ma**** Posted September 30 Posted September 30 I think that not everything needs to get viewed through the lens of dominant or submissive some things just are
Sw**** Posted October 18 Posted October 18 Cuddling is important because to me it's aftercare. You need aftercare after a scene.
Deleted Member Posted October 19 Posted October 19 Absolutely is dominant especially keeping someone safe and feeling secure
Fa**** Posted October 21 Posted October 21 No, it is not dominant, however it is important. It builds trust. Remember his/her submission is a gift that can be revoked at any time. Allowing yourself to be ***, shows him/her that not only can you be trusted, but that you trust them.
So**** Posted October 21 Posted October 21 Cuddling can absolutely be dominant. Trust is the most important part of any relationship, in bdsm it can be even more so. Taking care of a sub mentally, emotionally, and physically is the proper role of the dom. As a sub, being held by a trusted dominant is incredibly comforting and definitely requires submission to their embrace.
Pr**** Posted November 2 Posted November 2 As mentioned in my confessions, cuddling is my greatest fantasy. I can definitely see it being used from a dom perspective. But I think I would be the sub in that situation
Mr**** Posted November 3 Posted November 3 A real Dom wouldn’t worry about the optics of how it appears. The strongest person in a TPE is the one who relinquishes control and submits to being dominated. It’s a symbiotic relationship and aftercare and bonding (cuddling) is essential in maintaining that bond. Thats my take. Others may disagree. That’s fine.
de**** Posted November 4 Posted November 4 I think of cuddling as a Dom very similar to taking a baby bird under your wing - it's a caretaking form of dominance. It's important ❤️
Go**** Posted November 5 Posted November 5 Cuddling can be your kink, or part of your after-care, or whatever you want it to be. Whoever judges your kinks and how you navigate them is simply projecting and has a lot of insecurities to iron out.
xD**** Posted November 5 Posted November 5 Cuddling is imperative for proper aftercare. Your little/brat/pet should be reminded that even punishment is an act of guidance and love.
Po**** Posted November 5 Posted November 5 False. A good Dominant will understand the importance of aftercare, equally, it can be used as a reward for good behaviour or to claim ownership. It's also important as it can help build trust, this isn't just a vanilla aspect of a relationship, but it's a very real aspect of any relationship regardless of dynamic.
Deleted Member Posted November 5 Posted November 5 Part of being a dom is being able to take care of your sub, cuddling is part of that so it is very dom if you cuddle your sub
ha**** Posted November 14 Posted November 14 Being a dom, you always give your sub what they need, and sometimes that means letting them see you do have a softer side, it doesnt mean your weak or less dominant,it means your providing what they need like a good daddy dom does.
Ki**** Posted November 19 Posted November 19 Dominance has many different styles and aspects. Anyone who says that "this or that isn't dominant" is probably not educated on actual power exchange. Whether or not an action or activity is dominant or submissive is irrelevant. Is eating food dominant??? No? Well we all do it and it has nothing to do with power exchange, so who f**king cares? Doing a non-dominant thing, like eating, doesn't make you less dominant. 🤦♀️ But beyond that, a Dominant takes care of their submissive, and emotional care is part of that. Connection and emotion is part of that. And Dominants also deserve the same emotional care and connection! People are people, not machines.
in**** Posted November 20 Posted November 20 I am a sub and love a dominant woman who is both sadistic and tender. Cuddling can be dominant. Cuddling can lead to impact and destruction. Long live cuddling!!!
Ms**** Posted November 21 Posted November 21 That's wild! So having emotions or feeling then wanting to express that isn't Dominant? That's so wild, we are still humans...
Deleted Member Posted November 21 Posted November 21 It's OK to turn the dominance off, and start cuddling after. What do they expect?...Dominance 24/7 🤘🤘🤘 (Death metal voice)
co**** Posted November 22 Posted November 22 Cuddling is fine it is wonderful aftercare and helps release more oxytocin
bu**** Posted November 23 Posted November 23 if my dom didn’t cuddle i wouldn’t want it! haha. cuddles are such an important part of any relationship and i feel the same with bdsm dynamics- it helps en*** security and show affection and love without necessarily wanting sex. it’s just pure affection and connection. it’s also such a lovely way to end a play session/have aftercare.
Deleted Member Posted November 28 Posted November 28 I've held sobbing subs who needed the connection after play, it doesn't take away any of the dynamic as far as I'm concerned, neither does lying there while my back is tickled
Su**** Posted Wednesday at 03:58 AM Posted Wednesday at 03:58 AM October 21, Falkor69 said: No, it is not dominant, however it is important. It builds trust. Remember his/her submission is a gift that can be revoked at any time. Allowing yourself to be ***, shows him/her that not only can you be trusted, but that you trust them. I am curious. Why do you feel that it is not dominant to cuddle?
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