Angel-1978 Posted August 16, 2023 Posted August 16, 2023 Well im completely new to this but as you all say start with a hi or hello like you would a friend as we are all here with similar interests so therefore getting to know eachother before getting closer makes sense đđš
ob**** Posted August 19, 2023 Posted August 19, 2023 I never have been messaged on her guess there maybe very few female doms.
si**** Posted August 24, 2023 Posted August 24, 2023 Never messaged first before, but i think i like to be approach like a normal people for the first time like hi or hello. Like in tinder or something
Ch**** Posted August 25, 2023 Posted August 25, 2023 It really isn't hatd - 1) Read my profile 2) talk to me like a person you want a relationship with, not a kink/sex dispenser Yep - two simple rules. It really is that easy.
su**** Posted August 29, 2023 Posted August 29, 2023 Politely and with manners. Followed by why they find my profile interesting enough to message. Maybe some clues showing they actually read what is written. I donât like *** one liners.
Realsubmale951 Posted September 1, 2023 Posted September 1, 2023 Just a normal, trying to get to know you message. A normal conversation starter that you would use if you met someone in person. Nobody walks up to you in person and asks "are you ready to be my slave?", so why do they do it online? Just be normal, respectful, and converse in a normal way.Â
Deleted Member Posted September 7, 2023 Posted September 7, 2023 An assertive message telling me what they want and are going to do with me
Gr**** Posted September 9, 2023 Posted September 9, 2023 Immediately being put in my place, telling me what they want to do to/with me and what they will expect of me
sc**** Posted September 11, 2023 Posted September 11, 2023 Just any way I can be aproached.. IA ok with me
mi**** Posted September 13, 2023 Posted September 13, 2023 Be simple and tell me what you want. I'm not much of an initiator.
Li**** Posted September 14, 2023 Posted September 14, 2023 Respectfully! Like just because I like kinky degrading shit doesn't mean I want the first time u message me to be rude or degrading
Deleted Member Posted September 15, 2023 Posted September 15, 2023 Respectfully just tell me what you need and as long you are ok with me asking questions for clarification then we are good
po**** Posted September 18, 2023 Posted September 18, 2023 I feel respect is very important. I want to hear confidence but also respect. Asking what I am looking for and letting me know what He is looking for in a sub. If he can't treat me nice in general conversation, I can't respect him.
Deleted Member Posted September 19, 2023 Posted September 19, 2023 I'm completely new to this, so I would definitely appreciate someone who is respectful and friendly before exploring anything more.
li**** Posted September 20, 2023 Posted September 20, 2023 Respectfully, and to remember we are not in a dynamic instantly
MasterDarcy1979 Posted October 4, 2023 Posted October 4, 2023 I'm a Dom but I'll still answer this one. From a personal perspective, as a Dominant, I have never initiated contact. Ever. Why is that? The main reason is that women receive dozens and dozens of messages on a daily basis. I'm not going to be a part of the crowd and have my message lost in the sea of nessages. But If I were to initiate contact: I would read her profile. If we had compatibilities and similarities then I would start with that. The biggest piece of advice is do not start off by acting like she's your sub. Don't immediately call her names or bark instructions at her. Treat her with respect. Be a gentleman.
Ki**** Posted January 29 Posted January 29 October 4, 2023, MasterDarcy1979 said: I'm a Dom but I'll still answer this one. From a personal perspective, as a Dominant, I have never initiated contact. Ever. Why is that? The main reason is that women receive dozens and dozens of messages on a daily basis. I'm not going to be a part of the crowd and have my message lost in the sea of nessages. But If I were to initiate contact: I would read her profile. If we had compatibilities and similarities then I would start with that. The biggest piece of advice is do not start off by acting like she's your sub. Don't immediately call her names or bark instructions at her. Treat her with respect. Be a gentleman. Like you answer or comment
Sh**** Posted January 29 Posted January 29 I am a switch but Iâll answer this as well: I approached people, and like to be approached in the same way: just start chatting, I want to get to know the person Iâm conversing with first and foremost. nothing is more offputting then the first message you get from someone asking when you want to hook up, or being something along the lines of Iâm into X, you down? fortunately, thatâs not a problem Iâve come across all that often in the relatively short time Iâve been here. ďżźďżźďżźďżźďżź
Deleted Member Posted January 30 Posted January 30 Assertiveness is important, a Dom/Domme should know how to be direct. Passive approaches or sending a simple greeting without any follow up tells me your not really a dominant personality.
Msfergz Posted January 31 Posted January 31 What a wonderful debate to have...there are so many types, labels, wants it's probably very hard to define and each to own. Some may like the more direct/*** approach... Some may not. I explicitly ask on my profile not to be approached in certain ways but it's very rarely acknowledged . However that helps me weed out easily those who aren't compatible with me.
fl**** Posted January 31 Posted January 31 I want my domestic to take me in the deep waters whatever the hearts craving
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