Subspace

[Bu****]

How to reach subspace with my Dom while long distance? I can only recall one time that it was really good like I was floating, but the other times, I was barely in subspace and was still in my subconscious.

[Ka****]

Great question. It’s tough to get to know someone who is not a regular but clears expressions of pleasure and wants are necessary.

[To****]

I would recommend a training session, preferably over FaceTime or some way to be interactive. Your dom will need to direct and create a session that works for your personality.

As far as you are concerned, give him your 100% attention during the training session. Start slow and don't overtime it.

It won't come in one session, and by training session, I don't mean that it has to be sexual.

[Deleted Member]

It’s going to rely heavily on communication, mental focus, trust, and sensory intensity delivered through virtual or planned self-play. Since the physical presence is absent, your dom must create an environment and set of activities that allow you to fully relinquish control and enter the altered state of consciousness associated with subspace. It’s going to be up to your Dom to identify and build on your specific triggers, rituals, and ways to simulate the intensity of in-person scenes. There’s more to it, but this is the gist of things.

[Bl****]

You gotta allow yourself to logically get over the fact that the physical component is there. Mentally it’s a juggle but if you just allow your dom to take the lead as he was there himself you’ll fall into stride if he’s good at communication. Mainly I’d say pick up meditation and obviously try to lower the expectation so you can achieve your desires

[Lo****]

Maybe try a TPE type situation where your Dom controls every aspect of your day, culminating in an evening of Dom directed self play coupled with photos or videos if desired.

[Lo****]

An app controlled toy might be a helpful addition.

[AmandaMonsterLady]

Outfits seem to do the trick for me. Maybe one special thing. A dress or something

[Be****]

find a local Dom

[Co****]

Long distance can be similar to hypnosis, eased into, deep, ritualistic, habit forming, conditioning heavy... Tasks, repeated, respected to the word, a ritual that's conditioned you to get closer to that space may be a good idea.

In person the presence, the command, the instant responses and the trust that is needed allow you to drift into it and away into subspace, or to be broken into it or have it be the escape from say, shame.

That's harder to do long distance, so perhaps consider restrictions, rituals, clothing choice, things that last, constantly remind you of why and who you are doing these things for.

If any of that works, when you catch up in person again, continue the ritual/s and I'll bet you subspace three seconds into it.

If that doesn't sound right for you, then Lots of talking may help, discussing what ACTUALLY puts you into subspace, what's different at the mo etc.

So that's my take, hope it helps, have fun and remember, sometimes things just don't work the way needed 🤷

[Gi****]

Subspace is trickier alone, and can involve more lead-up. Make sure your surroundings in physical And mental space feel safe enough to sink into subspace with as little stress as possible. Honestly might help to meditate before or during long distance calls.