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Cu****

Cu****

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It constant amazes me that on these kinds of websites, there is a distinct lack in what i would call 'elegance ' when someone pm's you.

 

I always say, unless you are 3/4 tanked/***ed/sloshed/3 sheets to the wind,  would you start a convo with a stranger the way you do here (or elsewhere)..

So

 

 

Nice tits wanna cum all over them

Hey babe suck my cock

Father/son wanna split you

Im into watersports

Hey c*nt/slut/bitch/wh*re

10 inch bbc here

 

Or any other such variation really are turn offs.

 

Think before you say.

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SexxyMoeFoe

SexxyMoeFoe

Posted

In my experience those messages come from guys who aren't really into kinks but think that kinky girls are easy or slutty. I immediately dismiss them as inexperienced or fuckboys no matter what their profiles say.

 

💯 a turn off and probably will block them with no reply.

BigPolly

BigPolly

Posted
Totally agree, this is written on my profile. Trouble is those that introduce themselves like this never read your profile 😂

Deleted Member

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Seriously? Is that a majority of messages, or experienced by a majority of women?
BigPolly

BigPolly

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35 minutes ago, Cleris88 said:

Seriously? Is that a majority of messages, or experienced by a majority of women?

That or the classic riveting ‘Hey’ or ‘Hi’ 😂

AKA_Copper

AKA_Copper

Posted
4 minutes ago, BigPolly said:

That or the classic riveting ‘Hey’ or ‘Hi’ 😂

Especially when you've been nice and replied to that initial 'hi' and then thats all you get for the next 5 messages 🙄

Mattyy0099

Mattyy0099

Posted

LOL. i never use these tactics but would also say getting any response is invariably extremely unlikely.  Those guys are clearly arseholes and they only deserve blocking. Anyone else that takes some time to say hello deserves some response. The only caveat to that is if you are smoking hot with a full informative profile you should expect some considered message. If you have a blank profile and no photo then perhaps "hello" is all you deserve , if you never have any intention of even replying "no thanks" ......🤔......think i might of veered off topic there. 😂😂😂  Block the arseholes ladies. X

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I often write back and confront them - say exactly that. "Would you introduce yourself to a woman in a pub this way". Or just block them with the message unread depending on how I feel. Setting your message filters makes a big difference - require a photo, require at least 50 characters etc. And being a feisty b*tch on the forum cuts down on the messages too 🤗.
qu****

qu****

Posted
Mind you the chatrooms can be as bad, not so much the lobby, but on occasssion you'll see some guy say sitting here stroking my cock, any offers, then slag the site off due to no response. I wonder why they're ignored 🤷

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Invariably I get no response to my intro messages so I rarely bother now because I understand women get so many messages and it's hard work to respond to them all and exhausting when most of them are just plain rude as you say in your post. 

Du****

Du****

Posted
Hard agree. I’m not prepared to put up with “Hey” as an opener. How any man thinks that’s an acceptable way to introduce himself to a woman - let alone a dominant woman who is apparently old enough to be their mum(!) - is beyond me.
I think women can help to raise standards for themselves and each other by not tolerating the kind of behaviour you describe. Unfortunately, in some cases it works…

Apologies for being cis/het focused in my response. Good manners should be universal.
Du****

Du****

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54 minutes ago, Axlsub said:

Invariably I get no response to my intro messages so I rarely bother now because I understand women get so many messages and it's hard work to respond to them all and exhausting when most of them are just plain rude as you say in your post. 

I ignore the vast majority of messages I receive, because they’re rude, illiterate, obviously copy-pasted, or all three. However if I can see that the sender has read my profile and made a pleasant introduction - doesn’t have to be an essay - I will usually reply. Even if it’s just to say a polite no thank you. If the guy is not prepared to make the tiniest bit of effort, he’s not going to be the kind of guy I want to get to know.

ey****

ey****

Posted

the thing also

responding to a lot never plays well

So many end up put the pressure on having a conversation on the person being messaged.

Like

"Hey"

and you know replying is going to be a chore.  But. you feel in a good mood and maybe the person just has a little trouble... ok...

"Hey!"

and then you wait for a response.  Will it be "wanna fuck?" or... fuck... worse....

"How are you?"

Fuck.  And like, actually, there's a lot of stress at the moment - and - things you're a bit worried about... but this person is a stranger so.

"Good, thanks. And you?"

Good Lord.... this is is going to be ***ful... is he *actually* going to converse here - is he going to go in for the "wanna fuck?" - or are we going to get fucking stuck in this small talk hell loop?

Du****

Du****

Posted
17 minutes ago, eyemblacksheep said:

the thing also

responding to a lot never plays well

So many end up put the pressure on having a conversation on the person being messaged.

Like

"Hey"

and you know replying is going to be a chore.  But. you feel in a good mood and maybe the person just has a little trouble... ok...

"Hey!"

and then you wait for a response.  Will it be "wanna fuck?" or... fuck... worse....

"How are you?"

Fuck.  And like, actually, there's a lot of stress at the moment - and - things you're a bit worried about... but this person is a stranger so.

"Good, thanks. And you?"

Good Lord.... this is is going to be ***ful... is he *actually* going to converse here - is he going to go in for the "wanna fuck?" - or are we going to get fucking stuck in this small talk hell loop?

Prècisement. The person who initiates the conversation bears the responsibility for engaging the recipient’s attention. In my experience it goes like this:
-Hi. Hey. Hi sexy. Hi x. U there? [this is like, five separate messages]
-[Me] I prefer not to chat, thanks
-Why’s that
-You haven’t filled in your bio
-So?
-So I don’t know if I’m interested in you
-So talk to me
-But you haven’t said anything interesting either
-Ok what d’you wanna know
-Nothing, I didn’t approach you in the first place

Personality goes a long way. It also offers a much higher rate of return when you do get to the “Wanna Fuck” stage…

sp****

sp****

Posted
The guys that say all that then immediately follow with a dick pic (not asked for) and then asked for a pic in return....err nope. Your being blocked and deleted.
Ex****

Ex****

Posted
From my understanding people who can only converse with obscenity will not have an actual perception of what bdsm means and to use words of intellect without swearing. So the only way they can communicate is to use easy words and when they don’t like what they hear then they start to become contentious.
Du****

Du****

Posted
7 hours ago, BigPolly said:
Totally agree, this is written on my profile. Trouble is those that introduce themselves like this never read your profile 😂

Preach it, ***! 😂

Winston60

Winston60

Posted

I have found that quite a few of my conversations have started with me complimenting someone on one of their pictures.  That allows you an easy way to interact I think.  And if someone likes that comment, especially if they reply, then I might send them an actual message.  I do message people directly too, but I always try to be polite, friendly and talk in the way you might in a real conversation (which this is!).  I've got pictures on my profile, and if someone becomes my friend they can choose to look at them or not. 

SexxyMoeFoe

SexxyMoeFoe

Posted

OMG, I have had t o put up with everything mentioned here. It's sad how little effort people put into anything. I reply to almost anyone with a profile who is polite. Even without a profile I'll say I prefer not to chat. This of course leads to replies that I think I am too good for people... Also, there are many who think replying to a message shows interest in your part, when you are simply replying... It's a lose-lose situation. You are the bad guy if you don't reply, but you are the bad guy if you DO reply to say no thanks or say you are happy to chat but don't have any interest in more than that... SMH. 

I also totally understand it's frustrating for the [guy] initiating because most of the time you don't get a reply and after a while you don't think it's worth the effort.  I get that, but on the off chance that you may get a reply from someone you are actually interested in, put in a little effort.

One of the worst for me is the "doing anything sexy tonight/this weekend".  I feel like these guys think I am here to entertain them or fulfill their fantasies.  They just come here and pick a woman and have her tell you sexy stories.  That's exactly how it works.  Yep, that what I do all the time. Sexy things.  Me and the girls just laying around in our lingerie teasing some naughty boy blah blah blah.  Please let me entertain you, stranger, with my sexy plans.  

Suck_My_Pizzle

Suck_My_Pizzle

Posted
7 hours ago, Axlsub said:

Invariably I get no response to my intro messages so I rarely bother now because I understand women get so many messages and it's hard work to respond to them all and exhausting when most of them are just plain rude as you say in your post. 

Same here! I have an "I give up" attitude now. I do nothing any of these women have been complaining about, I like to think I have a decent ish profile, I open with a detailed friendly message that is often relating to their profile, I'm polite and respectful, yet I get a lot less than 1 in 30 reply. According to the women replying here, in comparison to the rude guys which apparently form the vast majority I should be great! So what gives when you seem to be doing nothing wrong but can't even get a friendly reply or conversation, let alone any sexual interest. I've put a lot of effort into the opening messages I've sent, maybe couple hundred different women getting few to no replies, now I tend to think I'm gonna start to just let the women open with a message instead. Of course very few women tend to do this since it's expected that the guy approach. So on this website now I just sit and watch threads like this lol

Du****

Du****

Posted
1 hour ago, SexxyMoeFoe said:

OMG, I have had t o put up with everything mentioned here. It's sad how little effort people put into anything. I reply to almost anyone with a profile who is polite. Even without a profile I'll say I prefer not to chat. This of course leads to replies that I think I am too good for people... Also, there are many who think replying to a message shows interest in your part, when you are simply replying... It's a lose-lose situation. You are the bad guy if you don't reply, but you are the bad guy if you DO reply to say no thanks or say you are happy to chat but don't have any interest in more than that... SMH. 

I also totally understand it's frustrating for the [guy] initiating because most of the time you don't get a reply and after a while you don't think it's worth the effort.  I get that, but on the off chance that you may get a reply from someone you are actually interested in, put in a little effort.

One of the worst for me is the "doing anything sexy tonight/this weekend".  I feel like these guys think I am here to entertain them or fulfill their fantasies.  They just come here and pick a woman and have her tell you sexy stories.  That's exactly how it works.  Yep, that what I do all the time. Sexy things.  Me and the girls just laying around in our lingerie teasing some naughty boy blah blah blah.  Please let me entertain you, stranger, with my sexy plans.  

Ah yes, the old Weekend Wank Window. JHFC, if you want to knock one out just watch Porn like a normal person, don’t involve me. Plus it’s 11.30am you lazy twat, I’m in the supermarket 🙄

Du****

Du****

Posted
I have literally just replied to someone to tell him that the words “cum eating ass fucking sissy slut” do not belong in his INTRODUCTORY MESSAGE. There is no excuse for this, especially on a kink site. We’re all here because we’re kinky, we can leave this until we’ve *at least said hello*.
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