Popular Post Mr**** Posted October 16, 2022 Popular Post Posted October 16, 2022 Subs - How do you like to be approached by a dom on this app? What is your ideal 1st message that you like to see?
Sl**** Posted October 17, 2022 Posted October 17, 2022 Just a message on something about the profile or whatnot and if you want even further a couple of questions etc etc
Deleted Member Posted October 17, 2022 Posted October 17, 2022 I'm not a sub, however I'm going to go out on a limb and say this....everyone is different and going to have different ways they like to be approached. The best thing to do is to read their profile and see if they mention it at all. Other than that the best approach imo, is to start it off like you would any normal conversation. Just because someone is a sub, does not mean that they are your sub. Unless they specifically say they want otherwise, you can't just immediately start acting like you control them or anything similar. Ask them questions. Get to know them. Make sure to listen to what they're saying and if they aren't showing interest, then don't try to *** anything.
mi**** Posted October 17, 2022 Posted October 17, 2022 Just open the line of communication with a simple hello. Donāt be aggressive or assertive at first. āHey, scrolling through and your profile caught my eyeā does wonders
Te**** Posted October 17, 2022 Posted October 17, 2022 Hi Benjamin_G- I can tell you from experience I donāt want someone to immediately question āhow submissiveā I am. Or tell me Iām not a proper sub because I wonātā¦(whatever) Ideally something about your experience/time being a Dom. What type of training - casual bedroom or high protocol. Are you super strict or more relaxed. Do you want scenes or are you looking for something physical and/or relationship based? I donāt mind different approaches as long as they are respectful and appear to be leading somewhere.
Ki**** Posted October 17, 2022 Posted October 17, 2022 like iām a human being with feelings like anyone else lol
He**** Posted October 17, 2022 Posted October 17, 2022 Don't be creepy af. It's a turn off. You want open communication. Everyone has a different line that piques interest. It is not a 1 line fits all. As stated above, show you read their profile. That said not much is in mine since I'm new. However even that can lead to a healthy line of questioning and therefore conversation.
th**** Posted October 17, 2022 Posted October 17, 2022 Oh oh Iāll give an example that I think would be nice! āHey, Iām ____ and Iām a ___ (i.e. Dom, Daddy, etc.) I think youāre lovely and like your (kinky) bio .Iād love to get to know you more!ā
Deleted Member Posted October 17, 2022 Posted October 17, 2022 As long as itās a not a message from an obvious bot, any approach is better than no approach
Ro**** Posted October 17, 2022 Posted October 17, 2022 1 hour ago, randomsarcasm said: I'm not a sub, however I'm going to go out on a limb and say this....everyone is different and going to have different ways they like to be approached. The best thing to do is to read their profile and see if they mention it at all. Other than that the best approach imo, is to start it off like you would any normal conversation. Just because someone is a sub, does not mean that they are your sub. Unless they specifically say they want otherwise, you can't just immediately start acting like you control them or anything similar. Ask them questions. Get to know them. Make sure to listen to what they're saying and if they aren't showing interest, then don't try to *** anything. This^^^^ As a sub it pisses me off to get messages in my DMs from doms demanding things in their first message. Itās an immediate block from me. Donāt be creepy, be respectful, subs are humans with boundaries not a robot meant for purely your pleasure
Deleted Member Posted October 17, 2022 Posted October 17, 2022 I appreciate the f**k out of this question lol I hate when Doms try to Dom me before we've even interacted. "I want you. Come here and suck me off like a good slut" like bitch, I don't know you. In what world are you deluded enough to think this would work? Its nasty and abrasive. And I don't feel cared for or safe....
Ba**** Posted October 17, 2022 Posted October 17, 2022 Just don't be super creepy with your introduction, don't just say hey either, tell me who you are, what you are, what you're looking for, and where you're from, I'll respond if I like your profile. Also, if my profile clearly states everything I'm into, and you don't fit into what I'm looking for, there's a good chance I'll visit your profile once and never respond. Respect those who arent interested and leave them be.
kiyomos Posted October 17, 2022 Posted October 17, 2022 I personally like them to start with some small talk before getting into anything else.
na**** Posted October 17, 2022 Posted October 17, 2022 Iām new to this but I know for sure to not go psycho on intros
de**** Posted October 17, 2022 Posted October 17, 2022 Direct but not curt. Respectful and confident. Like : āGood morning, I trust you are well. i read your profile and was suitably impressed. I am here to find a good positive connection with a submissive, if you would like to explore this please let me know. ā They have to have good spelling, grammar, a sense of authority and authenticity.
MasterRaven Posted October 17, 2022 Posted October 17, 2022 I would like to answer this from a dominant point of view I myself prefer to get to know the person that I'm talking to because that way I will find out if they are a good fit for me or not so I will more often than not start off with small talk hey how are you I hope everything is going well something of that nature to open up other conversation and if they respond fine great if they don't well I guess they're not interested which is also fine too
Bi**** Posted October 17, 2022 Posted October 17, 2022 I'm an academic and don't care much for ritual. Respect is easy enough to understand. If not, things tend to fall support quite naturally. Not making assumptions is also a big one; I try to let a person show me who they are though words and action before I make a judgement.
ge**** Posted October 17, 2022 Posted October 17, 2022 It's really quite simple, regardless of whether they are dominant, submissive or switch, man, woman, TV etc - approach them as you would anyone else, with respect and courtesy, show a genuine interest in them the person. . Doesn't have to be war and peace, but nor should it be a couple of words - keep it simple, introduce yourself and why you are contacting them, and invite them to take a look at your profile and get back to you *if* they are interested in chatting some more. . Never assume or take the position that they are dominant or submissive or whatever, treat them as an equal - which is just what they are at the point you are contacting them.
CopperKnob Posted October 17, 2022 Posted October 17, 2022 The obvious way is respectfully Get to know me as a person. No kink. A bit of banter. Show me you've bothered to read my profile/read something I've posted. Give me something I can respond to. Short. Concise. Fun.
jo**** Posted October 17, 2022 Posted October 17, 2022 Send a message. Say hello. Donāt demand ***.
Deleted Member Posted October 17, 2022 Posted October 17, 2022 For me , and from me perspective as an inferior to all females , I would be more than happy with just a simple Hi Female dommes arenāt supposed to spend effort on their approach, they would only need to a knowledge the presence of the slave , and leave the rest of the work for their servants This might not be the case for other subs or slaves , but it is for me
oo**** Posted October 17, 2022 Posted October 17, 2022 š«- Affectionate terms as if youāre already in some kind of relationship, dynamic, or something - only makes you seem like a creep or someone who doesnt really take bdsm seriously.
Deleted Member Posted October 17, 2022 Posted October 17, 2022 Firstly on any contact Iād like them to have read and taken note of my profile and if they have things they do that are things I donāt do - for instance poly / non monogamous, then Iād rather not have contact. After that, as others have said being respectful, an invite maybe to read their profile. And bit of info about them but not too much. Iāll be honest that I struggle with online and canāt lead a conversation, so if someone comes to me with a hi, I will struggle to be able to reply and build a rapport, where as if someone comes to me that is confident in their message and gives me something to bounce off I can do it much easier - but I get thatās a me problem š¤£
Su**** Posted October 17, 2022 Posted October 17, 2022 The difference between this site and other ādatingā sites is that in general there needs to be a mutual ālikeā of each otherās profiles before communication starts. itās worth keeping that in mind when contacting anyone in here. Just because someone has viewed your profile they are not necessarily giving an indication that they have any real interest in getting to know you. Ā therefore I think itās always best to work on the assumption that you may not get a response or a response that you want.Ā Ā the best approach Iāve found is to treat the person as a person and behave the way you would in real life.Ā Ā thereās no magic formula Iām afraid. Everyone is an individual so you should treat them as such.
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