, I hope the newbie subs that don’t read, research, try learning and understanding aren’t going to fall for this horrible crap.