I had a very different understanding of alpha sub label. I was very surprised when started this journey of use of labels in a community I wanted to be more free in. I was labelled as a brat ( a term I do not like , for me) . Also an alpha sub, this due to my independence/ career female in day to Read more… day life, then switching to submissive in this life .

Meg Myers desire

To make me a better version of myself was his promise to me. Not to mould me into something else, not to just sexually satisfy self with punishment/tasks or scenes.
During an incredible personal stressful situation in my life, I was punished for not completing a task with origami. I absolutely Read more… hated it. But what I didn't know at that time, it was a method to get me to give my brain a break on what else was going on while I focused on this. I slept that night for the first time in weeks. Punishment isn't always black and white. What I truly believe is it's to benefit me

Suspension

Reason am asking is is ideas for impact play/ bedroom scenes or more punishment as a part of life dynamic

Firstly, (in my opinion) it's great that your respecting, while exploring, boundaries and not crossing them. Me too find idea of public display extremely exciting but one that should remain a fantasy for now anyways. I am a newbie and it's a mindfield, things thought where comfortable with, Read more… trying things you wouldn't dream of so it's not as straightforward sometimes to have a list. Can I ask what are you punishing her for?

I absolutely adore a games night, and have also been lucky to experience kink version of some game. Example of playing hangman on body with red marker

My question is , is somethings a fantasy and should stay there or is it something both want to explore. For me... This would be such a huge push on boundaries I would need to understand my Dom's motive too and have a very concise planned scene should it happen.
As a female sub, the fantasy is the Read more… control element, have a humiliation kink so can feed this too. I am not a lover of exhibition but voyeur I enjoy
So don't think there is a short answer, depends individually on dynamic and kinks

I agree having more than a word is essential. When I go to subspace I forgot to breath never mind be able to actually say a word. I have 2 safewords and 2 hand signals. One is to communicate am reaching my limit so tread carefully and second is stop
You could go as far as three to confirm all ok, Read more… especially when exploring new things

From this conversation, @FET admin a how I like to be approached section on profiles would be well received