Hello and thank you for taking the time to read this somewhat long post. I am attempting to establish minimum compatibility prior to spending an extensive amount of time chatting. your honesty with yourself, who you are, and what you want is paramount.
My ultimate goal is to find a partner in life with whom I can be Myself without . My descriptions and requirements below are in many cases goals, though they need to be acceptable to you as anything said or written is considered an acknowledgement and soft-commitment; honesty and transparency are important to Me.
Obviously, there will be discussions surrounding basic life goals and desires as well as the items below, so don't get scared away thinking you and your feelings are not being considered. Part of being a Daddy is concern for My girl and her well being.
you will use My use of capitalization in written communications.
The lists below are in no particular order, hence bullets, not numbers, mostly just a stream of consciousness.
I very much look forward to starting a dialogue with you, so reach out soon.
About Me
I am an Owner/Daddy who has had one submissive 30 years ago and the same one again recently for a total of about 2 years. That relationship is completely over now.
The hiatus between was when I pushed the kinkier side of Me down and lived a vanilla life. I am at the point I no longer want to ignore my kinks and fetishes and I would like to have another sub/slave with a cervix to join Me.
β€’ I have a low body count and prefer you to have the same, if possible, though this is not a hard requirement. Corrupting you is one of my fetishes.
β€’ I want to create a relationship of trust and safety where we both can express our desires without judgement.
β€’ Assuming compatibility, marriage is possible/probable though regardless you will be collared.
β€’ I have an extensive list of kinks and fetishes, some of which may be considered extreme.
β€’ I have sadistic tendencies.
β€’ I am well educated.
β€’ I have a felony conviction for negligent homicide as part of a traffic collision. No
or alcohol were involved.
β€’ I am white.
β€’ I have a penis about 80% of average.
β€’ I am currently overweight (200 lb), though I am working to improve Myself. My goal is 150 to 160 lb.
β€’ My known limits are no or play.
About you
β€’ you may have from previous relationship(s).
β€’ you are open to being pregnant (once again) as I would like to have a child. This is not a hard requirement as long as you are accept another carrying the child.
β€’ your commitment to me will be unshakeable regardless of our activities.
β€’ you will put Me before yourself.
β€’ you will never lie or deceive Me in any way as this would erode and/or threaten the safe environment.
β€’ Preferably, you are similar in your experiences and lack thereof, and have my kinks and fetishes you have repressed and want to experience.
β€’ you understand that I will most likely be open to or already have any fetish or kink you desire.
β€’ your kinks/fetishes may concern or scare you because you
the repercussions (not a requirement) as getting you to do those things is part of my desire. The safe environment I am seeking to build should help assuage many of your concerns.
o you will perform My fetishes and kinks even when they are not fully your own.
o you will be having sex with women. Whether you enjoy it to start is not relevant, though you will be expected to obey and participate enthusiastically.
β€’ you will be expected to address Me as Sir at most times. Other pet names are acceptable as long as they are respectful.
β€’ you will be collared once compatibility and long-term commitment has been established.
β€’ you have masochistic tendencies.
β€’ you swallow.
β€’ you may be given an SLRN (this can be discussed).
β€’ you will keep a tidy house and provide healthy meals (similar to TradWife).
β€’ Preferably, you are similar in your experiences and lack thereof, and have many kinks/fetishes you have repressed and want to experience.
β€’ Preferably, you are similar to Me in your experiences and lack thereof, and have many kinks/fetishes you have repressed and want to experience.

BDSM Play Partner ● 25 to 50 years ● 5km around USA Westmont

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