A Woman's Perspective on FET: "I'm not finding anyone..."

[Pl****]

Add to this: maybe put a fun pic as your main image and not your d**k? I am at least three times as likely to answer someone if I don’t have to look at something explicit each time you message. If you don’t want your face, do a sunset or a book you like. Make it you

[am****]

This thread went slightly better than expected, but only slightly.

[An****]

5 hours ago, DumpThatLoadGuy said:

It's because most females profiles here are just here for keyboard play, . Although they won't tell you that. Also, some profiles/people are AI generated, or scammer accounts. These are the main reasons men aren't meeting women from this site.

Wrong ...that "keyboard play", as you put it, is you being vetted from a distance. If you cannot get past that stage, then that is females deciding that you are not worth the risk of meeting in the real world. Of course some profiles are AI, this is also true for male profiles. It seems you have little introspection on this topic, not an ability to take responsibility. And THIS is why you cannot get past the digital chatting stage. Its giving "emotional immaturity" 🤷‍♀️

[cellofello]

WRT #7: Not being a celebrity, I can't get away with grabbing women by the pussy. But if I can grab 'em by the mind, the pussy will usually follow. :)

[Du****]

8 hours ago, An_Irish_Queen said:

Wrong ...that "keyboard play", as you put it, is you being vetted from a distance. If you cannot get past that stage, then that is females deciding that you are not worth the risk of meeting in the real world. Of course some profiles are AI, this is also true for male profiles. It seems you have little introspection on this topic, not an ability to take responsibility. And THIS is why you cannot get past the digital chatting stage. Its giving "emotional immaturity" 🤷‍♀️

Wrong. That may be how you do things over there in Dublin, but, here in america, women like to play games on dating apps. To clarify, they type a tough game behind a keyboard, but when it comes time to socialize in person, they run away with their tail between their legs. There is no "being vetted from a distance ". You're either mature and want to me IRL, or you're immature playing games. Simple

[vo****]

49 minutes ago, DumpThatLoadGuy said:

Wrong. That may be how you do things over there in Dublin, but, here in america, women like to play games on dating apps. To clarify, they type a tough game behind a keyboard, but when it comes time to socialize in person, they run away with their tail between their legs. There is no "being vetted from a distance ". You're either mature and want to me IRL, or you're immature playing games. Simple

actually as American i can tell you just reading these last couple of messages I would be completely uncomfortable meeting you in person I sure either extremely immature and insensitive or you think you are absolutely right to the point that you will violate my boundaries

[An****]

17 hours ago, honeymilker said:

Honestly so true, would also include the profile. Some guys look grt but their profiles are so uninteresting and I assume they have a personality of a penguin. Sometimes they defend themselves by asking “well how would you know if you don’t ask?” By that logic I would literally message every man and drown myself in messages. The profile is there for a reason, it’s your first impression. Make it matter. I don’t even know what to talk about because I have nothing to start with. Show me you know what your looking for and have a personality 😭

Oh girl...I have a whole writing over on FetLife going through how, way too many men have empty profiles. Regardless of how that man looks, or how similar our kinks/interests align, will not get a response from me. The reason...because he doesn't want to "waste" his time filling in his own profile, but is perfectly willing to waste MY time, by trying to *** us into asking such details. Eff off!!! You're a big boy now...you can do your own homework, before whinging about women not responding. We don't respond to second-class treatment anymore.

[Ma****]

I think the list provided is good overall, but it's not going to be for everyone. Personally, I'm not posting a new pic everyday. I have more important things to do and my appearance doesn't change that much. I'd rather someone check my profile because of something I said, not because of a pic.

Also, I'm somewhat introverted, for those that commented in regards to that. I can post my thoughts easily because I'm behind a screen. In my case, your thoughts are more important to me than your pic.

As for "D" pics, I can live without them. They're all pretty much the same overall and will not impress me (unless they're 12 inches and then I'm running away! 🤣🤣). I'm more offended by the person who messages me asking about my personal kinks without considering I have a brain.

Just because we are into kinky sex, doesn't mean we don't have minds. As a matter of fact, for me, I'm more interested in your brain because that's what is going to make me come back to talking to you. I'm very much into the mental aspects of BDSM so if you want my interest, then you need to say something that's going to grab my interest. I'll ignore the 'Hey baby' and dime a dozen messages that are probably sent to 25 different people.

[Be****]

Yesterday at 05:55 PM, honeycrisp said:

To the men whose rebuttal to the OP is "But this is a SEX SITE !",

Please, please, sit down with a savvy neurosomatic therapist and unravel the tangled origins of your Madonna/whore cognitive complex.

Once you gentlemen reconcile that dissonance -- that a woman's sexuality (and desire for sex) does not negate her personhood, nor release you from the obligation of being a person *to* her -- you will all lead happier lives and enjoy considerably more success with the fairer sex.

Truth 💯💯💯

[Be****]

21 hours ago, honeymilker said:

Honestly so true, would also include the profile. Some guys look grt but their profiles are so uninteresting and I assume they have a personality of a penguin. Sometimes they defend themselves by asking “well how would you know if you don’t ask?” By that logic I would literally message every man and drown myself in messages. The profile is there for a reason, it’s your first impression. Make it matter. I don’t even know what to talk about because I have nothing to start with. Show me you know what your looking for and have a personality 😭

Exactly we take the time to fill out our profiles and they either don't read them or expect us to be mind readers and know what they want and if someone messages me something like hey beautiful you want to talk and their profile is empty or their pictures are just their cock, I'm going to pass.

[Be****]

23 hours ago, DumpThatLoadGuy said:

It's because most females profiles here are just here for keyboard play, . Although they won't tell you that. Also, some profiles/people are AI generated, or scammer accounts. These are the main reasons men aren't meeting women from this site.

Do you know how many people have flaked on meeting me? I think that's in general the population's issue is that they're all about the fantasy and not the reality of the world. Like I have people in my life that fulfill my needs, but I am also demisexual. I need to know someone before jumping into bed with them and no one is really looking to get to know anyone before that happens. I don't care what you look like I don't care about the size of your d**k I don't care if you're overweight or short. Grab my mind and I'm down to play. 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[Ro****]

11 hours ago, DumpThatLoadGuy said:

Wrong. That may be how you do things over there in Dublin, but, here in america, women like to play games on dating apps. To clarify, they type a tough game behind a keyboard, but when it comes time to socialize in person, they run away with their tail between their legs. There is no "being vetted from a distance ". You're either mature and want to me IRL, or you're immature playing games. Simple

You really think they're running scared with their tail between their legs?
I don't think so...
It's more likely that the way you phrase/respond to things and what your opinions tell us about yourself that has us deciding you are not for us.

[jinxed]

8 hours ago, Maliria said:

Just because we are into kinky sex, doesn't mean we don't have minds. As a matter of fact, for me, I'm more interested in your brain because that's what is going to make me come back to talking to you. I'm very much into the mental aspects of BDSM so if you want my interest, then you need to say something that's going to grab my interest. I'll ignore the 'Hey baby' and dime a dozen messages that are probably sent to 25 different people.

I'll second that 100%. Unfortunately, I find that info given in a profile doesn't offer a lot of possible food for an interesting conversation to begin. I wasn't looking for someone when I joined, but instead was looking for an actual exchange and I can count on one hand the proper discussions or conversation I had through messages. The rest was too hollow because they referred to something in my very basic profile instead of something I wrote in a thread. 
I've read this before in a different thread and I believe it is very true: If you are looking to connect to someone here, you might want to show yourself and your opinions in posts. Not as a chore, but as a way to interact. And that would be true for either side and any gender. 

[An****]

15 hours ago, DumpThatLoadGuy said:

Wrong. That may be how you do things over there in Dublin, but, here in america, women like to play games on dating apps. To clarify, they type a tough game behind a keyboard, but when it comes time to socialize in person, they run away with their tail between their legs. There is no "being vetted from a distance ". You're either mature and want to me IRL, or you're immature playing games. Simple

Sooo, what you're saying is, if a woman doesn't want you, then they are immature 👀...🤣

[we****]

13 hours ago, Maliria said:

I think the list provided is good overall, but it's not going to be for everyone. Personally, I'm not posting a new pic everyday. I have more important things to do and my appearance doesn't change that much. I'd rather someone check my profile because of something I said, not because of a pic.

Also, I'm somewhat introverted, for those that commented in regards to that. I can post my thoughts easily because I'm behind a screen. In my case, your thoughts are more important to me than your pic.

As for "D" pics, I can live without them. They're all pretty much the same overall and will not impress me (unless they're 12 inches and then I'm running away! 🤣🤣). I'm more offended by the person who messages me asking about my personal kinks without considering I have a brain.

Just because we are into kinky sex, doesn't mean we don't have minds. As a matter of fact, for me, I'm more interested in your brain because that's what is going to make me come back to talking to you. I'm very much into the mental aspects of BDSM so if you want my interest, then you need to say something that's going to grab my interest. I'll ignore the 'Hey baby' and dime a dozen messages that are probably sent to 25 different people.

You are right. I stopped using this App because the first person I interacted was looking for someone with experience. I wanted our minds to connect first before the physical aspect but she thought otherwise, I’m single but I won’t stop searching.

[Du****]

4 hours ago, An_Irish_Queen said:

Sooo, what you're saying is, if a woman doesn't want you, then they are immature 👀...🤣

For clarity. Mature, confident, physically attractive women don't talk a tough game behind the keyboard. They walk the walk, and are actually here to make progress and meet IRL. They're confident, not intimidated by a good looking alpha, She demonstrates her desires and is ready to be mounted by me to Dump That Load Deep inside, while she squirts all over her hardwood floors. This is from my own personal experiences on here. The ones who actually walk the walk are scarce.

[Yo****]

1 hour ago, DumpThatLoadGuy said:

For clarity. Mature, confident, physically attractive women don't talk a tough game behind the keyboard. They walk the walk, and are actually here to make progress and meet IRL. They're confident, not intimidated by a good looking alpha, She demonstrates her desires and is ready to be mounted by me to Dump That Load Deep inside, while she squirts all over her hardwood floors. This is from my own personal experiences on here. The ones who actually walk the walk are scarce.

So let me understand this. Your criteria for whether or not a woman is "real" is if she's ready to be immediately mounted by you and then apparently releasing liquids on a very specific floor type.
And then you wonder why those women are rare. 🤔

[Ge****]

1 hour ago, DumpThatLoadGuy said:

For clarity. Mature, confident, physically attractive women don't talk a tough game behind the keyboard. They walk the walk, and are actually here to make progress and meet IRL. They're confident, not intimidated by a good looking alpha, She demonstrates her desires and is ready to be mounted by me to Dump That Load Deep inside, while she squirts all over her hardwood floors. This is from my own personal experiences on here. The ones who actually walk the walk are scarce.

Mature, confident, attractive women can do and find their enjoyment wherever and however they want. This is not alpha talk. A true "alpha" type wouldnt need to be titled or use a title they'd let who and how they are speak for itself and let those around confirm what they already know. And wouldn't degrade a woman and as a result lower himself to that kind of talk or behavior. They lead in a way that makes those around want to follow and makes them comfortable to do so, not degrade them for not being interested. He'd simply move on.

[Yo****]

A woman's willingness to eschew safety is NOT an indication of intention. It's folly to ignore the reality that vetting is necessary.

[An****]

1 hour ago, DumpThatLoadGuy said:

For clarity. Mature, confident, physically attractive women don't talk a tough game behind the keyboard. They walk the walk, and are actually here to make progress and meet IRL. They're confident, not intimidated by a good looking alpha, She demonstrates her desires and is ready to be mounted by me to Dump That Load Deep inside, while she squirts all over her hardwood floors. This is from my own personal experiences on here. The ones who actually walk the walk are scarce.

Aw gross...."alpha"? 🤢 You're a walking red flag boyo! THATS why the women who allow you to "mount" them are so few & far between.

Your childish attempt at forming a narrative in order to protect your ego is...at worst, dangerous, & at best, pathetic.

Mature, confident, physically attractive women, know their worth, and know how to identify a red-pill fool from the safety of behind their screen. After all, what is the No.1 risk to a woman's life in the modern age....MEN. There is NO denying that statistic.

You really should have more sense for your age 😑

Have fun with the male loneliness epidemic 😅 I have a feeling it won't get much better for you. So keep stomping your feet and trying to tell any woman or man in earshot, that you're a "big tough alpha guy, and you must respect my authority".

[ey****]

I never quite get the guys who both complain they can't find someone, while also stating they have plenty of meets - errr.... which is it...?

Like the golden rule of no matter who you are, not everyone will want to do *whatever* with you. 

[ey****]

I guess another thing. Apologies if this has been raised on the thread already, but

Yep - guys complain about women who are not serious, won't meet up, flake, etc.  all of which can suck if you think you're doing everything right (and it's easier to blame the other person)

but, like, I've been about a bit - and there's been plenty of women I know or have known in that time who've....

Talked to guys who've not disclosed they're married.   Which either then ends in them trying to cheat, or just talking to fap off while their wife is in bed

or those without a partner, who are happy to talk up and wank off.  

Those where when it's come to meeting have found the guy won't do calls first, and/or shuns the women's suggested meeting places for no logical reason

And those where the woman has been stood up.

Or where they have met, and maybe it's just a coffee or maybe it's led to sex/play/whatever - and then the woman got home to find she's blocked by the guy everywhere.

We need to kinda get away from the notion that it's "only" hard for men.  

[Du****]

3 hours ago, GentlemanDevil said:

Mature, confident, attractive women can do and find their enjoyment wherever and however they want. This is not alpha talk. A true "alpha" type wouldnt need to be titled or use a title they'd let who and how they are speak for itself and let those around confirm what they already know. And wouldn't degrade a woman and as a result lower himself to that kind of talk or behavior. They lead in a way that makes those around want to follow and makes them comfortable to do so, not degrade them for not being interested. He'd simply move on.

The Key word here In your comment is "degrade". This is a "degrader" and "degradee" site. Make sense will ya.

[An****]

16 minutes ago, DumpThatLoadGuy said:

The Key word here In your comment is "degrade". This is a "degrader" and "degradee" site. Make sense will ya.

Oh my god ..this man completely misinterprets BDSM as a whole. I think that should conclude our engagement with this fool 😑

[Ge****]

17 minutes ago, DumpThatLoadGuy said:

The Key word here In your comment is "degrade". This is a "degrader" and "degradee" site. Make sense will ya.

This site is not solely *** nor did the people youre conversing with on here consent to be degraded. Its ok if youre new to the fetish scene but would suggest doing more research.