Beach sex comes up time and again in a hundred films, and it's the subject of all manner of romantic scenes in books and other media. It's supposed to be the ultimate in sexy: hot, sweaty, romantic and picturesque. The trouble is that sand gets everywhere, beaches are generally public spaces and there are some parts of your body on which you really don't want sunburn! There are two main options: either frequent a beach that explicitly allows sex to take place, or wait till nightfall and find somewhere nice and secluded to hide out. Dealing with the sand afterwards is your own problem to figure out, of course...
So there are two main issues with sex in the water. One is that it tends to wash away a lot of the essential lubrication, meaning that things can get a little paradoxically dry down there - and the other is that water's natural buoyancy means it can be a bit more difficult than you might imagine getting everything in place. The trick is to bring some water-based lube in with you, anchor yourself on the side of the pool and keep experimenting till you find something that works for you and your partner! This is an experience well worth having, though it might take a little while to get it right.
Most people love a bit of outdoor fucking from time to time, but for some, it's a huge deal and a common feature in their fantasies. If this sounds like you, it's a good idea to pick your locations to have sex in the open wisely; quiet beaches and deserted woodlands are fantastic, but a family resort is probably not a particularly good idea!
Make sure you're not in the line of any CCTV cameras, and you aren't about to fall into a patch of stinging nettles. Other than that, just so long as you're careful to attain the consent of any bystanders and you're not breaking any local laws, you're ready to go - and the experience can be a beautifully liberating one.
Swimming costumes are often sexy as hell, and days by the pool bathing in the sunshine and enjoying a few fruity cocktails can be an erotic experience for many. If you can get around some of the more obvious problems (lack of lubrication, nothing to brace yourself against, a potential for being caught) swimming pool sex is a fantastic way to bond with a partner and try out something new. If you get the chance to explore, do try it out - there's a lot to be said for getting down and dirty in the cool water on a hot summer day!
Saunas have long had a reputation for being a mainstay of gay sex clubs, but in recent years they've been branching out. Pretty much anyone can enjoy a little playing around in a straight or gay sauna; there's something liberating about the steamy gloom of them, and it's a fantastic spot for exhibitionists and voyeurs alike. Just make sure you've picked the right sauna (your local sex club is one thing; your local swimming pool quite another!) and that you have the consent of all parties involved, including those who are simply bystanders. Make sure you take a few basic safety precautions before having sex in a sauna, too - don't get up to anything too acrobatic, and stay well away from the brazier full of hot coals!
Most people spend a huge amount of their time at work, so it's only natural that the friendships forged there should sometimes turn into a little more. Sex in the workplace has an undeniable frisson to it, born largely of the fact that it's forbidden. Just make sure you keep your wits about you - it's not going to be worth losing your job over, and as always consent of all involved should be very much your primary concern. A safe option might be to indulge in a little roleplay with your partner at home; Boss/secretary is a common choice, and contains a delicious power dynamic that many people enjoy!
The truth is that elevator sex is a lot more fun in fantasy than in reality. While there's something wonderful about the idea of quick, furious sex - perhaps with someone you've never seen before and won't ever see again - there are a few issues with the notion; for one thing, you've got such a limited amount of time and the situation is so unpredictable that you never know when you might be disturbed! You should also bear in mind that there are probably cameras in there, and that many buildings will have serious regulations prohibiting indecent exposure.
Most teenagers have necked in the back of a cinema at some point or other--but as adults, some people take the idea a little further! For established couples figuring out how to make a subtle fumble in the dark work without getting caught can add a frisson of excitement - but what about those of us who don't already have a particular partner in mind?
It's not a good idea to start trying to mount strangers while they're trying to watch a film, but the new wave of "old-fashioned" blue cinemas often have people on the lookout for partners as well as porn. Just make sure you negotiate clearly before you begin!
Cottaging and the glory hole are stalwarts of gay male culture in many parts of the world, not least because they add a wonderful sense of anonymity to proceedings. Plenty of people get down to it in public toilets - sometimes they're your only option, but cottaging is a subculture. If you're interested in finding gay cottaging locations near you, it's never been easier to look them up; a little judicious searching online should tell you everything you need to know! Just make sure you wrap it up and don't cross anyone's boundaries while you're there.
Locker room sex may be the subject of a thousand gay porno's, but it does happen in reality - especially if you're at a gay sauna or discreetly at public gyms. There's something erotic about the idea of a bunch of guys getting naked and steamy together and becoming utterly distracted by each other's glistening bodies. The reality is that those moments do happen spontaneously, but it depends on the place in question. That doesn't mean it isn't hot to imagine though, particularly when you're getting changed and you find a guy particularly attractive. Although, it should always be consensual of course!
Adults often sexualise the things that were important to their developing sexuality when they were teenagers. This means a lot of grownups are turned on by schoolgirl or cheerleader outfits, but it also means - particularly in America, where driving from a young age is commonplace - that just as many are warmed up by the idea of revisiting car sex! Once it was your only option, but now it's a luxury and a bit of a naughty pursuit - so get your nostalgia on and enjoy the ride. Just beware, having sex in the car is probably a little more cramped and uncomfortable than you remember now that you're so much older and wiser!
Dogging is a fine old tradition, upheld by generations of people who fancy a bit of anonymous sex of an evening. It's the straight couples' answer to the gay couples' cottaging, but people of all sexualities and gender identities can enjoy a spot of car park sex if they know where to look. The anonymity is a huge part of the appeal: it's considered declasse in most dogging hotspots to ask for names or phone numbers!
If you're interested in trying this out, have a look online for good dogging locations near you. Just make sure you experiment safely: don't get into anyone's car, take a mobile phone with you and try to tell someone you trust where you're going to be.
Once upon a time, nobody had a personal computer and many didn't have any kind of video player or cable television connection, and so was the adult cinema born. They quickly developed a reputation for being dingy and sleazy, and with the advent of the internet they all but died out - until recently.
An adult movie theater of the 21st century is nothing like the dark, awkward venues of decades past. Most are set up to be clean and comfortable, and generally offer a flat entrance fee after which you can move from screen to screen as you see fit. You'll find a broad range of sexual preferences and gender identities at these places, particularly if you seek out adult theaters that offer couples-only or LGBTQ-specific nights.
There are as many different kinds of sex parties as there are people who throw them, and most of them are much more 'normal' in feel than the uninitiated might imagine.
Whether the kind of sex parties you're after is a swinger's orgy, a night of BDSM experimentation or simply a threesome or group of kinky, poly friends getting naked together, there will be a way for you to arrange it - and we have plenty of tips and advice! If you don't yet know the right people, have a look through our events section to see if there's any 'open-invites' taking place near you soon.
