Specific behavior

[Meriah]

Hello please advice.
Is it normal that during sex while he is lying on top of me, my Master keeps biting my hair, tugging and pulling it?
Everything would be ok if it wasn't so painful... 

It's not his fault and his nature, but being honest to the max, I prefer not to make love in a hoodie.

Some ideas? 

[ge****]

Honestly? Just tell him you don't like it and ask him to stop.
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Hair pulling is something that some do like, but if you don't that's fine, but if you don't tell him how will he know?

[Pa****]

5 minutes ago, gemini_man said:

Honestly? Just tell him you don't like it and ask him to stop.
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Hair pulling is something that some do like, but if you don't that's fine, but if you don't tell him how will he know?

Sounds like they've had the discussion from the whole "it's his nature" bit although I could be wrong.

Just discuss it, And if he isn't willing to stop then maybe you should move on. Communication is paramount.

[DJ****]

Open and clear conversation about limits needs to be had. If you just don’t want it each time, point that out… if you hate it then put it as a hard limit/no.
You are allowed to say no!

[ar****]

If you're having a problem with it, then no it's not normal. It is however normal for him to continue his behavior if you don't let him know it's not ok. So raise the issue with them.

[Now38]

Yeah communication is key

[Deleted Member]

A clear lack of open, transparent and honest communication.

[Deleted Member]

Shave it all off

[Meriah]

1 hour ago, Alex10473 said:

Shave it all off

[MelbourneSurrogate]

Your Dom should always respect your limits, and if he is worth the title, he would be vigilant of crossing boundaries.
If you feel reticent in defining limits, perhaps from misplaced concerns over Topping from the Bottom, you can ask him, beg him to stop, perhaps negotiating with him in exchange for something else he might prefer.
But if this fails to persuade him, it doesn't seem to me that he has your concerns as a priority. Move on.

[Mi****]

Have a conversation with your Master outside of play time. Be open and honest, like you were here. Tell them it’s too much and ask them to ease back. If it happens again, use your safe word.

If it keeps happening and your Master doesn’t respect your boundaries, other boundaries will likely be violated as well. Consider moving on and finding someone that respects you and your limits. You always have control over what happens to you.

[do****]

Am sorry he has you making love in a hoodie? Am sorry as other comment said sounds like he using and abusing you with no concern for your desires. You have a perfect body honestly might be best move on that respects you. It’s one thing to be rough and like inflecting pain or whatever you enjoy but at the end of the day whatever your kinks are should still have respect for your partners needs and desires.

If you choose to stay seems like he using could be pet play since he biting your hair idk but I assume toggling using as handle. Give him a new one wrap belt around neck or get a leash that might interest him more then hair or grab his hands force he to pen your hands somewhere

[ey****]

a conversation definitely needs to be had that you do not like this

it sounds like he may have a hair fetish.  So, in which case you're going to need to work out what works for you both 

[Lord_Talion]

If you can't voice your opinion to him, ya probably shouldn't be with him

[se****]

1 hour ago, doggyman said:

 Give him a new one wrap belt around neck or get a leash that might interest him more then hair or grab his hands force he to pen your hands somewhere

A reminder, the neck is very delicate, and not intelligent to mention "belt around neck"! From a person with neck inqury, if it's injured... the person will most likely have it forever.

Edited February 20 by seonny
Misspelling

[BruiseWayne]

7 hours ago, Meriah said:

I prefer not to make love in a hoodie.

LOL

 

Yes, it's perfectly okay for him to want to do that and for him to be doing it, but if you have a problem with it and it's making you uncomfortable and killing the vibe then you have to a talk with him about it in a neutral setting outside of play. Or if it bothers you in the moment enough just use your safeword and discuss it then.

 

Easy peasy. :)

[littlemiss37]

Communication is the key try and talk to him x

[Deleted Member]

Tell him to stop! He’s watched too much porn and thinks it is a good stimulation for you. Communicate now and always. Role playing must be mutual.

[Deleted Member]

You just need to talk to him I do too the same but only from behind and probably not as hard but you should have a talk about it it will make a difference

[Dubwo]

Talk to him- communicate- it should be mutual. Meet the common ground. Pretty simple.

[sh****]

Where’s the safe word ?

[St****]

Most probably its because the grip is not good or the chunk of hair is too small. I think normal hair pulling should not be painful and basically should only make your head tilt back making lower spine to arch more.