Is the Vibe Changing? The rise of ghosting, ***-requests, and profile turnover (even for paid accounts)

[No****]

Hi everyone,I’ve been on the platform for a while, and lately, I’ve noticed a shift in the community dynamics that feels a bit overwhelming and, honestly, a bit toxic. I wanted to open a discussion to see if others are experiencing this, or if I'm just hitting a string of bad luck.Lately, it feels like interacting here has become a minefield. Even as a paid subscriber, investing financially into the platform doesn't seem to filter out the noise. I'm seeing a lot of:High Profile Turnover: Female profiles I interact with seem to get blocked or deleted frequently, making it hard to build a normal rapport.Requests for Cash: A high percentage of conversations seem to quickly pivot to requests for *** or financial support.Frequent Ghosting: Even after having what seems like a decent, respectful conversation, a lot of women are just completely disappearing.I always try to be respectful and come at this from a place of genuine connection. Are you guys noticing this too? How are you handling the fatigue of trying to meet people when the culture feels like this? Let’s keep it civil but honest.

[lo****]

Thought was just me lots of ghosting talk then they delete account only to be right back on slso lots of bots scammets and gold diggers

[Jo****]

Just joined but it seems fun so far

[Kinkyboy1980]

Hi, It's funny you mention this as I have noticed and experienced exactly all the above. I see people view my profile then block me before and interaction has started. I've been ghosted, ignored and labelled that many times that I stopped paying to subscribe.

[ha****]

real

[Kinkyboy1980]

8 minutes ago, lovebbwladys said:

Thought was just me lots of ghosting talk then they delete account only to be right back on slso lots of bots scammets and gold diggers

Plenty of gold diggers trying to manipulate you.

[Surfsupscotty]

Same as you’ve mentioned

[bd****]

Same here

[Al****]

I've had the exact same experience.

[mo****]

We're probably entering a brand new type of depression era and everyone has goldfish level attention spans. Me included. I'll delete everything every now and then just to get a grip on it.

[Deleted Member]

Bots, scammers, and I think a general lack of clear communication about what people are looking for, which certainly changes the community. I think there are folks looking for a quick high and folks looking for fetish community

[Bi****]

And the expectations differs from which sex and what type.of needs they want to be fulfilled

[Sp****]

I'm having the same problem. Finding what feels like a genuine connection with someone, paying the *** to go see them and then getting ghosted the night before. I have also noticed a higher number of bots and scamming. Their is also a serious problem of people (men and women) who don't understand this community at all. It is extremely exhausting and makes it hard to find someone you can connect with and trust. I am losing all of my patience with this app. Some days it's hard to even open it.

[Kinkyboy1980]

10 minutes ago, Spedi said:

I'm having the same problem. Finding what feels like a genuine connection with someone, paying the *** to go see them and then getting ghosted the night before. I have also noticed a higher number of bots and scamming. Their is also a serious problem of people (men and women) who don't understand this community at all. It is extremely exhausting and makes it hard to find someone you can connect with and trust. I am losing all of my patience with this app. Some days it's hard to even open it.

I can relate to you. It's depressing, you send someone you feel an attraction for a polite message and they either ignore you or block you.

[la****]

I’m new to this site. I was hoping it would be different but they are all out to get you to spend *** on membership. I don’t know if there are any real people on this site. Why do people show up as crushes but never communicate with you? They are all a scam

[Sa****]

Honestly at this point,I'm simply just tired of all the "chasers" . like I get it we're on a fetish site, though I will note ,the audacity of some of these "men" astonishes me. Majority don't treat me very well or with any respect. Simply just chatting with me for the purpose of sexualizing me.

[vv****]

2 hours ago, Kinkyboy1980 said:

Plenty of gold diggers trying to manipulate you.

“No! Not me GOLD!”

[cellofello]

There are genuine women here - I have a relationship with a local woman I met through the site - but yes, there are a lot of fakes. And the site sometimes fails to act on reports of fake profiles. I interacted with an allegedly DC-area woman with pictures I determined were stolen from a FB account in Texas. I even contacted the FB user to ask if she had contacted me on a "dating site," and she denied it. I reported the profile. It's still up after many months.

As for crushes failing to communicate, *** of rejection might be one reason for people to crush but not send an initial contact message. I also believe the "quick kink" feature may lead people to send "spanks" without realizing that's what happens when you tap the paddle. And someone who spanked unintentionally is less likely to respond if you message them.

[Mr****]

Yeah after many many months I had 1 maybe conversations with ladys that just end up playing childish games or just vanish. Its becoming very off putting. Seriously concerning just deleting all together

[La****]

What is the difference between the buttons when interacting with someone's profile? As a person who is new here.

[DD****]

I'm newer on here and assumed it was always like that

[ha****]

I am a woman and am seriously frustrated with the number of times I’ve been ghosted or blocked without explanation. It’s incredibly frustrating. When did it become socially acceptable to ghost people? I mean, be an adult and just say you’re no longer interested.

And I’ve been catfished so many times on other sites and a few times already on this one. It’s becoming a huge problem across all digital platforms.

I’m struggling to make genuine connections. And when I finally do, a lot of the time I find that they misrepresent themselves. Men who have never been Doms before try to pass themselves off as such because they’re curious. Curiosity is fine, but be honest from the start.

[Kinkyboy1980]

I'm really struggling with it all, hardly had any conversations, nobody replies, just ghosts me. I just don't know where to find a genuine female domme.

[6o****]

Every moment is what our mind makes of it.

Women will come and go. There will always be others who will present new opportunities to other exotic places.

As for decorum, first, you will never know what worse luck your bad luck saved you from.

Do you think someone who would ghost you would behave better if you gave them the keys to your home?

I consider it my good fortune to discover whether someone really is artfully showing their cards without accruing additional figurative or literal scars.

It sucks to be treated badly, but it could always be worse—then only you can decide if that’s a blessing or a curse.

Good luck out there.

[Do****]

I guess you are right buddy, there a lot of ghosting, gold diggers and many many profiles been created and blocked in a few days, but i dont think that is a scam, many profiles are being blocked for security check, then the people just leave the app, many others just want you to be the dark romance crush they dream about it, and in real life, is not like this, I met many peoples in person from this app, but, i know EXACTLY, whatvare you talking about