Earning her submission

[Deleted Member]

This guy is a hard pass

[bi****]

Please no one listen to this as this is absolutely not how it works.....WOW

[Sk****]

D/s requires trust. Trust is earned, not given. Youre attitude is toxic and a red flag factory. To blindly trust some rando would be insane, thats how people end up injured or dead.

[Mi****]

Absolutely disagree. Earning submission just means that she needs to trust you before she submits. So she can submit fully without ***. If you didn't earn that it's probably because something about you feels off and her instinct is to stay away rather than give in. That's a you problem that you are taking out on women and that's got a lot to do with why women don't trust you. You seem like the type who actually wants to hurt a woman and you aren't into it for the sex like the rest of us. Seek therapy

[bi****]

Please no one listen to this as this is absolutely not how it works.....WOW

[kn****]

This guy watches too much porn and doesn't understand the lifestyle. Big red flag here.....keep away

[us****]

u could put an actual red flag on top of ur head & this post would still do a better job at scaring away subs

[Be****]

Earning submission is about going our trust and giving us a sense of security. I refuse to be *** and offer my submission to man I do not trust or feel safe with.

[Be****]

Sorry for all the typos 😅 that post has so many warning bells going off in my head lol

[Kr****]

It kind of depends on what she means by earning her submission. I would take it as a challenge. There are ways to prove yourself to a sub without you being submissive to them. All title need to be earned not just given.

[CG****]

I 100% disagree with you. A dom should always earn the sub's submission. Bdsm is built on trust. Think about it this way. You need to earn a partner's trust. A dom needs to earn a sub's trust. And a sub needs to earn a dom's trust. No one, and I mean no one, should automatically trust someone else because they "claim" to be a dom or a sub. That claim needs to be earned. Saying you are something and being it are two different things. It is a big red flag to me, for anyone, dom or sub, to instantly expect trust, dominance, or submission.

[hu****]

I stand on that it’s a Dom’s job to earn submission

[Go****]

I want to completely submit to a woman as her sub. That does require a lot of trust on my part. As a sub I’m not just looking for a woman to satisfy my sexual needs. I’m craving a woman whom pleasing is my ultimate goal. So yes. She has to earn that

[ra****]

Huge huge red flag. Have you watched 50 shades of grey and thought "yep that's how it works".

I'm a girl, and I have to earn that position of being their Domme. I don't use honorifics until I've been with them a while.

[qu****]

As it’s been said here by many people it’s trust trust trust if you can not get that then you never will. It’s not a case of a Dom bowing down to the Subs wants and needs at all a Dom has their part to play and the Sub has their part to play wether they are male or female the one who is being the dominant one must earn the respect and trust of the one submitting. If the person who is being the sub can’t trust the dom to do the right thing by the sub like stop the second the safe word has been said then don’t expect the person who is the sub to submit its pure and simple. The person who is the Dom must gain respect and trust before anything happens as one person has already said this life style could and can lead to serious *** or death and steps are there to ensure this doesn’t happen and the biggest step forward is for the Dom to gain the trust and respect of the Sub

[an****]

Not me

[jpb]

Noticing a lot of guys thinking that self identifying as a dom somehow means anything and should grant them some unquestionable status, i think you sound like utter nobs

[sa****]

A fake sub huh? Hummmm. Naw. Earning submission means you've earned trust.
Its easy to submit naturaly to a real Dom
🤷🏻‍♀️

[Am****]

You've committed sideways on this topic my friend ,your opinion is yours by all rights but it doesn't make it true or right in our community most people need time to build trust and comfortability even nymphomaniac service subs there's plenty of social gatherings and classes try one out before you get a common misconception on what a Dom is or isnt Subs have just as much or sometimes more "power" in the relationship as Doms

[ok****]

Wednesday at 06:50 AM, tallnbig said:

Sleeping with a man requires submission. You are literally contradicting yourself

Only if he's an ***r

[Tr****]

Two words: "Trust" and "Consent"

[ra****]

Tuesday at 10:14 PM, tallnbig said:

I get not blindly trusting, as you should NEVER DO THAT. But if we have talked for a period of time, YOU AGREED TO COME OVER AND SLEEP WITH ME, you can’t then say “ oh hey by the way you have to show me in person you are worth it before I submit” 💀💀💀🤡🤡🤡🤡 give me a break. Get off the app.

Submission is not the same as saying “yo, you’re cool. Let’s bump uglies, respectfully, of course” 🙄

If you don’t know the difference between a casual encounter between two consenting adults and a power exchange dynamic, you’re part of the problem for people who are actually looking for a healthy dynamic, but have to sort through an inbox full of absolute nonsense sent by people who apparently think reading is too hard to be able to understand what a hard limit is.

[ja****]

This is an awful take, and it doesn't seem like you are the one who understands how it all works, like at all. Why would someone just submit to you without 1: you giving them a reason to want to submit, and 2: you making them feel safe enough to trust you like that, neither of which come from you just existing or demanding that they automatically submit to you. It sounds like you're angry because you're realizing it's not actually how you thought it was and that you have to put in WORK to EARN your spot as a dom. You will not get much respect, and therefore submission, with your mindset.

[Ba****]

Wednesday at 12:50 PM, tallnbig said:

Sleeping with a man requires submission. You are literally contradicting yourself

Wait is that what people are told during religiously motivated abstinence education??

But no outside of prison and scripture sex and submission are not directly related

Sure elements of submission can even be found in vanilla sex, it’s definitely not as universally one sidedly gendered as you like to imply
And you do understand that there are femdoms in this community, right??

Also sex is much more fun when both people go at it trying to submit the other, depending on maturity „loosing“ can be quite fun 9/10 highly recommended^^

[Lo****]

“Earning” a submission is about building trust. That’s whats granted. As a Submissive person, we may pick up on energy, and want to naturally follow it, but there’s a difference.