Molly's BDSM Tips | How Do I Talk About My Tights Fetish?

Whatever your kink or fetish, sometimes it can be hard to gauge how an established (or potentially new) partner might react when introducing kink to the relationship. This week, our Molly hands out some helpful advice to one member with a tights fetish who is wondering how to best to articulate his kink.

Dear Molly,
Do you think that women view men wearing tights as OK and would you say that it's a turn-on for women to see men doing so? My ex-wife thought my tights fetish was weird, but a girlfriend I had didn't have a problem with it, and she would wear them for me too. But, I'm concerned that for most women, it would be a turn-off. Also, how would I best go about explaining my tights fetish to someone else?
Man in tights.

Dear Man in tights,
I don't think there's a one-size-fits-all answer to your question, which is evident by the experiences you've had with different women in your life. One of them was not OK with it, and the other one sounds like she was OK with it, but your tights fetish wasn't a particular kink for her. As with all things, everyone is different in what they do or don't like, so I can't speak for all women.

Not everyone likes the same thing

Does everyone you know like Tuna or Bananas? Do they all have the same duvet covers or the same thickness of pillow? The answer is no because we humans are complex folks, and as a result, we all like and enjoy different things - including the sex we enjoy and the things that turn us on. Some women are going to be uncomfortable by a man with a tights or nylon fetish, some are going to be happy to indulge it, and some are going to find it just as hot and sexy as you do.

What's important for you to remember is that as you meet people, you'll understand that for some folks, men in pantyhose / tights is going to a 'no', which means they're not the ideal person for you. But there are plenty of women who will enjoy sharing your tights fetish with you, either because they're happy to facilitate their partner's turn-ons or because it turns them on too.

Understand what's so good about your tights fetish

So what is it about tights that turn you on? Is it the way they look, how they fit your body, how tights feel against your skin, or how they feel to touch? You also mention your girlfriend wearing tights for you, so I assume women wearing tights arouses you, too. Again, all the same questions apply; Why?

For you to be able to convey your desires to another person, you need the ability to articulate them and explain how and why tights are sexy to you. It's from here that you can build those ideas with a partner. Becoming turned on by someone else's kink is a thing, too. Many people take on their partner's fantasies and desires as their own because they witness and experience their arousal and so it becomes sexy to them.

You need to think about these questions and answer them for yourself so that you're able to explain your kink to someone else. Understanding why you like to see people in tights and why you like to wear them will make it more likely for someone to accept it as sexy and enjoy exploring further with you.

Exploring your tights fetish with a partner

My suggestion when it comes to introducing your tights fetish to a partner, is to start by appreciating them in tights. Tell them they look sexy and of how they fit and outline their bottom or between their thighs. Maybe buy your partner some cute tights that you like. Make your partner feel sexy and special when they wear them. From here, it's a natural step for you to say how much you like the feel of nylons and that it turns you on to see them in tights - to then being able to say, 'I wonder how they would feel on me?'

Hopefully, by this point, your partner will playfully suggest that you try a pair on. When they see you find it sexy, they'll respond to that and then you can continue to develop how this kink works for you as a couple.
Good luck!
Molly x

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