Ge**** Posted July 22, 2023 Posted July 22, 2023 Advice needed please. Hello everyone,. I have a situation that a female Slave (Not Of Mine) has reached out to me for help. I have given her what I believe to be correct advice She was in a Master/Slave relationship for 6yrs. Meeting up once or twice a week. They. Never lived together. She remained loyal committed and trustworthy throughout the relationship. He however did not. He started a vanilla relationship with another woman. Who lives some 250 miles away. He has now moved the 250 miles to be with this women to carry on their Vanilla relationship. Now he still expects to retain ownership of his slave. To expect her to carry on as if nothing has happened. He has said he is going to arrange meets for her. After vetting other Dom men on other sites.. Surely he has relinquished ownership as he has left the lifestyle and relationship to be with another woman. She is confused and wants out but worried about the promise she made to him as his slave Your thoughts and advice would be really appreciated.. Kind regards Shropshire Dom 70
Cheekysub247 Posted July 22, 2023 Posted July 22, 2023 Definitely things are over now in my opinion x
Gentleforest Posted July 22, 2023 Posted July 22, 2023 The easy answer is, he's relinquished his position in her life. However, what were the terms of their dynamic? Were they open to new partners? Even if she didn't pursue one, could she have? I think that you might need to know that, however, you may already have. In any case, if he's made it impossible to carry on the relationship, she can, and in my opinion, should formally ask for a release. If he had any self respect, he'd grant it. If he doesn't he never really respected her in the first place. Again, my opinion
Tr**** Posted July 22, 2023 Posted July 22, 2023 Well actually he voided the agreement the minute he broke the agreement. Now if they had an understanding that he could do that and she's just upset that he has then she would be breaking the agreement. Although him leaving the area will probably cause conflict due to not keeping the meetings set up due to being so far away. I feel that even as a slave she still has a right to change her mind due to his leaving the area. I say walk because there's no guarantee that he'll hold up his end of the agreement.
Deleted Member Posted July 22, 2023 Posted July 22, 2023 She needs to get in her head that he is using her.. sorry...but that's the truth.. She needs to wake up, the poor girl.
ey**** Posted July 22, 2023 Posted July 22, 2023 there's some bits which is unimportant but relationships can end for many reasons one person moving away 250 miles is definitely a valid reason for the other to end it
Hal727 Posted July 22, 2023 Posted July 22, 2023 Yep, she needs to walk! If he expects her not to, he’s just using her!!!
ge**** Posted July 22, 2023 Posted July 22, 2023 Anyone would think there was some kind of legally binding arrangement in place - he has no "ownership" over her if she chooses not to allow it - therefore if she chooses to walk she can do so without looking back
Deleted Member Posted July 22, 2023 Posted July 22, 2023 He doesn’t deserve her loyalty. He has betrayed her and her devotion is definitely too big of a treasure to be wasted on such a “man”
Ge**** Posted July 22, 2023 Author Posted July 22, 2023 Thank you for all your advice. Much appreciated
Ge**** Posted July 22, 2023 Author Posted July 22, 2023 55 minutes ago, Gentleforest said: The easy answer is, he's relinquished his position in her life. However, what were the terms of their dynamic? Were they open to new partners? Even if she didn't pursue one, could she have? I think that you might need to know that, however, you may already have. In any case, if he's made it impossible to carry on the relationship, she can, and in my opinion, should formally ask for a release. If he had any self respect, he'd grant it. If he doesn't he never really respected her in the first place. Again, my opinion Never any agreement in place either written or verbal. For hím to take on another slaves. Let Alone start a vanilla relationship with another woman some 250 miles away. He was seeing this new woman about 3 months before admitting that to his Slave. Personally I think he's bang out of order. He broke the Master Slave agreement when he started seeing her behind the slaves back. He's not even text her once since leaving last week !!!
Am**** Posted July 22, 2023 Posted July 22, 2023 I don’t think he deserve her at all. But this all coke down to good communication. If she view what the man dose as cheating he she say so or just say nothing. This is 100 communication short fall. Yes maybe the man should know this is cheating but their not legally married so she should have made rules that this is not allowed
Deleted Member Posted July 23, 2023 Posted July 23, 2023 1 hour ago, ShropshireDom70 said: Never any agreement in place either written or verbal. For hím to take on another slaves. Let Alone start a vanilla relationship with another woman some 250 miles away. He was seeing this new woman about 3 months before admitting that to his Slave. Personally I think he's bang out of order. He broke the Master Slave agreement when he started seeing her behind the slaves back. He's not even text her once since leaving last week !!! The thing is, With a Master/slave agreement, there must be a CLEAR agreement! Otherwise there is a unfair line between the Master and his slave. Too many Masters use this 'contracts' of theirs to just use the slaves out there. And the slaves just don't realize that they are being used until their heart are being broken because of useless 'Masters'. So many 'Masters' are talking about 'dynamics' without even realizing what the f*ck it even means! And hence the slaves are being the one being used and ***d without realizing it. As said. She needs to get her mind straight, and realize what is going on.
Pe**** Posted July 23, 2023 Posted July 23, 2023 51 minutes ago, Stheso said: The thing is, With a Master/slave agreement, there must be a CLEAR agreement! Otherwise there is a unfair line between the Master and his slave. Too many Masters use this 'contracts' of theirs to just use the slaves out there. And the slaves just don't realize that they are being used until their heart are being broken because of useless 'Masters'. So many 'Masters' are talking about 'dynamics' without even realizing what the f*ck it even means! And hence the slaves are being the one being used and ***d without realizing it. As said. She needs to get her mind straight, and realize what is going on. 👌🏻👌🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
Pe**** Posted July 23, 2023 Posted July 23, 2023 2 hours ago, gemini_man said: Anyone would think there was some kind of legally binding arrangement in place - he has no "ownership" over her if she chooses not to allow it - therefore if she chooses to walk she can do so without looking back Exactly!! Asked to be released??? I’d be the fuck out of there for sure!!
Pe**** Posted July 23, 2023 Posted July 23, 2023 Tell her to cease all communication and block and delete everything straight away. . This seems like an abusive situation. She needs to end it and give herself time to heal
littlemiss37 Posted July 23, 2023 Posted July 23, 2023 thats not right if he diddnt stay faithful. I would c it that he didn't do his part to stay faithful so she has a right to block him on everything and let him go. let her know she can message me if she needs to talk. I came out of a dynamic and didn't notice things till was out of it now in a better dynamic with the lovely chastity xx
Re**** Posted July 23, 2023 Posted July 23, 2023 He needs to release her! If not when emotions get involved, it’s time to leave. Walk away, block him and give yourself time to heal, then find another Master!
do**** Posted July 23, 2023 Posted July 23, 2023 It's sad that this is even a question. I stay asking this question, who is raising these people? And I'm talking about the Dom in these situations, really all situations. How do you do that to a woman's feelings or anyone and look yourself in the mirror and claimed to be anything but a fill in the blank. Without trust there is nothing. Therefore by default she owes him nothing. Consent can be given and rescinded. Case closed
TheBookCollector Posted July 23, 2023 Posted July 23, 2023 2 hours ago, Real5819 said: He needs to release her! If not when emotions get involved, it’s time to leave. Walk away, block him and give yourself time to heal, then find another Master! Shes not his to release its her choice whether to stay or leave.
ey**** Posted July 23, 2023 Posted July 23, 2023 Just for a few other bits and thoughts There's a lot we romanticise in D/s - but really they are relationships that ultimately are like any other. If a Dominant does something that the submissive is unhappy with (like moving 250 miles) or asks something of them which is unreasonable - then this needs to be communicated and may result in the end of the relationship/dynamic A lot do get hung up into the "but I have to do everything that my Dominant says, due to our dynamic" that feels true - but only up onto a point. That there is always a step too far. I mean, hey, there are some submissives who would also relocate if their Dominant did - but that "some would" doesn't mean all - if not down to willingness but ability.
Ge**** Posted July 23, 2023 Author Posted July 23, 2023 21 hours ago, Aman94 said: I don’t think he deserve her at all. But this all coke down to good communication. If she view what the man dose as cheating he she say so or just say nothing. This is 100 communication short fall. Yes maybe the man should know this is cheating but their not legally married so she should have made rules that this is not allowed Slaves don't make rules. However an element of respect to the slave. After all she is a woman and has given her everything to him.
Ge**** Posted July 23, 2023 Author Posted July 23, 2023 I'd like to point out. That she has a young daughter and can not move for obvious reasons. He was also seeing the woman and went on holiday with her. While still seeing his slave. He still says he remains her owner and wants others to service her after he has vetted them. To preserve her safety😂😂
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