Why is it hard to find a mommy?

[AndreMM]

Daddys are common, I see them all the time, even on the streets you can clearly find older man with younger women.

however, the oposite is something i've only read about. never really seen it. is there maybe a stigma that makes women less likely to engage in that type of relation? or are women just not interested in that provider type of role?

I'm usually dom, but I did had an experience with an older woman (1 night only) and boy was I a good boy to her haha. 

I'd be down to get a mommy any day as long as she's kind  

[Newstart2020]

If you find the answer let me know please lol

[Mz****]

I feel for you, I really do, I know a few guys here who have been looking for their Mommy's a long long time..and a couple of lasses too.

Because of my age its an approach I get often, unfortunately the whole Mommy thing is of no interest to me because I am a Mum, and a grandparent, I've done my mothering, it's been part of my life for a long time..my eldest son is 36, I'm also a carer, as are a lot my age, whether for kids or elderly parents, for me, and many like me, our sexual identity and mothering natures are completely separate.. that daily 'grind' isn't something we want as part of relationship dynamics.

There are Mommy types here, I've been told they're few and fair between, and whether their idea of the dynamic squares with yours is another matter entirely, but I do hope you at least get to chat and explore further..good luck.

[AndreMM]

1 minute ago, MzJax said:

I feel for you, I really do, I know a few guys here who have been looking for their Mommy's a long long time..and a couple of lasses too.

Because of my age its an approach I get often, unfortunately the whole Mommy thing is of no interest to me because I am a Mum, and a grandparent, I've done my mothering, it's been part of my life for a long time..my eldest son is 36, I'm also a carer, as are a lot my age, whether for kids or elderly parents, for me, and many like me, our sexual identity and mothering natures are completely separate.. that daily 'grind' isn't something we want as part of relationship dynamics.

There are Mommy types here, I've been told they're few and fair between, and whether their idea of the dynamic squares with yours is another matter entirely, but I do hope you at least get to chat and explore further..good luck.

thank you for your input Miss MzJax :)

[ey****]

Mommy Domme's do exist - but - there's often less incentive to mother a grown man.  Especially if they've already been through it with their own children.  

But, in general - the old adage - finding relationships in general is hard. 

[Deleted Member]

I agree, being a mother, and a young mother too (ok, I'm not young but my kids are 🤣) it's something I want to keep very separate, and actually given the demands of being a mother, the sexualized me is something that I hold on to very carefully and keep separately. I hope you find what you're looking for.

[Deleted Member]

A lot of its basic psychology too. less women want to dominate overall, it’s a primitive thing. Even as a switch I find 90 per cent of my partners want me to be the dominant one even if they themselves are a switch. Best of luck on your search! Dark x

[AndreMM]

18 minutes ago, Lady_Char said:

I agree, being a mother, and a young mother too (ok, I'm not young but my kids are 🤣) it's something I want to keep very separate, and actually given the demands of being a mother, the sexualized me is something that I hold on to very carefully and keep separately. I hope you find what you're looking for.

totally understandable!

[AndreMM]

14 minutes ago, Darkswitch said:

A lot of its basic psychology too. less women want to dominate overall, it’s a primitive thing. Even as a switch I find 90 per cent of my partners want me to be the dominant one even if they themselves are a switch. Best of luck on your search! Dark x

yea. other than that lady I talked about. every single other girl I was with enjoyed me being in total control. (wich is what I like, but I'm just curious)

Edited August 31, 2021 by AndreMM

[TightandHard]

Good luck. Seems very hard to find a dom woman at all.

[Deleted Member]

Firstly, can I ask if the mummy thing is something you tried with the older woman you slept with or something you’d like to try after being dominated by her? I’ve been approached by several young men for the mummy role, but like the other women on here have said, I’m a mum everyday and my eldest is 20, I can’t separate that in my mind. I also agree with the comment that most women want to be dominated occasionally. I don’t identify with D or S so I apologise if that offends anyone, it’s just been true so far in all my experiences and I don’t think the mummy/lb really leaves much room for the man to be dominant in anyway. I’m sure there are some women that would love to play that role though and I hope you find one you connect with!

[AndreMM]

4 hours ago, NessusIssues said:

Firstly, can I ask if the mummy thing is something you tried with the older woman you slept with or something you’d like to try after being dominated by her? I’ve been approached by several young men for the mummy role, but like the other women on here have said, I’m a mum everyday and my eldest is 20, I can’t separate that in my mind. I also agree with the comment that most women want to be dominated occasionally. I don’t identify with D or S so I apologise if that offends anyone, it’s just been true so far in all my experiences and I don’t think the mummy/lb really leaves much room for the man to be dominant in anyway. I’m sure there are some women that would love to play that role though and I hope you find one you connect with!

I didn't try it! just curious about the whole mommy thing tbh.
it wasn't a mommy type of thing but she was def in control, and I enjoyed it 

[Deleted Member]

For me, I tried Mommy based D/s when I first stared out in BDSM. I did it to explore what it was and also to discover what type of Domme I am and My style of domination.  While it was interesting, I discovered very quickly it was not for Me, and have never undertook that type of dynamic since. On reflection I believe for Me, My lack of interest in continuing was due to the fact I have no interest being a mother in real life and found the Mommy/son dynamic too close to reality and as such uncomfortable. The Domme's I know who identify as Mommy's are usually parents in real life and enjoy exploring a similar role in BDSM. As several posters have said and I agree the apparent lack of Mommy's has to do with the fact many wish to seperate their real life from their kink life and the wish to be seen as more than just a mothering figure. As well, the number of women who are Domme's is limited and wanting a more specialised type of Domme will drop the number available even more, with the result fewer Mommy's exist.

[AndreMM]

35 minutes ago, MistressMK said:

For me, I tried Mommy based D/s when I first stared out in BDSM. I did it to explore what it was and also to discover what type of Domme I am and My style of domination.  While it was interesting, I discovered very quickly it was not for Me, and have never undertook that type of dynamic since. On reflection I believe for Me, My lack of interest in continuing was due to the fact I have no interest being a mother in real life and found the Mommy/son dynamic too close to reality and as such uncomfortable. The Domme's I know who identify as Mommy's are usually parents in real life and enjoy exploring a similar role in BDSM. As several posters have said and I agree the apparent lack of Mommy's has to do with the fact many wish to seperate their real life from their kink life and the wish to be seen as more than just a mothering figure. As well, the number of women who are Domme's is limited and wanting a more specialised type of Domme will drop the number available even more, with the result fewer Mommy's exist.

yea that was also my initial guess. and for some reason it's not a problem to men as it's super usual to find a daddy

[MommyDomme84]

Hey there. Brand new here. I am a Mommy and have found it very hard to find a little boy who suits me. This is because the boys I am looking for are generally on regular dating sites, hooking up with girls their age. Once they hit a certain age, then they start discovering their sub side. Most of the male subs I have found online, are older than me, or at the youngest 30+. (generally)

 

For me, I cannot be a Mommy to someone who is very obviously too old to be by kid. I generally date 18-25 and that is a great range for my subs. 

 

Anyway, we are out here, for sure, and we are also having a hard time finding the right match. Good luck to you!

[GargoyleKeeper]

I like being a mommy dom but I have a hard time finding subs who are into me.  I find that most subs I have encountered want older women, taller women, and curvier women.  People assume by my petite stature that I am a little (not even close lol, I'm a strict domme).  Some have even admitted to me that they just find it hard to go into a sub space against such a small woman ^^;;...

Ps. I am taken thankfully despite this lol.  but it is hard finding submissive men when all you attract is dominant men!

Edited June 30, 2022 by GargoyleKeeper

[AndreMM]

2 hours ago, GargoyleKeeper said:

I like being a mommy dom but I have a hard time finding subs who are into me.  I find that most subs I have encountered want older women, taller women, and curvier women.  People assume by my petite stature that I am a little (not even close lol, I'm a strict domme).  Some have even admitted to me that they just find it hard to go into a sub space against such a small woman ^^;;...

Ps. I am taken thankfully despite this lol.  but it is hard finding submissive men when all you attract is dominant men!

Honestly I feel like I'd enjoy it based on the mommy's personality and not aspect per say. it doesn't need to be the typical "curvy milf/cougar" type. as long as the personality is there.

[Deleted Member]

Even on this site I find it incredibly difficult to find mommy, even as far as just having someone online to chat with I’ve had no luck on multiple dating sites

[AndreMM]

13 hours ago, ABConnor said:

Even on this site I find it incredibly difficult to find mommy, even as far as just having someone online to chat with I’ve had no luck on multiple dating sites

chatting is usually easy to get, but this fetish in particular. uff 

[Deleted Member]

7 hours ago, AndreMM said:

chatting is usually easy to get, but this fetish in particular. uff 

Even with chatting, I’ve tried a few opening lines with about 10 different women, so far no response. Not even a hello back I’m starting to think I’m not good at this lol

[AndreMM]

14 hours ago, ABConnor said:

Even with chatting, I’ve tried a few opening lines with about 10 different women, so far no response. Not even a hello back I’m starting to think I’m not good at this lol

well. what are you dming them? 

[Deleted Member]

“Hey! I noticed you’re on the site for the same reason I am, it seems we’re quite close to one another, distance wise. And I’d like to get to know you better, is there a preferred messaging app you have?” Or “Wow love the hair!” So what brings you to the site?” That sort of stuff

[Racor]

I'm curious what scenario(s) you expected to occur when joining this site? I think something like what you want is naturally challenging to find...

[AndreMM]

On 7/4/2022 at 3:54 PM, ABConnor said:

“Hey! I noticed you’re on the site for the same reason I am, it seems we’re quite close to one another, distance wise. And I’d like to get to know you better, is there a preferred messaging app you have?” Or “Wow love the hair!” So what brings you to the site?” That sort of stuff

he first one is a bit weird. we're all here for the same reason haha, the second is cool but you end up by asking again what she's doing here. you know what she's doing here, it's on her profile, she's probably listed a bunch of her kinks and fantasies, explore that

[ThumperG]

On 8/31/2021 at 11:16 AM, AndreMM said:

yea. other than that lady I talked about. every single other girl I was with enjoyed me being in total control. (wich is what I like, but I'm just curious)

Well I KNOW this is an old thread but I can say it ALSO depends on your culture. I'm a NATIVE, both TAINO and Mohawk so I was probably raised a lot differently than most women were since what was expected of me because of the fact that my tribe IS Matriarchal. The Mohawk tribe currently has a woman Chieftan in Canada. We are an international tribe both in the US and in Canada. I am from the NYS side of our tribe, as far South as we go onto Long Island. So ppls cultures and just familial influences also can play a part into this too. 😉