Only the best men are ready to submit. Strong, mature, and masculine men can admit their inner softness and surrender under the power of a confident woman.

Are you a submissive man who needs structure, comfort, and discipline?
Do you want a woman who sees your weakness, your guilt, your craving to be corrected — and takes control of it?
Can you be and still be in deep contact with your woman?
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I value depth, presence, trust and intentional connection. Not interested in surface-level play or fantasy-only dynamics.
For me, D/s is an emotional practice: clarity, honesty, and willingness to grow.
You'll feel my control in your body, in your mind, in the way you start structuring your day around pleasing me. That's not discipline — that's devotion.

I'm not looking for a boy to play with — I'm looking for a man who knows the joy of serving a woman, not because he is weak, but because he is strong and aware.
I love order, attention to detail, a taste for rituals, and the ability to anticipate without words.
If the word “service” sounds like art to you — maybe we should talk.
Daily rituals, rules, and obedience tasks
Loving correction when you fall short
A safe space to be
… and owned.

I'm a Counsellor. I understand power dynamics deeply, both professionally and personally. In my private life, I'm looking for one man for a long-term D/s relationship.

Message me if you’re ready to give up control and be moulded into the good boy I know you want to be.

If this resonates, write to me. I'd like to know:
– Who you are (not just what you do)
– Where you live and what your life looks like
– What pulls you toward submission
– What you're looking for in a D/s relationship
– How you imagine serving, and what you hope to receive in return

If you're that man, don't wait. Thoughtful answers matter more than fast ones.
I choose carefully — but when I choose, I commit deeply.

BDSM Play Partner31 to 47 years ● 50km around UK London

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