Distance

[ey****]

22 hours ago, lovekillsslowly said:

Okay so…why do some men say they are willing to drive 2+ hours or travel from a different state to get laid by someone in particular. That seems a little excessive for just meeting/matching right?? I

So, I'm a non-driver so rely on public transport and, well,

I often try to tie meets/play-dates/etc that are away from home in with stuff like footie, gigs, etc. mostly because I'm travelling for that ANYWAY 

Though, like, I am happy to travel just for a meet. And, sometimes that does involve someone meeting me half way or neutral or travelling themselves. Sometimes it does not, but it makes sense

But like, why not.  Someone is cool and you'd like to play with em. Make it happen.  Obviously this might be different/difficult if you want a regular meet.  But, yeah - couple of hours is nowt really. 

[Br****]

I can't speak for them, but I have driven up to an hour one way on a regular basis for girlfriends. I wouldn't drive more than that for a meetup, because I wouldn't do it every week. Ive never really been interested in ONS type situations. But an hour one way? Totally fine for an ongoing relationship.

[Ceejayuk]

I have too much going on in my life to do a 4 hour round trip just to get laid, I will find someone closer :p

[st****]

Yea it's totally worth it if it's someone special spending the hole weekend together being naughty together ❤️

[md****]

I've heard of lesbians taking flights 1000+ miles...

[to****]

I don't go 100miles to visit family very often let alone a complete stranger I don't be thinking so

[Py****]

I travel all over for work so not unheard of especially if there is a really strong connection with the person.

[Sa****]

2hrs is basically my work trip, if I can spend 2 hours driving to stress myself out. I can spend 2 hours driving to decompress

[Ju****]

Not me

[Se****]

Because men are biologically evolved to search far and wide to spread their DNA. And also because men are conditioned by social constructs to compete harder and go to great lengths to secure a mate. Both of those factors have created the opposite in females of the species - they tend to sit around waiting for men to show up and then deciding if their feathers are shiny enough. If you observe the mating habits and rituals of other primates, as well as birds and reptiles, these truths hold across most species. You don't want to know what humpback whales go through to get lucky.
I don't think these things always have to be true, however - my last serious relationship with a female began when she was in another country (true, she was in Toronto and I in NYC so not THAT far really) but she flew down to me twice a month, and I traveled up there every other month.
I would say, without malice, that you might want to put a little more effort in, though.

[Un****]

No I feel you on that. I used to think about it but fr, I don't want even a hookup to be that much work. There's plenty of local people. I've done an hour drive last year and I didn't want to do it again to keep it going. I think she's gotta be around a half hour max. I want someone who were pretty convenient to each other driving wise and we have that connection. Even being poly that's important.
I felt really flattered when some women did it for me though.

[Cr****]

Depends. If I'm looking for tail, short trips. If I'm looking for "THE one", better believe I'm making the trip.

[kr****]

Iv had ***** movement longer than 2 hours …
The joy is in the journey …the anticipation … listing to good music
Overdosing on nicotine
I would drive 4-5 hours fir a solid connection

[ar****]

4 hours ago, Senate said:

Because men are biologically evolved to search far and wide to spread their DNA. And also because men are conditioned by social constructs to compete harder and go to great lengths to secure a mate. Both of those factors have created the opposite in females of the species - they tend to sit around waiting for men to show up and then deciding if their feathers are shiny enough. If you observe the mating habits and rituals of other primates, as well as birds and reptiles, these truths hold across most species. You don't want to know what humpback whales go through to get lucky.
I don't think these things always have to be true, however - my last serious relationship with a female began when she was in another country (true, she was in Toronto and I in NYC so not THAT far really) but she flew down to me twice a month, and I traveled up there every other month.
I would say, without malice, that you might want to put a little more effort in, though.

I agree with Senate 100%. I think men (in general, not specific cases) will put more effort into things and spend more energy to find connection for the reasons above. It is generally hard for someone who is on the outside to see this because - I'm speaking in general terms here - women get substantially higher matches, attention and effort from men then men do from women. (If you look at gay men, this is much different, gay men get in general a lot more attention from other men than men get from women). I honestly think even if you wouldn't do the same for someone, it is a positive the fact that they are going at great lengths to establish a connection with you. Like Senate has said, competition, scarcity, societal constructs where a lot of women usually don't take any first steps has made a large portion of men invest so much energy into the possibility of connection.

[si****]

16 hours ago, capecouple4fun said:

There are numerous reasons.. TBH my main partner is 3hrs away I go down to see him every other week.. it’s an escape from my life- the sex is good the companionship is even better but I know we will never be a “couple” he wants kids I can’t hav them an want to travel

You don't need kids to be a couple. You can adopt, or he can compromise. Consider how you will feel if he has a kid with someone else after your commitment. You need a relationship with someone who is happy with you how you are.

[si****]

Just now, si-whiz said:

You don't need kids to be a couple. You can adopt, or he can compromise. Consider how you will feel if he has a kid with someone else after your commitment. You need a relationship with someone who is happy with you how you are.

Sorry, I forgot you said 'main partner'. As long as you're happy with the situation that's fine.

[lu****]

I've done it, the thrill, the guarantee. Actually done it a half dozen or so times and never disappointed.

[mr****]

Simple girls can get dick from anywhere guys dont have it that easy they gotta drive to get pussy.

[ma****]

I recall getting a message from someone who was going to pay my airfare to meet up with them.

[ey****]

Mind, I'm finding some of these "it's hard for blokes" stuff to be hilariously embarassing.

The women in your locality might have a choice to fuck someone else, but so do the women three counties over. There's no real difference.  

[Da****]

It's the lasting taste the pussy leaves on the tongue. Plus the plight of men to keep trophies. Most importantly having pussy out of town is kinda like a reset button when you need to get away.

[Ki****]

Women don’t have to be as picky because they have so many men willing to come to them it’s a story as old as time

[Li****]

It honestly doesn't surprise me having had a guy do that before and multiple message that they're here for one more night or might "book a trip soon" etc. Any opportunity to fuck, and because that's their drive and want, they'll do it. If it's to have to make an actual effort, date, long term, they don't. Bizarre to me too but I suppose they must just want the same satisfaction as a ons for some, holiday fling, etc.

[Li****]

Yesterday at 05:15 PM, onedeep469 said:

Men date locally and the dates ends dry. Why wouldn’t a man want to drive to a woman he’s intrigued by? We travel the world to make our living. A 100 miles to find out if we’re compatible with someone is nothing but a drop in the bucket of what me do to find love and adventure. I’ve flown across the world for a paycheck. I’ll drive to a woman for pleasure without a problem. Shouldn’t be hard to grasp. We go after the things we want in life.

Entirely agree. I've done horrific and long bus journeys with an out of order toilet, drives to theirs (when I did drive), stayed in touch with people who moved away, planned a trip to America to meet a play partner in future. Both women and men will do what they can (what they can as illness, loss, finances, redundancy etc can all take a toll at times and will, realistically) to spend time doing/seeing what/who they want to 💆🏼‍♀️✨️

[AllLivingThingsMatte]

1 hour ago, LittleSoulTease said:

It honestly doesn't surprise me having had a guy do that before and multiple message that they're here for one more night or might "book a trip soon" etc. Any opportunity to fuck, and because that's their drive and want, they'll do it. If it's to have to make an actual effort, date, long term, they don't. Bizarre to me too but I suppose they must just want the same satisfaction as a ons for some, holiday fling, etc.

My man is still driving to see me every weekend three years in, don't lump all fellas into the same sack.