Need advice

[Ro****]

It's just one meet, she's possibly looking for consistency and intentions. In insisting for other munches/meet she's able to observe and determine if someone is genuinely interested in her as a person or if it was a one night interest. Often we meet someone and the interest is high on the first meet but it dissipates as soon as we hold up the wait card. This shows us they were looking for the low effort fling. I commend her as newbies often jump in feet first. If you do like her, keep your interest consistent but not overwhelming.

[Jo****]

Hi, healed yet traumatized woman, here… she’s laying out boundaries and she’s doing it the right way. Personally, I Friendzone everyone I meet I don’t care what you look like who you are where you come from what you did who you’ve been with you are in the friend zone until further notice. That’s how I operate. I wanna get to know the community YOU are a part of. I want to get to know the people that you choose to be around. I want to know what your mentality is like. I want to know more about you before I decide what to do with you where to put you in where you fit in in my existence. ESPECIALLY when we talking about ANYTHING remotely close to my body autonomy. If anybody is taking my energy, it’s because I gave it to them freely not because they chased me not because they pressured me pursued me whatever you wanna call it just because you think I’m nice and Friendly doesn’t mean that I’m open to anyone being a companion for me that is going to be compatible. Butterflies and all of that are cute or whatever but a lot of it is mis-read intention, confusion, based on loneliness, rather than genuine, authentic clicks in connection that turns into long term relationship investments. I literally do not meet anybody with them. Mine said that it will go further than this one interaction. Especially when it comes to men. When it comes to men, my guard is way higher. Why because men that’s why. We are still too soon living in a society where dismantling the patriarchy is becoming more than just an idea. We need to build that trust back as people as a system, until that happens, people need to be skeptical have their guard up and not get in their feelings when they’re rejected because we have forgotten how to function as human beings. The loneliness epidemic, Is very real. So kindness is always free, but never expected.