Greetings,
I appreciate those patient enough to read my ad fully, as I write this completely sincerely.

I sit here in my room, post Christmas celebration with friends and chosen family. I'm sober, not horny, and have a sense of clarity after a deep conversation with a dear friend.

I'm 5 years into my transition, 5 years of wild experiences and learning to love every aspect of myself, even the hard to love parts. I'm sick of mulling over and debating the ramifications vs rewards of what I truly want, I have a near-complete understanding of who I am and what I want, and I feel good about taking the next steps into what I want and who I want to be.

I crave submission in the aspect of being able to follow someone's instructions and requests to a T.

I was recently told, in a completely vanilla snd non-sexual context, to find something nice to wear and show up at an address. It felt natural to follow orders without thinking about it. Partially because I trust the person completely, partially because I find great purpose in serving.

So let me serve you.

I can cook, clean, create, and run errands. I will learn to please you in all the ways you enjoy, and take notes of what makes you especially happy, whether it be the way you like your coffee or a particular way you like being touched.

I'm searching for a Dominant person (or persons if the vibe is right) with a genuine desire for a long-term, subservient submissive.
I'm asking that you treat me well, are firm, kind, creative, and stable, and enjoy kink as much as I do. A mentor or guardian role is welcome, but not necessary. I'm not looking for equality here.

Kink is something that's becoming more important to me as I consider what I want out of a relationship.
I crave the general D/s vibes, but have specifics that I would like to have be aspects of our relationship. These include:

Bondage (from tied wrists to full binding suits)
Chastity (it simultaneously makes me calmer and hornier)
A ruleset and reward//punishment system
Clear communication
Aftercare for all parties
Free Use (within the agreements of the relationship)
Uniforms or other clothes/gear marking me in a role
Mutual fantasy fulfillment
In 2026, I have goals of self-care, self-love, and modifying my body, wardrobe, and lifestyle to match who I am. Help and cheerleading will be more than welcome in my goals, and I hope to give the same to you!

If you've gotten this far and are interested, feel free to shoot me a message request. :) Please be open, write with intent, and be clear and sure about what you want and who you are.
Thank you for your consideration. 🩷

BDSM Play Partner29 to 54 years ● 95km around USA Santa Rosa

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