No Aftercare

[Od****]

I don't know about other doms, but I always ask what a sub needs in terms of aftercare before we play together. To me, at least, it should be part of negoiations, and is at least as important as hard and soft limits.  Some have needed little more than a cuddle session, forehead kisses, and praise, while others have needed more extensive care (massages, a snack, I've even drawn a partner a bath and sat on the toilet while they soaked and relaxed a bit). In any case, aftercare should never be skipped, even if it is something simple.

[Si****]

I like being bathed after a session. I like to have my toes suck too

[Vy****]

I'ts honestly infuriating how little some people seem to pay attention to proper aftercare. Maybe I have always had a soft spot when it came to that cause I'm a Switch and it's very important to me personally, but I only really do extensive and demanding sessions with people I have some amount of trust with and aftercare is a given. Not just out of obligation or doing a favour, but out of genuine interest for that kind of connection. Aftercare hast always had by far the most impact on me from an emotional and Bindung standpoint regardless of my role in it.

As a Dom, I always give my Subs whatever they need and if that is not possible cause we don't have the time, I reguse to do a session that is so demanding. Sometimes aftercare can be just a bit of encouragement and a kiss on the forehead, sometimes that is cuddling naked, where we left off turning on netflix, carassing her for 2-3 hours, before getting food or drinks, then getting in the shower, back watching something and falling asleep. I always clear my schedule completely for that cause I just assume that there is a chance that I'll have to essentially take care of my Sub for the rest of the day, especially if we are not familiar or doing something very tough for the first time.

Always advocate for yourself and your needs and try to build trust first. Any good Dom will take your worries into consideration and help you out. If they are not willing to spend time on you, find someone else. Aftercare is not optional. I'd argue it is more important than almost anything else in many ways.

[Mr****]

I love taking care of a lady befor she ever thinks about taking care of me its my way of showing her i care that she is cared for

[Ja****]

Anyways, make sure to have boundaries and say them before you start anything, and let them know you want to be taken care of and appreciated afterwards, tbh it’s pretty sh**ty on both ends (unless the other person is just morally weird and f**ked) yea a lot of ppl like to pump and dump. But you just gotta get those boundaries set and get to know that person before you do anything with em, and good luck with future meets!!

[Ia****]

You have to tell people you want aftercare. Sometimes, people don't think that aftercare is necessary even if the play is intense. But aftercare can be important to some people because it lowers cortisol, it increases dopamine & it helps to create a bond with your subs or switches. No everyone wants it or thinks it's necessary at all but it's best to communicate that. I also like aftercare. But yes, communicate, communicate, & communicate.

[Da****]

Any intelligent Dom will/should ask before the session "what after care looks like you you?" And will include it. I donf know if you're playing as a sub in these scenes but if you are, understand that you ultimately have power over the Dom. You give that person your power for the moment and can take it back at any time.
Have aftercare as part if your pre-scene negotiations as something you explicitly need. If they want to play with you, they play by the rules and boundaries you set or not at all. Good luck out there fam

[ci****]

Being selective of who you allow in your Bubble and communication is key. Be upfront about your expectations chances are you have been letting a smooth talker to close. Do what you want but don't let someone disrespect you. You have more control than you think and if they whoever they might be makes you uncomfortable that might be a sign. Watch for red flags and people trying to just take advantage good luck and be safe.

[li****]

Voice it before the actual activities. Speak up! If you want to feel disrespected then no after care. If you want respect demand aftercare

[te****]

Aftercare is very important, for the Dom and sub both. Especially if a sub entered subspace they need to readjust. For the Dom the priority would be to make sure the sub is alright and their affirmation can work as the Dom's aftercare. The sub should also be ready to support their Dom if they notice something off. Finding a shared aftercare experience is best.

[Deleted Member]

You're been with someone wrong if you didn't get after care.

[Ke****]

Much need