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How to Gape Your Ass: the Hole Truth About Anal Gaping

Ever wondered how to anal gape? Fetish.com’s Victoria Blisse has looked deep into the subject! Here she explores what anal gaping is and gives five steps on how to gape sexily and safely.


Butt stuff can mean a lot of fun and games – there are many anal-focused fetishes and kinks – such as anal masturbation – but the biggest (quite literally) is anal gaping. You may have seen extreme anal gaping in hardcore porn; this popular fetish is wholly about the hole – and how big it can get. Indeed, anal gaping is a form of anal play, so how do you gape safely and sexily? Discover the hole truth...

 

What is anal gaping?

Anal gaping is the use of items to stretch the anal canal. Using a person’s fingers, hands, penis or sex toys, such as anal plugs, dildos, or other stretching toys is how you practise anal gaping. The aim is to have the anal sphincters (outer and inner, yep, we’ve all got two of ‘em!) open up and leave a noticeable gape (wide hole) when the toy or item is removed. This can happen for a period of hours, and leaves a feeling of fullness for the person whose ass is gaping.

 

Why is anal gaping a turn on?

There can be a lot of power play in learning how to anal gape. For the person facilitating the anal gape, there’s the power of seeing their submissive’s butt literally gaping wide open for them. It involves a lot of time and arousal, bringing a closer bond between the top and bottom. Having someone train their ass to take bigger and bigger sex toys for your pleasure is quite the ego boost too.

 

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As the person on the receiving end of the anal gaping, you get to experience all the pleasure from the manipulation of the nerve endings in the anal canal and prostate orgasms if you have one, or orgasms from stimulating the internal parts of the clit.


There is also the psychological thrill of being wide open for someone, for them to use you for their pleasure. And just seeing that anal gape is all kinds of hot on its own!

 

How to gape your asshole: 5 steps

This isn’t something you can learn and achieve quickly. It takes time, effort and patience to learn how to anal gape. However, the journey is certainly a fun one!

 

1. Thoroughly clean your butt

This means using a douche to shoot lukewarm water into your rectum to flush out any waste material hanging around in there. Once you’ve done this, you’re ready to play.

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Wondering how to gape? You can incorporate butt plugs 

 

2. Get turned on

To get to a point where you can anal gape you need to be both turned on and fully relaxed, so before getting to the butt stuff, get some pleasure in first, and this works if you’re solo or with someone else.

 

3. Lube up and get comfy

Any butt fun needs lots of lube, so make sure you use loads of the sticky stuff. and keep applying as you play. Find a comfortable position too, on your back with something under your tailbone, or on your front with your bottom upturned are two suggestions to begin.

 

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4. Start small

There is no way you can get to extreme anal gaping your first time; you need to work up to it. Use fingers first, twirling and swirling them to get all areas stretched. Then you can move on to dildos and butt plugs in varying sizes or other specific anal gaping toys.
 

“Anal gaping is the use of items to stretch the anal canal. Using a person’s fingers, hands, penis or sex toys, such as anal plugs, dildos, or other stretching toys.”


You might not achieve anal gaping the first time and that’s OK! In fact, it may take many attempts. Feel the pleasure in every one as you learn how to gape.

 

5. Enjoy the journey

It could take months to stretch the muscles to achieve anal gape, so enjoy getting the practise in. Remember to circle anal gaping toys/fingers/cocks insid,e as well as thrusting, so that all the muscles get used to being stretched.

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Is anal gaping safe?

If you follow the guidelines on how to anal gape and take your time, anal gaping can be done comfortably, but there are risks to be aware of. 

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Remember to use lots of lube – you don’t want to cause any friction, tears or rips, and take things really slow. Moving too fast could cause *** and permanent damage. If it hurts at all at any point, STOP. There is no rush, so take your time and move up from smaller to bigger anal gaping toys as slowly as you need too.


And remember, this kind of play needs lots of time. It’s not something to incorporate into a quickie session.

 

The Final FET: Anal Gape

Now you know what anal gaping is and how to anal gape safely, you can do it in awe and amazement and create the magnificent anal gape that can mean so much to tops, bottoms, subs and Doms everywhere. Take it slowly and show that booty all the love, lube and care it needs so you can get nasty and enjoy the fruits of your long-term anal gaping labors!  •

 

Victoria Blisse was an erotic author and sex-positive Reverend. She helped shape fetish.com and FET from the very beginning and we're eternally grateful for her passion and creativity. Sadly, she passed away in January 2024. We hope that whenever her articles are read, she'll be honored.


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