I would describe myself as around 60% submissive and 40% dominant—a switch with a slight submissive lean.I am mainly interested in tickling fetish. I am also glad to give P A I N but not recevie . I like ropes and restraints. My hard limit is sex.

When I act as a tickler, I feel excited watching my prey tied securely to the bed, unable to escape. When my fingers run across their underarms or soles, seeing them struggle so hard while knowing there's nothing they can do about it gives me a thrill. I enjoy exploring and finding their most ticklish spots, then slowly torturing them until they're laughing uncontrollably, completely exhausted, begging for mercy, or even d to say humiliating things just to make me stop.

In those moments, I enjoy being the one in control. I decide when the
continues and when it ends.

When I act as a ticklee, I actually find it more exciting when I'm tied up. I become someone else's toy, something to be played with. I like fighting back and resisting as much as I can, only to end up restrained and while receiving tickle from the ticklers. It can really turn me on. Afterwards, when the ropes come off, I would love a warm hug and some genuine aftercare.

I'm also comfortable with group tickling and enjoy the energy that multiple people can bring to a scene.

What I'm really hoping to find is another switch and, ideally, a long-term relationship—maybe even a life partner. Someone with whom we can explore BDSM together, fulfil each other's needs, and enjoy things that aren't necessarily sexual but are still deeply fun and meaningful. Someone whose life can gradually intertwine with mine as we build our own dynamic and lifestyle together.

I know it's probably an idealistic hope, and I'm not sure whether I'll find that person on this platform. But I think it's worth trying.

Outside of BDSM, I'm a East-Asian woman living in the UK. I'm fairly introverted, enjoy cafés, travelling, photography, hiking, psychology and quiet one-to-one conversations. I'm looking for someone kind, emotionally mature and able to communicate openly.
If any of this resonates with you, feel free to send me a message or leave a comment.
Thank you for taking the time to read my post.

Kinky Date23 to 35 years ● 150km around UK Manchester

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