Sub Dirty Talk

[cy****]

i’m looking for advice (from subs, doms, or otherwise!) and tips about what to say when engaging in dirty talk as a sub! i feel like i have so many ideas usually, but in the moment my mind goes blank!! i usually just end up being a breathless/whimpering mess 😅 any advice? ideas? tips? go-to’s? thanks in advance! <3

[Deleted Member]

Usually easy stuff like take me, or fuck me like____, use me, simple stuff is good. Lots of time people even me is fine with just whimpering and going limp it is hot too but there’s definitely times you wanna bring your own game. Just gotta stay focused like control your breathing and even that alone with steady your mind enough to think of more sexy things to say

[TimberTara]

Just say yes, mistress yes master and Bend to your knees

[StrengerHerrM]

5 minutes ago, TimberTara said:

Just say yes, mistress yes master and Bend to your knees

That's really far away from dirty talk 🤣

[al****]

Be yourself, If that's a breathless/whimpering sub then that is exactly what you should be. Your enough the way you are. Really breathless and whimpering is pretty damn hot 🔥 🥵

[ie****]

Message me. I'll show you

[tu****]

My favorite is when they miss your ass on a spanking sing “missed me missed me now you have to kiss me”

[tu****]

Or if you are trying to get something started you can confess to a small inconsequential mistake just be sure to apologize 😉

[An****]

You’re almost certainly fine to say whatever comes to mind. But even a quietly whimpered ‘thank you’, ‘oh fuck’, ‘please -> ‘please what?’ -> please (whatever you like, even a ‘keep going’ or nonsensical ‘thank you’).

A lot of dirty talk is just giving feedback and keeping the energy bouncing back and forth, gaining charge. Whoever is more on the receiving end of things at the moment is responsible for that, which does tend to be subs but isn’t always, and you don’t need to do that with words - sometimes body language is plenty!

(And as others said, sometimes depending on the partner and scenario, the energy to send back *is* one of deep surrender and a quiet whimper. You’d know best what type of mood works with your partner!

[Ro****]

The best thing to mostly do (at least for me), so when you are going into that headspace with your Dom try to close your eyes, breathe, think about how your dynamic is with your partner and yourself in the sub mindset, I think you know what I mean by that hopefully.

[Ro****]

When you do that ^ I think you should use words and the type of body language that the dynamic calls for in that moment, it's not all the same for everything. Maybe do some research on how to do it. That's why I do so that I can stay in character while I'm in the dom headspace. I also wear specific clothing for that headspace as well.

[Deleted Member]

I can try to help if you’d like to message me 🤗

[my****]

Personally, manners mean more to me from a sub than almost anything. If your Dom is the same way I know they'd love lots of "please, than you, may I, I'm sorry I'll be better, I appreciate you"

[Do****]

What pushes your Dom’s buttons? What dirty talk would enhance your submission to him or service of him?

[Deleted Member]

Look ***, ***, and innocent in a sexual manner that will bring the dominant predator out of them that will go for the attack.

Sometimes you can talk dirty just with the expression of your eyes and a nervous lip bite

[Pr****]

Yeah, it's all about the person. You want to use the tone you'd have when you're hot 🔥 and see what your dom likes. Some like very servile and self-effacing subtalk, some want a passive doll who whimpers and begs, some what an aggressive sub who seems insatiable for punishment.

Find the desired character and mood then use your imagination. But dirty talk is also in the body, the gestures and the setting. I like my subs to take their time and to say what arouses them before catering to me, but that's just me. Everyone is different 😁

[Pa****]

How about using the Obedience app to make some notes which you can refer to .

[ge****]

Sighseas… baby girl… write your ideas down or put them in “notes” on your phone… then before playing review… maybe flash cards… I suspect you’re deep in sub-space which is (1) where you should be, (2) you’re so fixated you’re unable to recall your ideas… be patient… it’ll happen

[Deleted Member]

Whimpering messes are Sexy as fuck tho

[mi****]

As a dom, I enjoy a whimpering mess. Means I'm doing my job right. If I want my sub to say something, I'll instruct them (like beg for it, tell me how much you like that, etc). I prefer my subs not speaking unless I tell them they can usually.

[Pu****]

Just describe exactly what is happening to you or what you want to happen to you. Or exactly what he/she wants from you. It's always sexy and there's no guesswork

[Deleted Member]

Everyone has different tastes, so these won’t work for everyone but…
“Will you please {insert act}?”
“I get so wet/hard/turned on when you look at me like that”
“I was just thinking, I bet you can’t make me cum by {insert act} - results to this will vary but always fun
*place their hand on your neck/in your hair/applicable alternative* “I need you to use me for your pleasure now please”

But my personal award winner… will you please let me suck your cock while you shower? I need you in my throat more than I need to breathe (this one im leaving gender specific cos it’s my favourite)

Simply, begging words like need and please are good. The aim is to make them feel like a god and powerful and that you are a very willing participant in their pleasure.

[Yi****]

Say whatever puts a big tingle in your legs. Im frustrated often w females who dont want to talk during sex. Maybe it's a dumb thing for you but the general topic of talking or dirty talk is a big one that was recently told while filming a video to shut up LOL least I was naked

[Yi****]

Oops I see there I can't see any way to edit these things after hitting the arrow I meant to say maybe it's a Dom sub thing not dumb thing

[Deleted Member]

4 minutes ago, YinKissesYang said:

Oops I see there I can't see any way to edit these things after hitting the arrow I meant to say maybe it's a Dom sub thing not dumb thing

Speaking from experience (and not judgementally, so please don’t think differently!)… it has nothing to do with your role within the dynamic but either personal preference or confidence.

I will give you that more subs are ‘affected’ (for lack of a better word) by the silent sex than Dominants.