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Teaching a Dom?
Thanks everyone for responding and all the great advice! I’m very serious about this relationship and don’t want to screw anything up by forcing or pushing to hard to fast.
Previously I was collared and my dom provided structure in and out of the bedroom. I would like to progress into something Read more… similar with my current partner, but I don’t think that he would be willing to do this. Honestly I know that he is quite vanilla and even if he started to be more dom I know that it would be restricted to bedroom only.
I really care about him and see a long term relationship with him. I’m willing to settle for a less adventurous sex life if it means being with him. I just wish I was able to have it all.
Teaching a Dom?
Hi,
I am a sub who was trained by an experienced dom. Unfortunately that partnership did not last. Some time has passed and I have a new partner and have told him that I enjoy BDSM. He is very inexperienced but is open to experimenting and being dom for me. But as mentioned he has no experience. Read more…Our sex life is fulfiling to my basic desires but I’d like more variety, intensity, structure, and discipline. I’m a brat and end up getting away with things that no dom would let slide.
I don’t want to force anything, but is there a way for me to teach him to be more dom? He knows some of my kinks and try’s to fulfil them. But he lacks knowledge on the technicalities of using tools and toys, exploiting my kinks, and basic aftercare.
Help me,
Please and thank you
-BitchyBrat
I am a sub who was trained by an experienced dom. Unfortunately that partnership did not last. Some time has passed and I have a new partner and have told him that I enjoy BDSM. He is very inexperienced but is open to experimenting and being dom for me. But as mentioned he has no experience. Read more…Our sex life is fulfiling to my basic desires but I’d like more variety, intensity, structure, and discipline. I’m a brat and end up getting away with things that no dom would let slide.
I don’t want to force anything, but is there a way for me to teach him to be more dom? He knows some of my kinks and try’s to fulfil them. But he lacks knowledge on the technicalities of using tools and toys, exploiting my kinks, and basic aftercare.
Help me,
Please and thank you
-BitchyBrat
BitchyBrat Thanks everyone for responding and all the great advice! I’m very serious about this relationship and don’t want to screw anything up by forcing or pushing to hard to fast.
Previously I was collared and my dom provided structure in and out of the bedroom. I would like to progress into something Read more… similar with my current partner, but I don’t think that he would be willing to do this. Honestly I know that he is quite vanilla and even if he started to be more dom I know that it would be restricted to bedroom only.
I really care about him and see a long term relationship with him. I’m willing to settle for a less adventurous sex life if it means being with him. I just wish I was able to have it all.
Previously I was collared and my dom provided structure in and out of the bedroom. I would like to progress into something Read more… similar with my current partner, but I don’t think that he would be willing to do this. Honestly I know that he is quite vanilla and even if he started to be more dom I know that it would be restricted to bedroom only.
I really care about him and see a long term relationship with him. I’m willing to settle for a less adventurous sex life if it means being with him. I just wish I was able to have it all.
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· 03.01.2018 19:25:17
Deleted profile @BitchyBrat I can sympathise with how you feel about what you require because this life is very much a statement of sexuality. I my self knew there was always something missing and this has caused the failure of several relationships then one sexual encounter changed everything brought into focus Read more… some of what I need I'm my life and in that context my relationships. Carnelian2 vocalised it perfectly in that some are born the way they are and it's about finding an experience that brings everything into focus . Self discovery then bloomed with a overtone of guilt and shame but it also gave me the impetus to change and find who I was . I think what I'm saying is so much can be tought but the real key is how you are wired . Kink is kink but a true Dominant is born that way . The dangerous thing to bare in mind is someone leaning without the ingrained wiring can so easily become domineering and the difference is huge . So I agree with what's been said don't force him to become something he is not and also in that you need to look at yourself and think what do I really need and is this relationship really for you .
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03.01.2018 12:37:54
BigPolly Carnelian2 has smed this up perfectly. Although everyone is kinky to some extent, some are confident enough to express & sadly others never will be but BDSM I believe is in the soul. You grow up knowing it is there & a desire to explore & experience in order to feel complete. To ask someone to Dom Read more… you who has no knowledge or does not yearn for this lifestyle the way you do will never bring to the surface what you desire. He is willing to experiment which is good but make sure he is not just doing this to please you.
My advice would be (as it is to everyone) to go to a fetish club together one night. This will either wet his tastebuds or scare the living shit out of him but at least then, if he does enjoy it he will gain the knowledge that you both seek.
There’s nothing stopping him being kinky but don’t push him into something he isn’t comfortable with in the bedroom as you could end up knocking his sexual confidence.
If you want him to use toys on you properly then make him sit there watching whilst you use them on yourself so he can see what gets you going.
Good luck xx
My advice would be (as it is to everyone) to go to a fetish club together one night. This will either wet his tastebuds or scare the living shit out of him but at least then, if he does enjoy it he will gain the knowledge that you both seek.
There’s nothing stopping him being kinky but don’t push him into something he isn’t comfortable with in the bedroom as you could end up knocking his sexual confidence.
If you want him to use toys on you properly then make him sit there watching whilst you use them on yourself so he can see what gets you going.
Good luck xx
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· 03.01.2018 11:25:17
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