Earning her submission

[Re****]

This way of thinking is what scares the hell out me trying to find an experienced dom. I dont want to just "submit" to the first dom I meet , I dont know him or trust him. What are some ways of finding an experienced dom that isn't just out for there own personal agenda?

[Vi****]

2 hours ago, Rebel9786 said:

This way of thinking is what scares the hell out me trying to find an experienced dom. I dont want to just "submit" to the first dom I meet , I dont know him or trust him. What are some ways of finding an experienced dom that isn't just out for there own personal agenda?

The only way is time. Yo have to build the relationship and decide along the way if he's worth submitting to

[CG****]

2 hours ago, Rebel9786 said:

This way of thinking is what scares the hell out me trying to find an experienced dom. I dont want to just "submit" to the first dom I meet , I dont know him or trust him. What are some ways of finding an experienced dom that isn't just out for there own personal agenda?

Let their actions guide you. If all they seem to act like or want is submission, that isn't a good dom. If all they want is sexual, that isn't a good dom. If they guide you through difficulties, and their actions make you feel supported and show you that they genuinely care, that's a good dom.

Kink can be learned, being an a** is permanent. A good dom admits what they don't know, and is willing to learn with you. A bad dom insists they lnow everything to begin with, and won't be *** or admit faults.

My strongest recommendation, find something you mesh with at a personality level, and if they don't have the experience you want, learn it together.

[Ba****]

2 hours ago, Rebel9786 said:

This way of thinking is what scares the hell out me trying to find an experienced dom. I dont want to just "submit" to the first dom I meet , I dont know him or trust him. What are some ways of finding an experienced dom that isn't just out for there own personal agenda?

Try looking for a open minded and honest one instead

Experienced doesn’t always mean good/ethical

Just make sure not to waste your trust on people who didn’t earn any and you’ll be fine

[Po****]

Good demonstration of why this app may need a dislike button

[Re****]

Thank you so much for the advice, its so nice to get "real" feedback, and to know that you genuine guys are actually on here that care. This gives me hope❤️

[CG****]

14 hours ago, Rebel9786 said:

This way of thinking is what scares the hell out me trying to find an experienced dom. I dont want to just "submit" to the first dom I meet , I dont know him or trust him. What are some ways of finding an experienced dom that isn't just out for there own personal agenda?

One additional note, please please please be careful of Doms that volunteer to be "your dom" without a vetting process. Your profile says "inexperienced sub" seeking "experienced dom" and while there is something to be said for that goal, it will invite more predatory Doms than positive ones. It may be very hard to weed out. In my eyes being a dom requires more trust than being a bf/gf. So be very very careful, especially with people you are getting to know anonymously.

[Ry****]

This is a terrible view on it. The point is there is consent between parties. You are only a Dom in as far as you respect your subs boundaries. I feel bad for any woman who has you as their, "Dom". Grow up. Learn what kink actually is before you claim to partake in it.