How to Fit in Kink over the Festive Season

The festive season is one of the busiest and most stressful times of the year. But, how do you manage it all and enjoy a kink over the holidays, too? We asked Victoria Blisse to serve up some suggestions to help you get your kink on during the festivities.

Trying to fit it all in?

It may seem like a negative way to kick-off an article, but you can't fit in absolutely everything over the festive season. There's a ridiculous amount of pressure to have the perfect, magical holiday and there aren't enough hours in the day. Tip: work out which parts aren't essential over the holidays and free up some time so you can enjoy the festivities - and fit in some kinky fun too. Here are some tips.

1. Take time for you

Don't feel guilty about taking time for yourself over the holidays. Kink isn't an optional extra; it's part of you. And you should make time for things that make you feel good. It's winter; it's cold and dark and gloomy. We all need to be doing something to boost our mental health. Kink and fetish is often a positive release, and you need that when everything is so busy and pressured.

2. Schedule in your kink

It might not sound romantic to schedule your kink time in advance. It's fun to go with the flow, but over the festive season, you have to have a plan to fit it all in. Make space for kink. Mark it in your diary and make your kink time a priority.

2. Find an XXX-mas party

Finding time and space at home for a slice of kink or Christmas bondage during the festive season is hard, especially if you have family staying, or random visitors drop in at will. So, depending on any Coronavirus restrictions where you are, why not look for munches or events run by your local dungeon, BDSM or Sex club and go to those. Parties are an essential part of the festive season so no one will bat an eyelash when you tell them you're going to one. Only you will know you're off to the local dungeon to enjoy one of their fetish nights.

Going to a dungeon is a great way to spend time with other members of the kink community. If you're by yourself, you might find a play partner, but if not, you're more than likely to be able to watch some fun BDSM play. If you're a couple and you want privacy, most places have private rooms, where you can be assured of not being interrupted while in the middle of a bit of Christmas bondage. Tinsel is evil to be tied up with; sadists take note!

Get out and have some fetish festive fun!

4. Kink at home over the holidays

It might be difficult, but it isn't impossible to get your Christmas kink on at home. There are subtle ways you can play with Dominant and Submissive dynamics, even with other people around.

Doms can pick out outfits for their subs to wear, with or without underwear depending on how daring you are.
Tease your other half by sending them a photo of the kinky lingerie you’re wearing underneath your party clothes. They can then unwrap you later!
Subs can kneel at their Dom’s feet. When there are so many people there to entertain someone is bound to end up on the floor, it might as well be you.

There are many fun, wearable BDSM toys too. Maybe your sub could be wearing nipple clamps as they make the pudding or wireless vibrating love eggs as they do the wrapping. It might not be best to play with these when there is family around but why not make those tedious holiday preparations spicy with a little kinky fun?

Giving or receiving... it's the thought that counts.

5. Give the gift of Christmas bondage

Treat your partner(s) to a night away after Christmas for them to unwind after all the madness and festivities. That week between Christmas Day and New Year seems perfect for taking a little time out. Take your them away from it all for a while, and then you can get as kinky as you like.

You could go to any hotel and enjoy some fetish fun from Christmas bondage to sploshing with the leftover trifle (remember your fluid-proof sheets!) but why not book into a fetish hotel and immerse yourself in kink? Or hire a dungeon for a day and play to your heart's content.

Victoria Blisse was an erotic author and sex-positive Reverend. She helped shape fetish.com and FET from the very beginning and we're eternally grateful for her passion and creativity. Sadly, she passed away in January 2024. We hope that whenever her articles are read, she'll be honored.