Looking to create some new sensations without using sex toys? Check out six different ways to get your kicks without breaking the bank.

Sex toys and bondage gear are fun. When you find a good store, online or in person, it’s almost a pleasure to spend your money, especially when you know what kind of kinky fun you’re about to have with it. But for those who prefer more of a do-it-yourself approach or anyone on a tight budget, which is a lot of us, there’s no reason you can’t have kinky fun even if you can’t afford or don’t want to buy your toys.

Take a look at all the different sensations you can create through pervertables (turning everyday items into kinky sex objects) or your own body.

 

6 Different Sensations You Can Create without Sex Toys

 

 

1. Stinging


Some of us love pain in all its forms, others of us have a preference. I’m a “thud” girl myself, but plenty of people love the sting from a good smack or a quick kiss from the tip of a flogger. Of course, if you ask a sadist, they probably love all forms of pain. But when you want to create a stinging sensation and no toys are handy, almost anything will do.

 

 


  • A quick smack of your hand - that one is probably obvious

  • A snapped towel - think back to locker rooms during your school days

  • Anything thin - a small wooden spoon, a plastic or metal spatula

  • Your belt Rubber bands - as a masochist who prefers thuds, this one is just mean!


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2. Thudding


The thud is a sensation that’s part pain and part massage. For those of us on the receiving end, it’s one of the sensations that goes deep into our center. Sometimes they leave bruises, but not always. My mouth (and other parts) waters thinking about it. No heavy paddles around? No worries, you can still have the feeling.

Punching as impact play - Target big muscles (ass, thighs, calves, the side of the spine) and use the flat part of your fist, between your knuckles. Take your time, go slowly, and stay away from the side of the torso or too close to the spine.
Heavy brushes, books, blocks - if it’s large or thick and has a flat surface, it can create a thuddy feeling. I have been smacked in the ass with a paperback before. Whatever it takes to get the job done.

 

 

3. Burning


Burning can have so many meanings. Some people want to play with fire, others with candle wax. Definitely, don’t pick up a random candle to try wax play at home. Please stick to candles made especially for that or do your research before you try to use one at home. If candles are out, how do you get that feeling?

Cold will give you a burning feeling. Ice works if you can apply it to skin before it melts too much. The first sensation is of burning before the feeling of cold sets in. Cold glass - and by cold, I mean, a glass you placed in the freezer for a few minutes or put into something with ice in it. We’ve done this with a glass dildo before, but if you don’t have that, a drinking glass or an empty bottle should work nicely. Insert it somewhere or run it over your partner’s skin. Either way, you’re both in for a nice surprise.

 

 

special-toys-2.jpg4. Squeezing Pressure


For me, there’s a special squeezy feeling that comes with being bound in rope. Maybe you haven’t learned how to work with rope yet or you don’t have any rope handy. That’s okay. That pressure can still be achieved a couple of ways. This sounds silly, but one strong arm wrapped around my chest above my breasts gives me that feeling. Being wrapped in both of my partner’s arms does it too. I may pretend to struggle or I may relax into it, it all depends on my mood. It’s not quite the same feeling as rope but it’s just as intimate.

 

 

5. Choking


Choking isn’t for everyone, and sometimes you don’t know how you feel about it - good or bad - until you’ve experienced it. It’s one of the easier sensations to create, and an easy one to screw up. Wrapping your hand, your belt, or anything else around someone’s throat should always be done with caution. You don’t need anything special for it, and for those who enjoy it, it creates an endorphin rush like you won’t believe.

 

 

6. Fear


If you or your partner get off on fear, you don’t have to plan an elaborate kidnap scene (although I’ve heard those can be fun for the people who’ve experienced them) and you don’t need to buy a large knife. Ask any top or Dominant who’s been doing this a while, and they’ll tell you that with one look or a whisper can scare the hell out of your partner. It’s about getting into your partner’s head, using the thing that makes them nervous against them.

That being said if you want to cause fear in a scene and mindfuck your partner into believing you’re doing something you’re not, I know of a great example, something I’ve been told about but never experienced. A D/s couple decided to scene and the submissive wanted to try knife and blood play but she was terrified. Her Dominant bound her to a table. He had a large assortment of knives next to her. She watched him sharpen them. Just before he was ready to use them on her, he blindfolded her. Instead of using the knives, he applied ice. She was so deep in the mindfuck that she believed the trickle of water (from the melting ice) was blood, and she was excited but also terrified.

 

 

Can you imagine?


He set the entire scene and made it look believable. In her mind, they were trying knife and blood play, even though she was terrified. Her fears were amplified by the sensations he caused, and no skin was broken, and the knives were for show.

It just proves that while the gear and the toys are fun, they aren’t always necessary. When you put your mind to it and think a little creatively, you can come up with all sorts of ways to play and create different sensations without spending any money.

Have your own kinky ideas you want to share? Leave a comment below! We love hearing from you!

Kayla Lords is a freelance writer, sex blogger, and a masochistic babygirl living the 24/7 D/s life. Follow her on her website or on Twitter @Kaylalords.

 

 

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@Alan Thank you for your comment. This unfortunately can happen. Like any extreme action or sports, etc; caution must be taken. That's why we share articles about safety and consent on Fetish. It's safe and healthy to discuss these activities BEFORE doing them and very importantly while SOBER! Our motto is SAFE, SANE AND SOBER. BDSM is about trust not violence (although to many who don't understand it, it may look like that). If it's scary and a turn off then it's not for you and it doesn't have to be. Everyone has their own thing.

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Please, notice how choking is something very dangerous.For some people it ended up in tragedy.

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