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Gender Man
Age 40
Status Not single
Height 185cm
Weight 73kg
Body shape Average build
Eye colour Brown
Hair colour Brown
Hair length Middle
Beard Full beard
Orientation Straight
Ethnicity Caucasian white
Origin UK
Pubic Hair Part shaved
Body hair Some hair
Zodiac sign Gemini
Glasses
Smoker
Tattoos
Piercings

About me

Interested in:

I’m looking for:

  • Friends

Description

Lifestyle.
Not a total newbie to the BDSM lifestyle. Tried different things.
Looking to learn from chatting with Dom's and get to be the Dominant me and my partner are after.
I like shibari and starting to learn its art form.
Willing to try anything, but a bit at a time.

Vanilla life.
Could call me a geek. Watching tons of anime, building gunpla models and starting to enjoy some cosplaying.
Reading books (mainly history) and learning some other languages.

Limits

Me to know, you to not work out.

My roles & archetype

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Whiterose-gonedark
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  • 14.03.2024 8:39:04
  • Male (40)
  • Rotherham
  • Not single
  • Whiterose-gonedark
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  • 27.10.2023 8:44:06
  • Male (40)
  • Rotherham
  • Not single

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Whiterose-gonedark
icon-wio Whiterose-gonedark wrote something in the forum
  • 14.10.2023 11:43:59
  • Male (40)
  • Rotherham
  • Not single
Newbie to group

I was actually thinking about that, but will it be too late? Especially when I've told her I would give her a hand. Shall I do it for next time and let her know if the task/chore/assignment isnt done, I shall remove something that she likes?
I will discuss that idea of how it makes her feel in our Read more… next weekly chat, on me not following through with the "correction" and how she feels about it. It would help me aswell.
Thank you.

Whiterose-gonedark
icon-wio Whiterose-gonedark wrote something in the forum
  • 14.10.2023 11:37:41
  • Male (40)
  • Rotherham
  • Not single
Newbie to group

Ah yes, explain if she has done "give praise" and the "penalty" if not, before hand.
Thank you, I may have been missing that. Something to think about.

Whiterose-gonedark
icon-wio Whiterose-gonedark wrote something in the forum
  • 14.10.2023 8:52:55
  • Male (40)
  • Rotherham
  • Not single
Newbie to group

Thank you for your reply.
I will have a sit down and talk about it in our next weekly chat. It's been helpful what you replied back to me.

Whiterose-gonedark
icon-wio Whiterose-gonedark wrote something in the forum
  • 14.10.2023 8:48:58
  • Male (40)
  • Rotherham
  • Not single
Newbie to group

Thank for your reply.
You have a point about the severity of the failed task and let it off.
Tbh, last task I asked of her was to tidy out her wardrobe, as I'm sending over money so she can buy all new clothes she'd love to wear. So all clothes she doesnt wear or are worn can be thrown or charity Read more… shop.
Sent the money over and shes bought all new clothes she loves and not tidied the wardrobe out. So now theres no room for the new clothes. I have asked her twice to do it, she apologises and says she will do it. Never happened so far. I've said I'd help her now, as it's getting an eye sore seeing new clothes hanging/folded everywhere.

Whiterose-gonedark
icon-wio Whiterose-gonedark wrote something in the forum
  • 14.10.2023 1:44:26
  • Male (40)
  • Rotherham
  • Not single
Newbie to group

Thank you for your reply.
We are engaged and live together, but we both have the BDSM lifestyle we like to delve into as much as possible with eachother.
We have discussions every week about things we are liking/not liking, stuff to try, ect. I explain about certain shall I say "assignments" and Read more… if she keeps not doing them, I'll think of what the "correction" will be.
she doesnt do the "assignment", says sorry and I forgive.
Am I being too soft on her and allowing her to get away with stuff too easily. I'm not really wanting her to think I'm a push over.

Whiterose-gonedark
icon-wio Whiterose-gonedark is engaged
  • 14.10.2023 1:34:51
  • Male (40)
  • Rotherham
  • Not single
Whiterose-gonedark
icon-wio Whiterose-gonedark created a topic in BDSM Forum
Newbie to group
Hi,
I've been into the bdsm lifestyle for quite a while and started beginning to open up further into the world.
I'm just wanting to know how yo get into the right mindset. Mainly with corrections.
I ask my partner to do something for me, she doesnt do it with excuse of forgetting (which I would be Read more…more forgiving if there was a decent excuse). She gives me puppy eyes, pouts and says sorry. I seem to forgive her, say "remember to do it next time" and it happens again.
Unsure whether she wants some "funishment" or some correction. Just need to get out of the constant forgiving.
Can any Dom or sub give a little advice. Anything would be appropriated.
LikeLaziz, Hermes4uand 5 more… · 11 Replies
eyemblacksheep
eyemblacksheep Speak to her on her expectancies
is she genuinely forgetting things (is this something that needs help with) or do it in the hope you'll respond a certain way.
Don't second guess - speak to her. Speak to her on her expectancies
is she genuinely forgetting things (is this something that needs help with) or do it in the hope you'll respond a certain way.
Don't second guess - speak to her.
LikeDenverKitten, Whiterose-gonedark · 14.10.2023 12:39:41
Whiterose-gonedark
Whiterose-gonedark ➦Whiterose-gonedark quote DenverKitten:❝To me the easy punishment is take the new stuff away until it’s done. I can’t speak for her but, for myself, punishment is very important. If I break rules and there is no consequence, it makes me feel insecure. Basically, my Dom isn’t following through. I Read more… don’t want the punishment, but I do need it. Maybe that will help you mentally feel okay with not forgiving.❞
I was actually thinking about that, but will it be too late? Especially when I've told her I would give her a hand. Shall I do it for next time and let her know if the task/chore/assignment isnt done, I shall remove something that she likes?
I will discuss that idea of how it makes her feel in our next weekly chat, on me not following through with the "correction" and how she feels about it. It would help me aswell.
Thank you.
Like · 14.10.2023 11:43:59
Whiterose-gonedark
Whiterose-gonedark ➦Whiterose-gonedark quote gemini_man:❝When you set a task - does it come with the added "...or this will happen if you don't."? Perhaps that's one way of dealing with it from both your perspectives - from hers to act as motivation to do it (particularly if the thing that will happen is something Read more… within her limits that she doesn't particularly like) and from yours to motivate you to do that thing despite the puppy dog eyes?
.
You could even add a carrot of something she enjoys if she does complete the task.❞
Ah yes, explain if she has done "give praise" and the "penalty" if not, before hand.
Thank you, I may have been missing that. Something to think about.
Like · 14.10.2023 11:37:41
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  • 12.10.2023 20:06:09
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  • Rotherham
  • Not single
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  • 12.10.2023 19:56:56
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  • Rotherham
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  • 12.10.2023 19:25:56
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  • Rotherham
  • Not single
  • Whiterose-gonedark
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  • 12.10.2023 19:16:32
  • Male (40)
  • Rotherham
  • Not single
Me to know, you to not work out.
Whiterose-gonedark
icon-wio Whiterose-gonedark wrote something about themself
  • 12.10.2023 19:16:32
  • Male (40)
  • Rotherham
  • Not single
Lifestyle.
Not a total newbie to the BDSM lifestyle. Tried different things.
Looking to learn from chatting with Dom's and get to be the Dominant me and my partner are after.
I like shibari and starting to learn its art form.
Willing to try anything, but a bit at a time.

Vanilla life.
Could call Read more… me a geek. Watching tons of anime, building gunpla models and starting to enjoy some cosplaying.
Reading books (mainly history) and learning some other languages.
Whiterose-gonedark
icon-wio Whiterose-gonedark is no longer single
  • 12.10.2023 19:16:32
  • Male (40)
  • Rotherham
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