Degrader

What is a degrader?

How to use humiliation and degradation in BDSM

What is a degrader?

A degrader (degradation giver) uses humiliation and degradation to embarrass their submissive. This is done in a consensual way, knowing that the degradation receiver finds it sexually arousing. It is not something every submissive will enjoy and needs lots of conversations around levels and boundaries. Degradation givers are usually Dominants in a relationship and get a thrill out of the intense submission from the degradation receiver who does anything to make his or her Dominant happy, even (and especially) if they have to humiliate or embarrass themselves in the process.

How to use humiliation and degradation in BDSM

Humiliation can come in many ways, some degradation givers might like to do it verbally with sexual slurs, insults and belittlement. Many male identifying submissive like to have the size of their penis ridiculed. This can also be part of a cuckold fetish. They may choose to degrade their submissive by urinating or ejaculating on them. Also they may command the degradation receiver to do something embarrassing for them or in front of others. Taking off clothing or flashing for example. They may lead their submissive around on a lead or use them as a footstool.

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What is a degradee?

A degradation receiver (degradee) gets turned on by being humiliated, degraded and/or embarrassed in a sexual or kink context. This is a consensual activity where both parties enjoy this play and have strict rules and boundaries in place. A degradation receiver is more than likely going to be a submissive. Degradation receivers find being treated in such a way, as a person’s property, to be very arousing. They may enjoy being objectified too. Actually used as a piece of furniture for their Dominant to use or just talked about in a way you wouldn’t talk about another human being in everyday conversation. They may enjoy being ignored or ordered around too.

What is a Dominant?

Dominants like to be in control. Unlike BDSM tops or sadists, their need is not particularly to inflict pain but to be domineering and have control over another person. Some Doms/Dommes expect to be obeyed immediately and without questions. Others enjoy being tested, and having to show their dominance over the submissive who’s being bratty. There is no one way to be a Dominant. Dom/Dommes can also be sadists, tops, masters or riggers. Dominant is a huge category of BDSM made up of many very different people who all have one thing in common, their need to be in control. The D in the term BDSM stands for Dominance, therefore Dominants are an instrumental part of BDSM. .embed-container { position: relative; padding-bottom: 56.25%; height: 0; overflow: hidden; max-width: 100%; } .embed-container iframe, .embed-container object, .embed-container embed { position: absolute; top: 0; left: 0; width: 100%; height: 100%; }

What does submissive mean?

A submissive likes to be controlled, relishing someone else taking responsibility away from them. Some are subservient and submit willingly. Others are brattier and put up a fight. There are also submissives who will fight sometimes and be subservient at others. Submission can be confined to the bedroom or only taken out to BDSM and Fetish clubs and dungeons or it can used in all kinds of day to day situations. Some submissives chose to be subservient in all their roles, others take on submission to escape the responsibilities of work and family life. Submissives let someone else take control. They may have a list of rules to abide by set by their Dom/Domme. If rules are broken then there will be punishments too as well as rewards for good behaviour. Some submissives love to be naughty and punished, others want to be good and strive to do their best and be rewarded. Others will want a mix of the two. It isn’t all about humiliation and degradation for a submissive, unlike other bottoms they are more concerned with being subservient and giving over control to another person. .embed-container { position: relative; padding-bottom: 56.25%; height: 0; overflow: hidden; max-width: 100%; } .embed-container iframe, .embed-container object, .embed-container embed { position: absolute; top: 0; left: 0; width: 100%; height: 100%; }