Looking to create some new sensations without using sex toys? Fetish.com suggests six different ways to get your kicks without breaking the bank.
 

Sensations without sex toys 1: Stinging

Some of us love pain in all its forms, others of us have a preference. Plenty of people love the sting from a good smack or a quick kiss from the tip of a flogger. Of course, if you ask a sadist, they probably love all forms of pain. But when you want to create a stinging sensation and no toys are handy, almost anything will do. Try these:

  1. A quick smack of your hand - that one is probably obvious.
     
  2. A snapped towel - think back to locker rooms during your school days.
     
  3. Anything thin - a small wooden spoon, a plastic or metal spatula.
     
  4. Your belt Rubber bands - as a masochist who prefers thuds, this one is just mean!
     

Sensations without sex toys 2: Thudding

The thud is a sensation that’s part pain and part massage. For those of us on the receiving end, it’s one of the sensations that go deep into our centre. Sometimes they leave bruises, but not always. No heavy paddles or other sex toys around? No worries, you can still have the feeling.

Try punching as impact play. Target big muscles (ass, thighs, calves, the side of the spine) and use the flat part of your fist, between your knuckles. Take your time, go slowly, and stay away from the side of the torso or too close to the spine. Heavy brushes, books, blocks - if it’s large or thick and has a flat surface, it can create a thuddy feeling.
 

Sensations without sex toys 3: Burning

Burning can have so many meanings. Some people want to play with fire, others with candle wax. Definitely, don’t pick up a random candle to try wax play at home. Please stick to candles made especially for that or do your research before you try to use one at home. But if candles are out, how do you get that feeling without resorting to sex toys?

Cold will give you a burning feeling. Ice works if you can apply it to skin before it melts too much. The first sensation is of burning before the feeling of cold sets in. Cold glass - and by cold, I mean, a glass you placed in the freezer for a few minutes or put into something with ice in it - can also work. We’ve done this with a glass dildo before, but if you don’t have that, a drinking glass or an empty bottle should work nicely. Insert it somewhere or run it over your partner’s skin.
 

Sensations without sex toys 4: Squeezing Pressure

This can be achieved without ropes. One strong arm wrapped around my chest above my breasts gives me the same feeling. Being wrapped in both of my partner’s arms does it too. I may pretend to struggle, or I may relax into it, it all depends on my mood. It’s not quite the same feeling as rope, but it’s just as intimate.
 

Sensations without sex toys 5: Choking

Choking isn’t for everyone, and sometimes you don’t know how you feel about it - good or bad - until you’ve experienced it. It’s one of the easier sensations to create, and an easy one to screw up. Wrapping your hand, your belt, or anything else around someone’s throat should always be done with caution. You don’t need anything special for it, and for those who enjoy it, it creates an endorphin rush like you won’t believe.
 

Sensations without sex toys 6: Fear

Ask any top or Dominant who’s been doing this a while, and they’ll tell you that with one look or a whisper can scare the hell out of your partner. It’s about getting into your partner’s head, using the thing that makes them nervous against them.

But if you want to cause fear in a scene and mindfuck your partner into believing you’re doing something you’re not, I know of a great example. A submissive wanted to try knife and blood play, but she was terrified. Her Dominant bound her to a table. He had a large assortment of knives next to her. She watched him sharpen them. Just before he was ready to use them on her, he blindfolded her. Instead of using the knives, he applied ice. She was so deep in the mindfuck that she believed the trickle of water (from the melting ice) was blood, and she was excited but also terrified.

The Dom set the entire scene and made it look believable. In the sub's mind, they were trying knife and blood play, even though she was terrified. Her fears were amplified by the sensations he caused, and no skin was broken, and the knives were for show.

It just proves that while the gear and the sex toys are fun, they aren’t always necessary. When you put your mind to it and think a little creatively, you can come up with all sorts of ways to play and create different sensations without spending any money.


Kayla Lords is a freelance writer, sex blogger, and a masochistic babygirl living the 24/7 D/s life. Follow her on her website or on Twitter @Kaylalords.

What hot experiences have you had without the use of sex toys? Leave a comment below or on the Fetish.com forum! We love hearing from you!

 

BDSM Forum. Join the  discussion | Fetish.com

© Flogit Jennarson / Flickr and -J. Nilsson Photo / Flickr

 


YOU MAY ALSO LIKE

2 comments

Your content will need to be approved by a moderator

Guest
You are commenting as a guest. If you have an account, please sign in.
Add a comment...

×   Pasted as rich text.   Restore formatting

  Only 75 emoticons maximum are allowed.

×   Your link has been automatically embedded.   Display as a link instead

×   Your previous content has been restored.   Clear editor

×   You cannot paste images directly. Upload or insert images from URL.



Guest

Posted · Report

@Alan Thank you for your comment. This unfortunately can happen. Like any extreme action or sports, etc; caution must be taken. That's why we share articles about safety and consent on Fetish. It's safe and healthy to discuss these activities BEFORE doing them and very importantly while SOBER! Our motto is SAFE, SANE AND SOBER. BDSM is about trust not violence (although to many who don't understand it, it may look like that). If it's scary and a turn off then it's not for you and it doesn't have to be. Everyone has their own thing.

Share this comment


Link to comment
Share on other sites
Guest

Posted · Report

Please, notice how choking is something very dangerous.For some people it ended up in tragedy.

Share this comment


Link to comment
Share on other sites

BDSM Magazine

Similar discussions