You seem to me a to be Pleasure Dom on that end. It seems you get pleasure from your subs pleasure which still makes you a dominant. You take the lead, though your target and your motivation, is your partner. Their pleasure enhances your pleasure and ultimate power. On the other hand, i haven’t Read more… heard that you are displeased in your sub til, but you still want the power that you get from the Dom role, you just want to get that power from receiving pleasure from someone like yourself, a pleasure Dom that is convened with their sub. Well, you want yourself, or you want someone like me because that’s what I am . Not to define because it gets so encapsulating. But it seems you may be an Alpha Sub, and a pleasure Dom. Although close in dynamic, you cannot be summed up in any one word. There is a home for you and it’s as ambiguous or as poignant as you make it with your communication with you other. You will find many people like yourself and myself in the Switch dynamic. You know how hard you work as a Dom and you want yourself some to do the same for you that you would do for them. But it makes you feel bad because your sub and Dom inner personalities have several overlaps. The greatest things about your issue is that it seems it’s all about pleasure. It does not seem to be about control, or ***, or position. It’s about your pleasure and you should never ever ever feel bad about taking care of the only person who always looks after you…….and that’s….you. You are a switch. I may be wrong but the switch is the dynamic of them all, who stops by every window and checks it out along the way. I hate large menus but I still read about every single dish. I want to try them all and eventually I will…..but depending on how u am feeling today, I’ll just go for the burger. It kind of hits all four food groups in a single bite. I struggle daily. Find the right switch and you’ll see we all feel the same as you, depending on which way you lean. I am a Dom leaner because I n is I am really really good at it. But some are not so you want them to be as good as you and instead of both hung at them, because you are in a sun world you won’t bitch, you just feel bad because you see them struggling to hit your bells and whistles. So my thoughts are …..think about just jumping into switch world. DK t hi straight to the dynamic find DK done who is open to talk about any and everything with an open mind and non position defining and you’ll find a great switch…..switches live to float around. I was friends with everybody back in high s hook. Did I just get ambiguous? If I did it’s because I am a switch but I can and always will be able to make perfect sense of it. Getting off both ways? It does matter how it’s done but the goal is to get off both ways. Don’t feel bad. You know who else does not feel bad about it…..me, and other switches….lol that’s why we are switches. It’s not selfish at all. Its pleasure and pleasure is always good. You just woukd rather have pleasure than discord and you’ll jump on both sides of the fence to get it. Again, not selfish, because most switches are doing the same thing. You just need to find one the you are walking towards instead of one walking next to you. But either way, a switch is more open than anyone so just find one and start talking. Here is one now

Well it does seem to me that right off the bat, you are different kind of doms. There are a few kind of subs but the end point is usually pretty consistent. Doms can be caregivers, masters, pleasure domes, rope riggers and a host of other positions and roles that don’t really land next to kne Read more… another. I suggest finding out what type of domme your gf is and realize that you are different. However in threading about her type if some, read about the corresponding sub than fits that done the best…and try your best to be the best for her. She will love your effort. Then read about the types of domes there are, find one that interests you and try the best to incorporate it it and communicate with her and tell her, as her domme , your expectations and some things she can do to help you establish yourself as a domme for her. Switching is great. You get two types of domes and two subs at the same time in the same place in the safety and comfort of the same people . Keep talking about it and incorporating the kinks that sound fun and also make sure that you both know that you are young and continually growing so embrace the change as it comes. Don’t ever be hesitant to talk

Seems to me he didn’t get his way on a quick route to the bedroom, so he took his new basketball and went home harrumphing. He is fine harrumphing because he dint get first night booty, so now he is doing that Dom pouting thing that some do. I am Dom leaning so I can say that.lol so sometimes Read more… while the bedroom doms are in awkward positions because a growing group of doms only practice in the bedroom. Some are not necessarily living the lifestyle. They just want to put their knee on the side of your head and be an over aggressive lover. Sometimes when you get caught up in that and call yourself a domme , a sub like you wants the whole dynamic and he may just want “face down heiney up.” I may be wrong but it sounds similar to something that happens a lot where you have bedroom doms and lifestyle doms. Sometimes the bedroom domme don’t have the patience or really the care to establish the whole ball of wax. It may be worth exploring that clarification. Oh and as the sun he is half way expecting you to call. But not really…he is just hoping you will before he finishes pouting. Whoever calls in this particular situation will not be the dominant party unless you play it well. Wait for him to call. If he doesn’t….just know that even though the terms look good next to one another, a bedroom Dom and lifestyle doms have pretty significant differences on relationship establishment. May be something to steer around.

One of the fastest and to the points stories that I’ve read in my life has always been good ol’ Penthiuae Forums. The forums are awesome because they’re written by you and I, and the like , and as far as we knkwnrheybarevrruebevsnts. They’re written about real experiences that we can associate Read more… with. They’re also written inside penthouse, which I think has a little something for men and women if you need a quick visual in the middle of the steamy story. One story could be the woman discussing about her quick steamy anonymous encounter with a man crushed into to her from behind on the subway. Right next to it is the story bout the kid in college that was delivering a pizza and his college professor opens the door topless, wearing a shit of Ozzy Osbourne boxer shorts, while standing behind her, was one of her other students who sat behind you. It was wearing her panties, hoping an ice cream scoop, and a turkey baster.. yeah the best thing about is these stories are usually real, lol so just a thought if you have never encountered the forums section in a magazine, such as penthouse. I am sure they probably have them in another magazine, but penthouse with my experience. The greatest thing was that I shared a bathroom with four other people in high school and countless members of people in college. Sometimes things have to be taken care of quickly and the forms never failed when I needed them to come to the table no pun intended. I’d be interested to know if you try them. What do you think. Happy reading forgive my typos. I’m a horrible talk to texter

I started on a series some years back called Fast Friends. It is raw, real, visually and mentally graphic. Torrid…Super turn on. I have run into some other great series along the way where you can find the character that best suits you and almost POv through the story. It’s great to read and go Read more… through with second reader…nice and sunny. DM?

When minds are met, this is the result. Good show.

Well, not many are going to like this. But, you, as the sub , are by multitudes more powerful than you may know. In many ways, more powerful than the dome. Power exchange happens in a D/S relationship because the sub allows themself to pass their power to the Dom. Very few doms have the Read more… constitution or charisma to initiate this with their prowess only , though some do exist. Most of this dynamic is dependent on the sub and their decision to enter into the dynamic. Just know that a Dom cannot be a practicing Dom without a sub. A sub can be a practicing and loyal sub 24 hrs a day, 7 days a week, 365 days a year, all by yourself if you care to. Without you, the dom could very possibly be something that carries on negative effects of regular life like a control freak, someone with an inferiority complex, or even a sexual deviant. You are viewed from the outside in as the more liable off the two, regardless of your own self worth. That’s power, whether you ever realize it or not. But, you need to. Also remember, there is no such thing as 100%. Always be the best you and that’s the you who keeps something for yourself. Remember the Switch.
For the Dom, you must be on your best behavior because you’ve been handed a gift. You’ve been handed a gift by the owner of the gift, and the gift is the owner. Yes that’s power to be gifted that, but you are still dependent on your sub to complete your dynamic. You are the apex of the dynamic. But there is only one way to go when you are at the top. Never take your parter or relationship for granted . This is not about you. It’s not about power, it’s not about control,. It’s about your team, your lover, your confidant. You have to be the best communicator you know. You have to pull everything out of your dub as possible so you best be the best you, that you can be. Other doms are always watching, and so are other subs. Your sun is you best ally, because you r sub is a magnet. Yiur sub is not a tool, a plaything, or a possession. Your sub is an extension of you, there to enhance you, so be the best you and always try and do better, and your only as good as the worst performer on your team.
Remember the switch

It’s the human genome. We do what we see. The real question you may not want to ask yourself but you may end up asking it is “are you ready to let her play solo?” My advice. Keep emotions out of it. Treat it like it’s a bdsm relationship and set your boundaries before you get too deep. It’s not me Read more… to say “do this”. But man what I would do is keep it about the sex. Playing solo is not about sex. It’s about the affair. Snuggles is not about sex, it’s about afterglow and emotions. I’d say no to the snuggles and no to the solo. Dude, fucking two chicks with pussy breath is way better than laying with them and getting that feeling if you are paying more attention to the houseguest. Fuck that. And unless you are 0% jealous type, I’d pass on the solo play, and keep it all in house. It’s what the mob and the Catholics do :) just an opinion from a catholic.

I understands exactly. You said it better than me. I have been attempted to be taken For several rides. I ask for a cam 2cam or a live phone cal to vet on my end . I DK t know exactly what I have done wrong or if I have searched (passively ) in the wrong places. But I have gotten many bad seeds.

Ok, I would suggest at this point on, each time you talk to someone, anyone about being their slave , you follow it to the pint of inception. I guess what I mean is almost control the entire process of choosing her as your mistress generally will ALWAYS END UP WITH THE SAME THING ON HERE FIR THE Read more… PERON WHO ASKS TIU IN THEIR FIRST IR SECKND SENTENCE TO YOU WHETHER IR NOT YOU WANT TO BE THEIR SLAVE. I mean who knows that after two sentences right? I don’t care who you are, you have physical attraction, especially on line. If someone asks you this right of the bat, and you will see it over and over and over until it becomes Truette and cliche, just know for the Bentley are fakes and scammers. Normally as you were to make it to the end of the conversation, you’ll get they PayPal or *** address, and they will tell you to send ***, and more times than none, after a few things here or there and the hook is set, you’ll drop the big bills and their profile will be deleted. Every man online, who has put himself in that position, has been cheated and scammed. Sure you’ll get an hour worth of chatter wher telling you you’ll be her forstiol, she will ride your face , prostate finish you off….burnt all loses it’s unofficial when you send her *** and more times that not HEYHEN LEAVES WITH RHE *** HE GOT FROM TOU. The pictures you took of yourself with a few plugs in your ass, a sign that you are holding up that say I love goddess Nikki or something and another that says I am a sissy faggot who loves ducking big BBC. Gos forbid you show your face because then th black mail cones….or the facial recognize you and shove that shit, or threatens to to your wife, kids, boss and anyone else on rote Facebook or instagram. Do yourself a favor. Tell them former behiimknf you Tate in person only, and no *** exchanges hands until you get to smell her beautiful asshol closing in over your nose at her sunburn or a hotel. As any read mistresss or doninateix. They will never ask you for *** ever until they see you in person. Or it’s an arrangement one beginning online and she speaks with you face to face, ear to ear on live conversation. Some will send prerecorded shot of them talking to you. Who does that? Barack Obama….i mean fakes and impersonators do that. The biggest thing about the slave game is being a sun slave type and immediately believing that you are part of a small group and everyone watches out….no way dide. They want your *** than they plaster your face on the internet with a note and sucking. Cock and dressed in your wife’s parties with a Sandi k drop in you and at least 2590!with if black mail. Sonia are if she offers drjisnsjit dirk the beginning g.fake Iran’s. Here is one thing people don’t know until you are a switch. Subs are the alpha. In reality yes they choose you….burn you have to choose them . You’ll find more times than none. The sub I who is sought after and the son never has any control until it is given to them Yhey can’t take it, that’s against code and the law. So if you can tell they are fake and you’ll learn, play them….get your rocks off on goading them into talking a bit. Just know 7/10 times it’s a dude and you feel stupid specially holding your butthole open on cam. Asking as your fave wasn’t in to….whew. How much if this has happened to…well no dildo and not butthole spreading. Everything else, oh yes and it’s embarrassing as such when all your pictures drop. But, drop only big sick pics. I always got them to stop that shit a long time ago because I have a sizable dick. I’d say ahead fuckfave fat Nigerian man, collecting dicknoics like a faggot…send away.,,,,I’ll probably end up fucking 6-7 of my wife’s friends and work relations out of Theon.turnout around on them .
Thigh j know I just went into rabbit hole. But in reality when you deal with this they already have you in one, with your dick out, telling them shit you don’t even talk about with yourself…..and here come either the ghost or the blackmail….hellecious

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