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Vote for FET at the SXMA Awards — and Here’s Why It Matters

Last year, we set out to do something that doesn’t get talked about enough in kink spaces: make BDSM education genuinely useful for people who are just starting to figure out what they want.

 

The result was Knk Explained — a year-long Instagram series that covered everything from consent and aftercare to spotting a fake Dom, navigating BDSM breakups, and learning to play when you feel shy. No shock content. No vague platitudes. Just practical, shame-free guidance grounded in safe, sane, and consensual practice.

 

You can read the full story of what we built and how it grew here.

 

What We Achieved Together

In twelve months, our Instagram grew from 1,000 followers to more than 11,500 — not through virality or controversy, but by showing up consistently with content people actually needed.

 

Our post on how to spot a fake Dom reached nearly 36,000 accounts and generated 259 saves and 83 shares. Our brat guide reached 25,000+ accounts and was saved 324 times. People didn’t just scroll past — they bookmarked these posts, shared them with partners, and came back to them.

 

That’s the kind of impact we’re proud of. And it’s been recognised.

 

sxma-awards.jpegVote for FET — Best Social Media Campaign. Voting closes 8 May.

 

We’ve Been Nominated for Best Social Media Campaign at the SXMA Awards

The SXMA (SXTech Media Awards) celebrates the best in adult media and technology — and Knk Explained has been nominated in the Best Social Media Campaign category.

 

If the series has ever helped you name a boundary, understand a dynamic, or feel less alone in a question you weren’t sure how to ask — this is your chance to say so.

 

Voting is open now at sxma.sxtech.eu

Voting closes on 8 May 2026. You can vote once per category.

 

To vote for us:

  1. Head to sxma.sxtech.eu
  2. Find the “Best Social Media Campaign” category
  3. Select FET and submit your vote

 

That’s it. One minute. One vote.

 

A Note on Direct Messages

Over the coming days, our admin account will be reaching out via direct message with the voting link. If you receive a message from us — you don’t need to worry. It’s genuinely us, sharing the link because we want our community to have every opportunity to take part. You can click with confidence.

 

Thank You

Knk Explained exists because of the people who saved posts at 2am, shared them with a partner, or left a comment that helped the next person feel less alone. This nomination belongs to the community as much as it does to us.

 

If you believe kink education should be accessible, honest, and worth bookmarking — go vote.

 

Cast your vote at sxma.sxtech.eu — voting closes 8 May.

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