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An Introduction to BDSM - Arch Style


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Very eloquently put. i enjoyed reading this. Thank you.
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I'm new and seem to have an interest in this for some  reason, unknown as to why.

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I'm new here n very interested n happy to try this new life style

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This should be a required reading when first joining this site
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Very well writen  thank you.

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New to this and think this will be a great help and guide
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I wish I saw and read this before I jumped in with both feet because now I am drowning in regret. I was talking to a Dom for a while and now he has ditched me. Now I am stuck going to Tennessee, it was to see him but now it's over. I feel so stupid and naive!!! Lesson learned, the hard way 

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11 hours ago, BondKitty07 said:

I wish I saw and read this before I jumped in with both feet because now I am drowning in regret. I was talking to a Dom for a while and now he has ditched me. Now I am stuck going to Tennessee, it was to see him but now it's over. I feel so stupid and naive!!! Lesson learned, the hard way 

Sorry to hear that's happened to you. Unfortunately it is a hard lesson but please don't call yourself stupid - mistakes are very often the way we learn.

When someone is first learning to ride a bike, they will inevitably make a mistake and fall off. When this happens we don't call them "stupid" - instead we explain what went wrong and tell them to get back on and try again........

Now dust yourself off and start peddling!

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Thank you for this easy to understand. insightful, well written description of BDSM, expectations and your ‘vanilla’ life.
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Thank you for giving this vital information, in a positive but serious manner. I am lucky in that I am Dominant IRL, the only area I do not want to dominate is the play room, fun room, fungeon, so my knee jerk reaction when someone thinks submissive equals doormatt and bratty sub equals whore for hire, I automatically tactfully redirect them, but if they continue to disrespect my boundaries I less politely remind them, this ain't that and continue to disrespect I'll get a moderator to help, (on chat 8n the lobby it has never come to that because other kinksters usually admonish the dbag or dbaggette before the person being disrespected has to say anything. While I know there is no such thing as a perfect environment, this site definitely takes informed consent, safety and bullying as well as information, and disinformation very seriously, yey maintains a fun atmosphere. Sorry ADHD brain, the reason I brought this up, a lot of new submissives may not have the same established boundaries, experience IRL being dominant in their vanilla life or they migjt not have the self love or self worth because they have been bullied all they life.
I love that this is simply explained with everyday anologies to try to explain the almost unexplaunable except for the main tenents, 1)say no to anyone that disrespects your boundaries or at least consider it, 2) dont let anyone push you to do something you already know you hate, dislike, isnt your cuppa, 3) speak up because not everyones psychic abilities are working or may be on the fritz, so inform your partner/partners if something is unwanted, unsatisfactory, or if beyond your *** threshhold., or communicate, if someone is not respecting your boundaries, ask someone you trust or at least trust more than the person not respecting you right to consent or not consent. There's a lot more you covered. Thank you for being honest and communicating.
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Thanks so much for clearing so many misunderstanding I had
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Excellent advice keep it up Arch 👏👍 more need to read this and take on board imo 

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What’s the best way to connect with the community and find partners locally?
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7 hours ago, lexington133 said:

What’s the best way to connect with the community and find partners locally?

Going to your local munch and getting yourself known is probably the most effective.

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