Masochist

Masochist BDSM Archetype

What is a masochist?

Masochists enjoy having pain inflicted on them. It might not be all kinds of pain, but only specific types. They usually match up with sadists because sadists enjoy inflicting pain.

Masochists tend to be submissive, but can be switches too. Masochists know what it feels to take a punishment do can make effective tops in a scene. Some Dominants have masochistic streaks, enjoying a certain level of pain themselves. Masochism is centred on the pleasure of pain but many masochists enjoy being controlled and dominated too.

Masochists are often bratty, to get the pain they want. The worst torture for a masochist is totally withholding punishment as they crave pain.

In day-to-day life masochists may find non kinky ways to satisfy their desires such as pushing themselves hard during exercise. Masochists often use pain to feel free from the pressures of day to day life.

Which BDSM archetype matches well with a masochist?

Masochists find pleasure in pain, this can be sexual but isn’t always so. They will enjoy certain pain in certain situations, but not all. This will be discussed in advance. Masochists typically match with Dominants, sadists or tops.

How do masochists enjoy pain?

Sadistic torture is fun for masochists. They often enjoy the physical marks that remain after impact and other rough play. Red skin, bruises, rope marks and welts are worn as badges of honour. Masochists often enjoy their marks being prodded or poked. They may even do this to themselves. Pain from marks received in a scene make a masochist feel good, often in a sexual way.

Some masochists enjoy scenes that do not end with marks. They can have pain inflicted on them by restraint, or with electric toys or impact toys that don’t mark easily. They can also enjoy mental torture known as a mind fuck. This is when a sadist uses fear and control to make a masochist feel pain without actually inflicting physical torture at all.

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